need a little advice

[jtval 0]

yea, touchy situation. but depending on the size of the hints he may not get it.

clay isn't the oly guy out there who doesn't get it.
MOST OF US don't get hints after we become "friends."

if A guy isinterested he may drop hints, which most women arent good at getting either, so we get stuck in the "WHAT IF" scenario.


WHAT IF he says no?
WHAT if he says yes?
WHAT IF it gets ugly?
WHAT IF it ruins the friendship....all of those have 1000 possible answers

but heres the one that always gets me to act, because there is only one answer for it

WHAT IF you dont do anything? then NOTHING will happen

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Sometimes you seem so interested in us, we take it for granted.
I'm sitting here with two prime tickets to the U2 concert at Anaheim. I asked someone I really like to go with me, and I received a reply. "Thanks, can you sell me the other ticket and I'll buy both off of you?"

I feel like I will NEVER offer a date again like this. Bob

NO!NO!NO! Not another great guy ruined by some clueless nitwit!!! WTH!
Hearing things like this make me mad.

But then...why ever take the woman for granted who truthfully and openly shows interest?
A man will be in hot pursuit of me then as soon as I am truly smitten
take it/me for granted and pursue someone else.
It makes me so damn CRAZY!! I don't give out my real friendship or love out that easily. Many women are the same way and each time this happens we tend to give it out a little less easily and for obvious good reason. Men should appreciate those open and sweet women. We just don't always have the energy to make every one of you play the game and pursue us!! Sometimes we damn well just want to be caught! Without any bullshit!!

You know Bob, maybe she thought you just would never ask her out. Maybe she is the one who thought you wouldn't be interested in her as more than a friend because she has the self image problem!!! She could have been testing you to see which way you were offering the ticket because she's liked you for so long and didn't dare to hope that you may actually feel the same way back. She may have been scared and stupidly protecting herself from rejection.

Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean.

[GoatBoy 0]

One thing to keep in mind. If you have him thinking you are interested, but are not ready to get into a relationship yet it may backfire on you. A lot of us men are impatient when it comes to these things, if you say one thing but are not willing to act on it eventually we will get frustrated, and that will lead to getting pissed off. Don't tell him you are interested unless you are ready now, because he may be ready now, it's not fair to tell him something like that and expect him to just put everything on hold till you are ready. just my opinion.

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If you like him...........tell him. If he's anything like me "Dropping Hints" won't work. I'm stupid........just say it!

Damn your as dense as me aren't you? I knew there was something I liked about you. Not much but, theres somethings we agree on.

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Don't tell him you are interested unless you are ready now, because he may be ready now, it's not fair to tell him something like that and expect him to just put everything on hold till you are ready. just my opinion.

Very good advice. Us men "want it now" we don't like to wait. Very instant gratification types.

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