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[antifnsocial 0]

Single people in here-

What is it you're looking for in your next SO??
(And don't say heartbeat.)

Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean.

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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Single people in here-

What is it you're looking for in your next SO??
(And don't say heartbeat.)

Heartb... oh.


Um, I dunno... It's not like I have special qualities in mind that I don't sorta expect everyone to have, you know?

I want someone who is easygoing, most of all.

I haven't spent all this time learning to be more relaxed, myself, only to get a girlfriend who is all touchy and prickly and easily displeased. I want someone who can take what life offers and make fun with it, and not sweat the small stuff.

I am not particular about size, shape, hair length/color/type, ethnicity, background... Of course, I want someone attractive physically, but I have found that as I have gotten older, I no longer put so much emphasis on what a girl looks like. Don't need a "hottie." A body that's "lived-in" is perfect. It surprises me to realize this, but it's true, and I'm glad I've changed in this way. I can accept people and their imperfections a LOT more than I ever used to be able to. Does that sound weird? I guess I mean that I can love a person not just in spite of her not being perfect, but because of it.

About the only real physical criterion I have is that she has to have feet that I find attractive, because that's just my fetish. That's it. And even those span a wide range of attributes.
Apart from that, I'd like to find someone who is very sexual, and uninhibited -- who enjoys all the variety that two people can discover sexually between them. But not someone who throws it all over the place either. I'm thinking of someone who loves to share intense sexual intimacy and adventuresomeness (oh, and frequency), but not necessarily a "nympho" or something. Someone who wants to discover the amazing, mystical, spiritual connection that can be made between two lovers.

Intelligence, courage, humor, compassion, kindness, generosity, a bit of ferocity. I want someone whose endowment of those qualities comes close to my own, so I can relate to her as well as love her for them.

And it wouldn't hurt if she loves to skydive, fly, shoot, play frisbee golf, skate, kayak, read, cook/eat, watch movies, exchange massages, and kisses really well.

Here's to all of us finding what we want.
edit: Led Zeppelin, Rush, and Pink Floyd fans get extra points.

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[cocheese 0]

Just plain equal love.
A two-way street.
loyalty

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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Just plain equal love.
A two-way street.
loyalty

How come I can never write the short, terse, succinct answers that make more universal sense?!

-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[metalslug 36]

Sooo difficult to answer that really. Humans are such complex people.
I do think its true that "water seeks it's own level."
Attractive people will seek out attractive partners. Highly intelligent people will seek out highly intelligent partners, people that only have personality will seek out people that only have personality
(well, okay, maybe the guys wont).

The final factor I think is balance.
The balance between "who can I afford?" and "how soon / how badly do I want a partner anyway?"
Some people will wait years to find Mr/Miss Perfect and some will settle much sooner for Mr/Miss Adequate.

Me? I'll admit to being a bit shallow, a good physique pretty much does it for me. Great personality is very often included in that package anyway. I have found that people that look good almost always have a 'positiveness' and self-confidence in their whole attitude to life, and that makes them fun to be with.
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No 'mericans were harmed during the making of this post.

[cocheese 0]

Life's too short to beat around the bush. Dive into it.
Also you could start spelling your name with just ONE "F".
Because 2 is a efin waste.
jef

[AggieDave 6]

What ever your list becomes, whatever people try to tell you they're looking for, I don't believe it.

I had a list, until I met Morgan. My heart stopped and the list didn't matter.

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[popsjumper 2]

...after my divorce?

One female that will take $20 for 15 minutes of no-nagging silence.

My reality and yours are quite different.
I think we're all Bozos on this bus.
Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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Also you could start spelling your name with just ONE "F".
Because 2 is a efin waste.

jef

LOL!
Actually, I was thinking of changing it to "Jeffree"
-Jeffr...well, you know.

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[cocheese 0]

Hey how about J-Free
and change your last name to Fall
but that would be 2 E's and 2 L's, J-Free Fall
J-fre Fal (= "jef" for short)

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

...backs away slowly, averting eye contact.


