Found out this weekend that one of my ex's died

[Conundrum 1]

Known the guy since I was 15. Played Hockey with him for a couple years, dated him when I was younger and stayed in contact for some time after that. Saw eachother around town here and there and talked on the phone to say what's up/catch up every great while.

Friend of mine told me that he just found out that he died about 2 years (or so) ago. Apparently drugs got the best of him ( stupid way to go, goddammit). I haven't had contact with him in about 3 years I'd say, last I talked to him was after I'd seen his dad at the weekend biker hangout and gave him my new cell number to give to his son.

At any rate, I'm debating whether to go to his parents home (who I'd had a good relationship with, even after not dating their son) and give my condolences... or since it's been about 2 years since he died, just to let it go. They live just down the street from me (unless they've moved, which is quite possible).

Rest In Peace, Bryan Miller

[Lindsey 0]

That's a damn shame. I'd go see his parents. They'd probably appreciate the visit. I'm sure that 2 years is nothing when it's your child who has died, and given that y'all were friends for so long it seems appropriate.

linz

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[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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That's a damn shame. I'd go see his parents. They'd probably appreciate the visit. I'm sure that 2 years is nothing when it's your child who has died, and given that y'all were friends for so long it seems appropriate.

linz

I too would not be surprised if his parents appreciated friends of his coming to call. Lindsey is right, after the death of a loved one, two years is like two weeks. I know it does not seem like four years since Mom died, but it will be, in two days.

From what I understand, parents who have lost children do like to hear from people who remember them. It helps the parents to keep the child "alive." You would probably be doing them a kindness to go and remember Bryan with them.

Sorry to hear of your friend's death. Find peace.

-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[YahooLV 0]

condolences to you. Wish your year was a better one.
(My thoughts, if they're nearby, stop in and say HI, and go from there.)

Best.
C

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[Slappie 9]

Not that this is the same but it is kind of.

I had a friend who owned a stereo shop. I used to hang out there when I was younger. His shop had done all my instals for me. Last I saw him was back when I bought the truck I'm in. They installed my system etc.. I used to carry in a 12pak of beer everytime I went. We'd drink beer and bullshit about old times, swap meets, car shows.. etc..

After I got the instal I didn't go back for about a year. Came walking in with my 12pak. Looked around saw his wife and son behind the counter. Walked up with my smile and put the 12pak in the fridge. Asked where John was.. come to find out he died Dec 24th just after I had my truck done and my last visit.

Took me by surprise. His wife gave me a hug and said he's probably looking down now smiling because you brought beer. It was an awesome touch had been about a year since he passed and she was really touched I remembered to always bring beer.

Anyways.. contacting his parents might be good it might be a bad thing. No reason to dig up old memories or they could use it. I dunno what to say bout that one Chelle.

"Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them."

[skydiverbc 0]

i would agree, i am sure that they would appreciate a visit

[alanab 0]

i feel your pain girl... my kind of ex from my junior year of high school was murdered when i was a freshman in college
it's sad to find things like this out.

[brits17 0]

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From what I understand, parents who have lost children do like to hear from people who remember them. It helps the parents to keep the child "alive." You would probably be doing them a kindness to go and remember Bryan with them.

This is true, I'm sure they'd love to hear from you. I'm sorry to hear about your friend

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I'd go see them. Tell them some funny ass stories about him because I'd guess they haven't heard em all yet. Especially since they live just down the street, it'd be nice when you see them next to spend some time with them, and not have an abbreviated conversation in a grocery store or something.

You can have it good, fast, or cheap: pick two.

[freeflir29 0]

Why can't my ex-wife die already? I hope I live to see that day.

[BBKid 0]

Agh, I'm sorry to hear that Chelle. Obviously I don't know you, but I reckon you should go and see his parents, and I think you'll be able to gauge their reaction to seeing you. If it's obviously uncomfortable you'll be able to just say hi etc. and then be on your way.

More likely they'll be bolting the door with you inside wanting to spend more time with someone who clearly at one stage meant a lot to their son.

You'll do the right thing.

Nick
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[TheAnvil 0]

His folks would probably appreciate the visit.

Vinny the Anvil
Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
JACKASS POWER!!!!!!

[dgm458 0]

My sister died when she was sixteen years old....it will be five years ago next month. To this day, her friends stop by my parents to visit. Even some of their parents stop my parents to visit. My parents appreciate every single visit and realize that it's not only to help them cope with what happened, but it's also to help her friends cope with what happened.

Go ahead and visit. The only recommendation I would make is to maybe call and arrange the visit rather than just a pop-in. Call and say, "Hey. I just found out about....would you mind if I came by for a few minutes?"

david

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