Conundrum 1 #1 March 30, 2005 I mean really? What is it about having someone tell you they don't want to be with you anymore, that makes it feel like they've stuck a knife in your chest and carved "fuck you" into your heart? Moving on is easier said than done, especially when you don't even want to in the first place. This has been one of the worst months of my life, I'm glad tomorrow is the last day of it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
josheezammit 0 #2 March 30, 2005 my friend, heartbreak is hard to deal with because of the rejection, the seperation and the downright dirty nature of it, as we talk about this I have not yet mentioned that i am still just recovering from heartbreak of the relationship that ended two years ago. I however have hope, that the girl that will love me, is still out there, that this world has enough good in it, to heal my heart more then to break it and I Know this to be the truth for me and Chelle, for you too. Ahh, what a wonderful world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #3 March 30, 2005 *gives you a great big hug* I think its b/c we need to wanted and loved by someone, and when that person tucks tail and runs we often blame our selves for being good enough or what have you. Some of it is also probly the desire to put your foot swiftly against his sack and laugh at him. but please don't do that b/c I imagine its a pain worse that child birth.I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #4 March 30, 2005 QuoteI mean really? What is it about having someone tell you they don't want to be with you anymore, that makes it feel like they've stuck a knife in your chest and carved "fuck you" into your heart? Moving on is easier said than done, especially when you don't even want to in the first place. This has been one of the worst months of my life, I'm glad tomorrow is the last day of it. I don't know. All I can say is I know how you feel and it sucks. Nothing really seems to make it better, although time makes it hurt less.....---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisL 2 #5 March 30, 2005 It makes you feel like there is something wrong with you even when there isnt. Rejection is very hard on the ego. You are beautiful. I've seen your photo. You will eventually find someone else, probably someone better suited, once your heart is ready to risk being broken again. Thats the paradox of love __ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YahooLV 0 #6 March 30, 2005 Lovers are temporary, Friends are forever!http://www.curtisglennphotography.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RfukfreeflyingW 0 #7 March 30, 2005 Heart break is probably the worst feeling on earth, but unfortunatly a by product of our constent need to not feel alone. Unfortunatly 99% of the time there always is one person that doesnt want to move on, but at some point u do have to step back and look at what the situation would be like if the other person held on unwillingly because there mate wasnt ready to move on. Know that u have ur friends, that will be there for you, and seek ur need for campanionship with them, until you are able to relize u are better off finding someone that wants to be with u, and u will be much happier for it. I'm sorry this month has not been good, but it really is only a short time in the scope of ur life, and soon if u look to all the positives in ur life, you should be able to forget the wrongs that happened to u in this month, and see it as not even a minor bump in the road. ---- -God, you are the perfect amount of dumb... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hungarianchick 0 #8 March 30, 2005 Chelle, Heartbreak hurts and time is the only cure. Right now there isn't much anybody can do or say to ease it. Take comfort in your friends and remember that the big "fuck you" carving on your heart will make you a better, stronger person than you already are! Chin up, go have fun! "I love cooking with wine. Sometimes I even put it in the food." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
plowdirt 0 #9 March 30, 2005 Chelle, My estemate on the broken heart is one day for every month togather, originally it was one week but I have no time for bull shit. so one day it is. Go out and put as manyGOOD TIMES between you and that relationship as possible. and soon enough the day is brighter. lets NOT FORGET, moving on means learning the lesson of the previous relationship and GROWING as a person. Besides your HOTTATA His loss. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #10 March 30, 2005 QuoteThis has been one of the worst months of my life, I'm glad tomorrow is the last day of it. There will be much worse ones. And thankfully many better ones. Just make sure you check this thread in one year, when everything will seem so... remote. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaGimp 0 #11 March 30, 2005 chelle......ive said what i needed to in the PM.....but i truely hope you feel better...in time.......you are beautiful, so off that smile girl "Professor of Pimpology"~~~Bolas Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #12 March 30, 2005 I'm sorry for your heartbreak. Just remember that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #13 March 30, 2005 It sucks. It really really really sucks. I think being on either side of break up really really really sucks...especially if there's any uncertainty. Everything that goes along with a break up just sucks. Plans that you had for future events...even things like going to a concert or going away for a weekend. That all sucks. Hearing "you could do better," SUCKS! I hate it when people say things like that. You don't want to hear someone else talk bad about someone you're in love with. And are they implying that you were stupid for so long because you were with someone that you could've done better than? Breaking up when there are still feelings just sucks. So, sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Let yourself cry and feel upset. There's nothing wrong with that. Try to discover something "new" about yourself.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PrairieDoug 0 #14 March 30, 2005 The previous replies have provided a lot of good insight and support. All I have to add is... that guy definitely needs a check-up from the neck up! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linny 1 #15 March 30, 2005 If this dude needs a good kick to the shins, I got you covered. Keep your head up! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #16 March 30, 2005 it hurts because, instead of just realizing that things didn't work out and it's not your fault and not his fault, in a break-up, we tend to see it as the other person rejecting ourselves, because when we fall in love, we make a deep emotional investment in the other person, which makes it very hard to see things clearly. It didn't work out. That's okay. Not your fault, not his fault. You're just two different people, and it's okay that you're not compatable. It's hard to see sometimes, but that's pretty much always the case. (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) Let me know if you need someone to talk to... trust me, I've been there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #17 March 30, 2005 Quoteinstead of just realizing that things didn't work out and it's not your fault and not his fault, Oh no...many many times, someone is "at fault." From my last relationship, I learned that there were things that I did "wrong." I'm not saying that this is the case, but it is in MANY cases.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kbordson 8 #18 March 30, 2005 Chelle, Sorry for your pain. It sounds like you loved him, and even with the pain of this rejection, the growth that you had while loving him is still worth the sorrow. With each person that you allow deeper to your heart, you grow and learn from - not just about him/her but also about you. Your dreams, desires, percetions of life all change with the new view that person might bring. It might mean that your heart will get broke and the time to heal might feel like forever, but it truly is better to have a scarred mended heart than to have a perfectly smooth unmarred and unfeeling heart. Take this time to cry, to question and to be angry. Yell at the moon, drink a shot or two, but let the sun rise and fall... with time the wounds do heal. {{{hugs}}} Karen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites The111 1 #19 March 30, 2005 To quote a heartbreak specialist: i guess time has a way of making everything alright it's just there is not enough of it and so we drink and we sing and we celebrate this lie and hope that it will last morning is here night has passed i guess fear has a way of making sleep unbearable and the days seem dark and long but we cry and we dance and we stumble into love with perfect, awkward grace the moon is gone and the sun has took its placewww.WingsuitPhotos.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Nightingale 0 #20 March 30, 2005 well, sure, we all learn from our past and our mistakes, and grow and change. I'm not saying that nobody's made any wrong choices in the situation, just that the two people involved are not necessiarily "at fault", more that they're just not compatible. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #21 March 30, 2005 Why is heartbreak so hard to deal with? Because usually feelings cannot be rationalized. We can rationalize a number of bad things that happen to us. But feelings are rational. Heck, for most of my breakups I was half brokenhearted and half relieved. But the relief doesn't balance out the loss. Once we are able to rationalize things, they become easier to handle. Like a 12 step program. But those don't work for heartbreak. All you can do is let it hurt well and good, and learn something about yourself from it. Look in a mirror and see the person in it. Does that bautiful lady in the glass look like you feel? Would you look at that lady in the glass and say, "That guy blew it?" You should look in a mirror, Chelle. Then you should act like all of us when we see you. That is, look at yourself and smile. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mouth 0 #22 March 30, 2005 Because LOVE is a felling and feelings can't be turned on or off like a light switch. You can always say NEVER AGAIN but eventually you may change you rmind about that too simply because it is inherent for most of us as humans to feel the need to be with someone. It is hard when you don't know WHY that person broke up with you but realize at that point that it is their problem and they ar the one that realistically has a problem not necessarily you even though there may be things that you could change too. Many hugs and know that there will be good days and bad day in life. PM me if you need to talk. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Feeblemind 1 #23 March 30, 2005 QuoteIt makes it feel like they've stuck a knife in your chest and carved "fuck you" into your heart? Moving on is easier said than done, especially when you don't even want to in the first place. This has been one of the worst months of my life, I'm glad tomorrow is the last day of it. Just remeber, That the does not kill you makes you stronger. Fire Safety Tip: Don't fry bacon while naked Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites josheezammit 0 #24 March 30, 2005 one more thing Chelle, one day you will be able to look your husband straight in the eyes and say "God bless the broken road, that lead me straight to you." Ahh, what a wonderful world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites aggie04 0 #25 March 30, 2005 I had a post in womens asking what love is to people and someone responded that it was getting a glimpse of heaven. So my response was then that heartbreak must be like a glimpse of hell. So taking that into account, would we appreciate the "heaven" if we had never seen of felt the "hell"? I don't think we would. And josh...that is by far the best song ever and like you said, I cannot wait to look whoever I marry in the eyes and say that to him. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ A life without a cause is a life without an effect Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. 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Vallerina 2 #17 March 30, 2005 Quoteinstead of just realizing that things didn't work out and it's not your fault and not his fault, Oh no...many many times, someone is "at fault." From my last relationship, I learned that there were things that I did "wrong." I'm not saying that this is the case, but it is in MANY cases.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #18 March 30, 2005 Chelle, Sorry for your pain. It sounds like you loved him, and even with the pain of this rejection, the growth that you had while loving him is still worth the sorrow. With each person that you allow deeper to your heart, you grow and learn from - not just about him/her but also about you. Your dreams, desires, percetions of life all change with the new view that person might bring. It might mean that your heart will get broke and the time to heal might feel like forever, but it truly is better to have a scarred mended heart than to have a perfectly smooth unmarred and unfeeling heart. Take this time to cry, to question and to be angry. Yell at the moon, drink a shot or two, but let the sun rise and fall... with time the wounds do heal. {{{hugs}}} Karen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The111 1 #19 March 30, 2005 To quote a heartbreak specialist: i guess time has a way of making everything alright it's just there is not enough of it and so we drink and we sing and we celebrate this lie and hope that it will last morning is here night has passed i guess fear has a way of making sleep unbearable and the days seem dark and long but we cry and we dance and we stumble into love with perfect, awkward grace the moon is gone and the sun has took its placewww.WingsuitPhotos.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #20 March 30, 2005 well, sure, we all learn from our past and our mistakes, and grow and change. I'm not saying that nobody's made any wrong choices in the situation, just that the two people involved are not necessiarily "at fault", more that they're just not compatible. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #21 March 30, 2005 Why is heartbreak so hard to deal with? Because usually feelings cannot be rationalized. We can rationalize a number of bad things that happen to us. But feelings are rational. Heck, for most of my breakups I was half brokenhearted and half relieved. But the relief doesn't balance out the loss. Once we are able to rationalize things, they become easier to handle. Like a 12 step program. But those don't work for heartbreak. All you can do is let it hurt well and good, and learn something about yourself from it. Look in a mirror and see the person in it. Does that bautiful lady in the glass look like you feel? Would you look at that lady in the glass and say, "That guy blew it?" You should look in a mirror, Chelle. Then you should act like all of us when we see you. That is, look at yourself and smile. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #22 March 30, 2005 Because LOVE is a felling and feelings can't be turned on or off like a light switch. You can always say NEVER AGAIN but eventually you may change you rmind about that too simply because it is inherent for most of us as humans to feel the need to be with someone. It is hard when you don't know WHY that person broke up with you but realize at that point that it is their problem and they ar the one that realistically has a problem not necessarily you even though there may be things that you could change too. Many hugs and know that there will be good days and bad day in life. PM me if you need to talk. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Feeblemind 1 #23 March 30, 2005 QuoteIt makes it feel like they've stuck a knife in your chest and carved "fuck you" into your heart? Moving on is easier said than done, especially when you don't even want to in the first place. This has been one of the worst months of my life, I'm glad tomorrow is the last day of it. Just remeber, That the does not kill you makes you stronger. Fire Safety Tip: Don't fry bacon while naked Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
josheezammit 0 #24 March 30, 2005 one more thing Chelle, one day you will be able to look your husband straight in the eyes and say "God bless the broken road, that lead me straight to you." Ahh, what a wonderful world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aggie04 0 #25 March 30, 2005 I had a post in womens asking what love is to people and someone responded that it was getting a glimpse of heaven. So my response was then that heartbreak must be like a glimpse of hell. So taking that into account, would we appreciate the "heaven" if we had never seen of felt the "hell"? I don't think we would. And josh...that is by far the best song ever and like you said, I cannot wait to look whoever I marry in the eyes and say that to him. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ A life without a cause is a life without an effect Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
