IS IT WORTH IT?

[boinky 0]

A situation happens that upsets you. You are willing to suppress your hurt feelings, but then the situation is compounded by what you feel is a falsehood later. All the hurt rises back to the surface. The person has no idea that you know.

It's not a life threatening situation, nor anything that physically could hurt anyone. Just a matter of pride and a bruised ego.

Do you confront the person and tell them that you were hurt by the situation? Or do you just let it go, figuring that a few hurt feelings aren't worth the possibility of losing a friendship?

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[kelel01 1]

In a vague sense, I get what you're saying, but obviously not specifically.

But I think a lot of people on these forums know that I'm confrontational. If I don't say something, it'll eat me up inside for a long time.

If you can let it go easily, do that. But if it'll haunt you and eat you up, you just have to get it out, or the friendship will be ruined over time anyway.

[SkiD_PL8 0]

Agreed, confront it. I always speak my mind, sometimes other people don't like what I have to say but more often than not they respect me for being open about things.

Greenie in training.

[huka551 0]

I would let it go, but I'm the type who doesn't hold on to anger for more then a day. If something happens it will eat at me all day (really sucks when it happens in the morning) but by the next day, "water off a ducks back", Why stay angry? In the long run you will probebly come to realize (not knowing the specific situation) that it was trivial and silly, you get over it move on, and let it go. JMHO

Muff Brother 3723

[slug 1]

Hi

IMO you don't need "friends" like that. So confront them and if/when it happens again. You told then so, say good-by.

[boinky 0]

Your opinion is sort of the direction I am leaning. I have been described as having a bouncy/pouncy personality and don't normally let things upset me for very long. I might stay upset for a day. Then I'm bouncing off the walls again like nothing bad ever happened.

Since I don't hold grudges, I'm starting to think it's not worth even bringing up. THEY might hold a grudge and might not see my point of view at all.

There's a proverb that starts, "Pride goeth before a fall...."

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[huka551 0]

I have never been able to hold a grudge, I would stay mad at someone, then a while would pass and I would remember that I was mad but not the reason why! If I did remember why, it made me feel foolish for staying mad over something so stupid

Muff Brother 3723

[missg8tordivr 0]

Confrontation for me really depends on the situation at hand. If I get to the point of wanting to confront someone it usually means that I am pretty pissed off and have been holding stuff in. However, I think that it is best to talk to that person after I have calmed down, and approach it as an adult.

Most of the time, I have found it is best to drop it, and move on with my life. If they are a true friend, they are going to listen to what you have to say. If not...it is usually not worth it.

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[swedishcelt 0]

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I would let it go, but I'm the type who doesn't hold on to anger for more then a day. If something happens it will eat at me all day (really sucks when it happens in the morning) but by the next day, "water off a ducks back", Why stay angry? In the long run you will probebly come to realize (not knowing the specific situation) that it was trivial and silly, you get over it move on, and let it go. JMHO

I always let it go but keep it in mind as telling me more about the real person inside the falsehood. I guess it would make me more cautious in dealing with them.

[masterrig 1]

I'd rather talk with whoever is involved and get it straightened-out. If, they are a 'real' friend, they'll get the idea. If, they aren't receptive' to any form of clearing the air... the hell with 'em. They weren't a real friend after all. They'll probably do it again.


Chuck