I'll just, uh, stick with what my folks stuck me with.

-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[bbarnhouse 0]

My sig line says it all.edit to say: Oh and he has to like my ill mannered, naughty dog

[cocheese 0]

Sorry about the high jack Ella.
Hey can i start "The Ella Thread" yet ? so we can all
tell you how much we love you n stuff ?
Oh heck we can do it here if ya like.
Love ya Ella !

[swedishcelt 0]

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My sig line says it all.
"Honor~A code of integrity, dignity, and pride.
Truth~Sincerity; integrity.
Loyalty~ commitment,allegiance,dedication.
Check Mate"

Indeed, it does!!
Wish there were some men out
there that had all of that!!
(And were fun and funny too!)

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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Wish there were some men out
there that had all of that!!
(And were fun and funny too!)

I think there are plenty, and that many times women don't know how to see it.

Sure, there are assholes out there. But there are plenty of good men who get passed right by because women are looking for the good-looking, flashy, wealthy ones, and they willfully lose sight of what matters. Then they get hurt by an egotistical, self-absorbed great-looking guy who hurts them largely because he is so great-looking and has women beating down his door leading him to screw around and make the women hate him...

I dunno. I really don't have the answers. If I did, I guess I'd be in a love relationship right this moment.

But it does seem to me that women look right through a lot of good-at-heart guys and zoom straight for the love-'em-and-leave-'em heartbreakers just because the heartbreakers are so physically good-looking, or they have the right 'tude and tats and piercings or some shallow shit like that.


-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[swedishcelt 0]

I don't fit that stereotype at all.
That is a gross bias about women
and definitely doesn't fit me at all.

People shouldn't worry about what they are
looking for, they should concentrate on
seeking fun and joy and let love come
as it may.

[peacefuljeffrey 0]

Beth, I didn't mean to level that accusation at you. I'm sorry if it came across that way -- my negligence.

That post was more about generalities that I've been seeing lately. I think everyone's seen that go on at least some.

One thing is certain; womanizing jerks will continue to get women. About the only reason I can figure it happens is that some women, at least, care more about the looks than the person underneath, so they get only that.

-Jeffrey

-Jeffrey
"With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!"

[PrairieDoug 0]

peacefuljeffrey -- when you find the woman described in your first post on this thread, please find out if she has a twin sister...

Doug

[Conundrum 1]

I have everything I want.

[kelel01 1]

A big penis . . . and butterflies. I haven't had butterflies in a long time now. Someone told me that as you get older that feeling goes away, but I'm fighting against it with everything I have. If my ability to have butterflies goes away, I'm gonna have to settle, and then I'll be miserable forever.

[Darius11 12]

i don't have a list.


as long as there cool we cool you know.

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[skycat 0]

This is one of those questions that can't truely be answered. It's one of those you don't know what you don't know. You may think you want XYZ because you have had that in the past and you liked it, but after searching out XYZ you meet ABC and discover that ABC was what you really wanted you just didn't know it.

Fly it like you stole it!

[eeneR 3]

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butterflies

Unfortunaly now, it is a trained reaction for me that following those feelings, butterflies etc..usually is heartbreak

I am beginning to fear them...any feelings at all really

Edited to answer question....

Someone who isnt afraid of fear, and willing to take risks...of the heart kind.

She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway."
eeneR
TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto

[TypicalFish 0]

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A big penis . . . and butterflies. I haven't had butterflies in a long time now. Someone told me that as you get older that feeling goes away, but I'm fighting against it with everything I have. If my ability to have butterflies goes away, I'm gonna have to settle, and then I'll be miserable forever.

Don't believe the naysayers, it is possible and a lofty goal... I am right with you, babe...

"I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET

[TypicalFish 0]

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My heart stopped and the list didn't matter.

That about sums it up in my book.

Congratulations on being lucky enough to find that person, Dave.

"I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET