NickDG 23 #26 April 29, 2005 I always giggle when I see someone list what they want in a man or woman. It's not like buying a car . . . Love grows and tall, short, dark, blonde, hobbies, etc., means nothing. It's the reason matchmaking services fail and why the old practice of arranged marriages did. Go rent the Oscar winning best picture from 1955, "Marty" as it says it better than I can. NickD BASE 194 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisL 2 #27 April 29, 2005 Self confidence Emotional security__ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #28 April 29, 2005 QuoteI always giggle when I see someone list what they want in a man or woman. It's not like buying a car . . . Love grows and tall, short, dark, blonde, hobbies, etc., means nothing. It's the reason matchmaking services fail and why the old practice of arranged marriages did. Go rent the Oscar winning best picture from 1955, "Marty" as it says it better than I can. NickD BASE 194 What's actually even funnier is to save the list, then pull it out later when you've found that special someone, and realize that there are very few matches... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #29 April 29, 2005 QuoteMy heart stopped and the list didn't matter. Someone who says that about me. And someone I will say that about. Sound pretty simple to me. Well said, Dave!"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nanook 1 #30 April 29, 2005 Happy confidence. That's all._____________________________ "The trouble with quotes on the internet is that you can never know if they are genuine" - Abraham Lincoln Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #31 April 29, 2005 I know she'll be attractive, intelligent, funny, kind, honest, loving, and silly. I look forward to finding out what her other traits are. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #32 April 29, 2005 A positive attitude towards life and all things in it. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyyhi 0 #33 April 29, 2005 Just found it recently. . .someone who loves me as much as I love them. . .and loves the fact that I jump out of those freaking airplanes. . .lol.________________________________________ Take risks not to escape life… but to prevent life from escaping. ~ A bumper sticker at the DZ FGF #6 Darcy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #34 April 29, 2005 QuoteJust found it recently. . .someone who loves me as much as I love them. . . Them? Group sex "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #35 April 29, 2005 I like short bald guys. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #36 April 29, 2005 QuoteI know she'll be attractive, intelligent, funny, kind, honest, loving, and silly. I look forward to finding out what her other traits are. Blues, Dave That's a good answer! But I guess those are sort of default things we hope for in someone. I definitely am with you about being open to what her other traits are. You have to be willing to have a bit of elasticity in your acceptance of others how they come. -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #37 April 29, 2005 QuoteQuoteI know she'll be attractive, intelligent, funny, kind, honest, loving, and silly. I look forward to finding out what her other traits are. That's a good answer! But I guess those are sort of default things we hope for in someone. For me it's more than hope. Even if I get involved with someone, a later discovery that one of these traits is missing will likely mean the end of the relationship. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #38 April 29, 2005 I do prefer no hair to really long hair.Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #39 April 29, 2005 QuoteI do prefer no hair to really long hair. Rats! I guess I'll have to shave my mane then. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #40 April 29, 2005 QuoteQuoteI do prefer no hair to really long hair. Rats! I guess I'll have to shave my mane then.Wait a second, I thought we were talking about men's heads, not groins. Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #41 April 29, 2005 no lists ... Just someone who I think I may be able to call "my bride," not "my wife," the rest of my life. Whether it turns out that way or not depends on us. You can have it good, fast, or cheap: pick two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #42 April 29, 2005 Quoteno lists ... Just someone who I think I may be able to call "my bride," not "my wife," the rest of my life. Whether it turns out that way or not depends on us.That's beautiful. How sweet! I never want to be called a 'wife' by someone. (Excuse me, I need a moment...*sniff, sniff.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #43 April 29, 2005 QuoteQuoteno lists ... Just someone who I think I may be able to call "my bride," not "my wife," the rest of my life. Whether it turns out that way or not depends on us.That's beautiful. How sweet! I never want to be called a 'wife' by someone. (Excuse me, I need a moment...*sniff, sniff.) Much as I'd like to claim it, it's not even my line, but my goal. An E-7 in a real hard place (lost business to govt & lawyers, was working Army Reserve man-days to get food on the table, living in the basement of the reserve unit) called his "wife" his bride, and I knew he'd be okay, the current distress was just a little bump in the road of life. You can have it good, fast, or cheap: pick two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #44 April 30, 2005 Quoteno lists ... Just someone who I think I may be able to call "my bride," not "my wife," the rest of my life. Whether it turns out that way or not depends on us. I'm not clear in my understanding of what you mean by the distinction between "my bride" and "my wife." Is a bride held in more esteem and love than a wife? I always thought that "bride" was simply semantically intended to mean a wife who is brand new, or, the woman who comes to marry the man at a wedding ceremony. Maybe my definition needs tweaking. I remember a good article I read in like Cosmopolitan or something years ago -- hadda be in like my college years or so. It was a list of things that you should have, as a guy. Some were silly thngs like "underwear that doesn't have holes in it" but one that struck me as kinda cool was, "Have a way to describe the woman in your life that does not make use of the word 'my.' " Causes you to think. Instead of introducing her at a party as, "This is my girlfriend, Kim," it could be something like, "This wonderful woman I'm here with is a talented artist and skydiver. I'm in love with her, and her name is Kim." -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #45 April 30, 2005 Quote" it could be something like, "This wonderful woman I'm here with is a talented artist and skydiver. I'm in love with her, and her name is Kim" That works only when you first show up at the party. Few cocktails later, it's much easier to introduce her as "Kim". Or "my friend" if you can't remember her name. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #46 April 30, 2005 QuoteQuote" it could be something like, "This wonderful woman I'm here with is a talented artist and skydiver. I'm in love with her, and her name is Kim" That works only when you first show up at the party. Few cocktails later, it's much easier to introduce her as "Kim". Or "my friend" if you can't remember her name. I try not to get that drunk, especially if she means enough to me that I want to be able to look out for her, and drive her home in one piece. Maybe that's why women keep thinking of me as big brother instead of lover... -Jeffrey-Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crewkeith 0 #47 April 30, 2005 you .The skies are no longer safe I'm back Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #48 April 30, 2005 QuoteQuoteQuote" it could be something like, "This wonderful woman I'm here with is a talented artist and skydiver. I'm in love with her, and her name is Kim" That works only when you first show up at the party. Few cocktails later, it's much easier to introduce her as "Kim". Or "my friend" if you can't remember her name. I try not to get that drunk, especially if she means enough to me that I want to be able to look out for her, and drive her home in one piece. Maybe that's why women keep thinking of me as big brother instead of lover... -JeffreyI'm sure that's it.Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #49 April 30, 2005 QuoteQuoteno lists ... Just someone who I think I may be able to call "my bride," not "my wife," the rest of my life. Whether it turns out that way or not depends on us. I'm not clear in my understanding of what you mean by the distinction between "my bride" and "my wife." Is a bride held in more esteem and love I'm not enough of a poet to put words around the meaning. (yet yes, I'll try for you PJ) Not just esteem and/or love, but all hopes for the couple's future together. You and I have both seen beautiful brides. What makes them so beautiful? The proper husband keeps that beauty close to his heart all the days of his life, no matter the tough times that will play themselves out. And if his wife knows that is how he thinks of her, she should find comfort and confidence in that all the days of her life. To answer your question ... why is that bride beautiful that we all find so beautiful? Put words on that and you have your answer. You can have it good, fast, or cheap: pick two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #50 April 30, 2005 Quote I try not to get that drunk, especially if she means enough to me that I want to be able to look out for her, and drive her home in one piece. Maybe that's why women keep thinking of me as big brother instead of lover... -Jeffrey PJ - My $.02: Just be yourself. If you are nice, well then be nice. Don't change for her, and then find someone whom you are not also trying to change. Just to see if it actually does work, I did the following. There are many girls out there who are attracted to you if you treat them badly. Yes, often they are hotties. So I found that I could treat a girl badly (yeah, like crap), and she (a couple of them) not only liked me, but liked me even more. After a while of that, I decided it wasn't the thing for me. If I have to treat girl badly to keep her, she's not for me. Its that simple. And I always liked this saying - If you're not going to be yourself, well then who is??? You can have it good, fast, or cheap: pick two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
