unformed 0 #26 May 3, 2005 QuoteQuoteQuote I'm the guy that's too nice to date Here is your problem bud. I'm sorry, but guys that girls describe as NICE almost never get described by them as anything else. And their friends are nice. You can be nice, just don't make it your defining trait. Most nice guys lack confidence and that is what women are looking for, wether they admit it or not. Don't be a prick, but don't be nice either. It may sound counter intuitive, but if being nice hasn't worked so far, you may think about changing it. second that completely. you can be nice, but being "nice" doesn't mean you have to do what she wants to. that's being a "bitch", not being "nice". If she says she'll call you on Friday night after she's done doing whatever she is, she's not really interested, but she's holding you as a second option if she has nothing better to do. Don't accept it. Tell her to decide now as you're about to mnake other plans. If she does call you Friday night at 9:00 to see what you're doing, say you're busy, regardless of what you're actually doing. She can come out if she wants, but you've got plans. Don't sit there waiting for her to tell you what to do. Men don't let women run their lives, and women don't want nice guys, they want men, who can also be nice. Ask yourself, what would James Bond do?, and then do that.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #27 May 3, 2005 QuoteYou don't have to believe it for it to be true. Here's another fact that will probably piss people off. Women will rarely tell a guy what he's doing wrong, in fact, they usually don't know. I'm glad there's somebody else here who knows what they're talking about. "Nice guys" think they need to do everything they can for the woman they like. Hot women have all the men they want doing whatever they ask. They are not attracted to that. Do what makes you feel good, then she will come. this does not mean be an asshole, although sometimes that is an easier way to learn what to do right.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #28 May 3, 2005 WRONG!!! If a guy is doing something wrong, I will let you know.... I'm gonna tell you like it is and maybe that's why I don't have anyone, but then again, maybe that's how it's supposed to be. It just sounds like the girl that Grue had asked out was keeping her options open and when something else better came along, she jumped on it and instead of being a mature adult and telling him that she just wasn't that interested, she avoided the whole situation by not calling him to tell him she wasn't interested in going. She deflected. Please don't lump ALL women into this category. Both sexes do it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #29 May 3, 2005 QuoteWRONG!!! If a guy is doing something wrong, I will let you know.... . Sure, if you even realize it. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #30 May 3, 2005 Like the other night, when you were stalking me, it was WRONG! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #31 May 3, 2005 But But, I was just trying to be nice and help you with your groceries |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ham 0 #32 May 3, 2005 QuoteSure, if you even realize it. Oh I think most of the women in this forum don't have that problem. I can only speak for myself, but it seems to me most of the women here are smart and confident women, who know what they like and don't like. Sure some women are like that but so are some men. As for the girl Grue is talking about, she is just not that into him and he needs to move on to one who is. And as Unformed said Quotewomen don't want nice guys, they want men, who can also be nice. I also want a man to be Nice, but I do want them to be a man. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #33 May 3, 2005 Of course, you're all enlightened because you skydive, right? Or maybe because you frequent these forums? This isn't a judgement on your intelligence, this is a phenomenon of the female sex. Edit: Braces for the flames... Here they come!!! |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #34 May 3, 2005 Quote As for the girl Grue is talking about, she is just not that into him and he needs to move on to one who is. Amen sista!!! I said this same exact thing to him in the pub. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #35 May 3, 2005 You don't get a damn word she is saying... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #36 May 3, 2005 Sure I do, you guys are stuck on the current situation, while Unformed and I are addressing the root problem so that the current problem isn't repeated. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ham 0 #37 May 3, 2005 Thank you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #38 May 3, 2005 Root problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #39 May 3, 2005 QuoteRoot problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... I would rather enjoy that actually And yes, the generalizations are general, but also true. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #40 May 3, 2005 QuoteYou don't get a damn word she is saying... Look, we're not attacking your intelligence. We're not even blaming you (or the female population) for it. It's the psychology behind attraction. You don't know what you want. --- Generally speaking, there's two types of guys: Assholes and nice guys. Assholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. That's because girls are attracted to Self-confidence, and while they might not actually like the Asshole, they are subconsciously attracted to him because he is sure of himself. The nice guys, on the other hand, will do anything for the girl. (Open car doors, bring flowers, etc.) He bows down to her and she loses attraction for him. When a girl says she wants to treated like a queen, she speaks the truth. What guys don't realize, is that he is supposed to be the king, not the peasant.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #41 May 3, 2005 First off, I don't believe you are attacking my intelligence, so that's not an issue here. I'm not taking this personally. I'm really not. If anything, I was re-iterating what she was saying. To address your other theory(ies).... Guys can be attributed to being the same way as girls. Guys don't want a girl that all clingy and goes around calling their man by certain pet names out in public. They don't want a love fern. They don't want cutesy matching sweaters. They want what everyone wants and that's someone that truly enhances who they are and someone that adds to them rather than takes away. There is a nice balance to all of this and what it all ultimately boils down to is if you are truly meant to be with someone then it will just happen. These days people try so hard to make things work because they are scared to be alone instead of really seeing what's going on. If things are supposed to be, then it will just fall into place. There will be none of this well, he should call 5.2 times per week and I should only be available between 6-7 p.m. on Thursday evenings to accept his call. Grue, I'm sorry things didn't work out with this girl, but there is a reason and it may be that the person you are supposed to meet will be at the DZ next weekend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #42 May 3, 2005 And if he's got the right amount of confidence and doesn't give off the "nice guy" vibe, he might actually do well with her. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #43 May 3, 2005 I agree with you post almost entirely, but that has nothing to do with what I'm saying. The thing is *most guys* when they get a date with a hot woman, don't want to lose her, and try hard to get her, which means they'll do pretty much whatever she wants. What myself and gmittar are saying, is STOP DOING THAT! If you simply show her a good time, without needing her, she will come -back-. She will call you, she will make the first moves on you, she will want you. The thing is, if you are worried about losing, you need to know what not to do, and that's what we're saying: Stop doing shit for her because she doesn't like that! It's not about following rules, or playing games, just be a man, and stop bowing down to her just because you like her. As someone else on this board said, remember, no matter how hot, smart, funny, and cool she is, there is some guy out there who is sick of her shit. any girl is just another person like the rest of us, treat her as such, not somebody better than you. ---- I got a question; how many of your best boyfriends opened your car door for you all the time?This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #44 May 3, 2005 The question would probably be better for a PM, but anyway here goes the answer. My high school sweetheart and I dated for two years in high school and a year in college. He was my first, true love. Anyway, he opened the car door for me everytime and he also opened other doors for me. But, also I am a very independent person. I don't expect anything from anyone, but even to this day and with my guy friends, a lot of the time, I find myself waiting for him to open the door for me. I have NO problems with a guy that wants to be nice to me, but the problem is, he may not be so happy with me and my personality. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #45 May 3, 2005 QuoteAssholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. Bullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. I'm a nice guy. It doesn't mean that I'm spineless. Yeah, I'm nervous when I ask a woman out on a date. And yes, on that date, I'll open doors, buy dinner, and pay her compliments. Doesn't mean that later on I'm not going to throw her down and ravish her to within an inch of her life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Frenchy68 0 #46 May 3, 2005 QuoteBullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. Thanks. You're saving me a long ass post. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #47 May 3, 2005 I like your answer! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #48 May 3, 2005 That was a bit of a generalization Bob. The point is that you can be nice too, if you've got the other part covered. Obviously, we're not saying you should be a dick, just don't let nice be your defining aspect. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #49 May 3, 2005 I think "nice guy" is the wrong description for the behaviour you're describing. I've used spineless, but I don't think that's quite right either. Doormat, perchance? edit: gmittar, unformed: I think we're actually all saying pretty much the same stuff. It's just that the term "nice guy" is causing confusion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Orchid 0 #50 May 3, 2005 ...you didn't do anything wrong........there are people who are inconsiderate.........and those are the people you don't need to even think twice about. 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unformed 0 #27 May 3, 2005 QuoteYou don't have to believe it for it to be true. Here's another fact that will probably piss people off. Women will rarely tell a guy what he's doing wrong, in fact, they usually don't know. I'm glad there's somebody else here who knows what they're talking about. "Nice guys" think they need to do everything they can for the woman they like. Hot women have all the men they want doing whatever they ask. They are not attracted to that. Do what makes you feel good, then she will come. this does not mean be an asshole, although sometimes that is an easier way to learn what to do right.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #28 May 3, 2005 WRONG!!! If a guy is doing something wrong, I will let you know.... I'm gonna tell you like it is and maybe that's why I don't have anyone, but then again, maybe that's how it's supposed to be. It just sounds like the girl that Grue had asked out was keeping her options open and when something else better came along, she jumped on it and instead of being a mature adult and telling him that she just wasn't that interested, she avoided the whole situation by not calling him to tell him she wasn't interested in going. She deflected. Please don't lump ALL women into this category. Both sexes do it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #29 May 3, 2005 QuoteWRONG!!! If a guy is doing something wrong, I will let you know.... . Sure, if you even realize it. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #30 May 3, 2005 Like the other night, when you were stalking me, it was WRONG! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #31 May 3, 2005 But But, I was just trying to be nice and help you with your groceries |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ham 0 #32 May 3, 2005 QuoteSure, if you even realize it. Oh I think most of the women in this forum don't have that problem. I can only speak for myself, but it seems to me most of the women here are smart and confident women, who know what they like and don't like. Sure some women are like that but so are some men. As for the girl Grue is talking about, she is just not that into him and he needs to move on to one who is. And as Unformed said Quotewomen don't want nice guys, they want men, who can also be nice. I also want a man to be Nice, but I do want them to be a man. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #33 May 3, 2005 Of course, you're all enlightened because you skydive, right? Or maybe because you frequent these forums? This isn't a judgement on your intelligence, this is a phenomenon of the female sex. Edit: Braces for the flames... Here they come!!! |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #34 May 3, 2005 Quote As for the girl Grue is talking about, she is just not that into him and he needs to move on to one who is. Amen sista!!! I said this same exact thing to him in the pub. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #35 May 3, 2005 You don't get a damn word she is saying... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #36 May 3, 2005 Sure I do, you guys are stuck on the current situation, while Unformed and I are addressing the root problem so that the current problem isn't repeated. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ham 0 #37 May 3, 2005 Thank you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #38 May 3, 2005 Root problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #39 May 3, 2005 QuoteRoot problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... I would rather enjoy that actually And yes, the generalizations are general, but also true. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #40 May 3, 2005 QuoteYou don't get a damn word she is saying... Look, we're not attacking your intelligence. We're not even blaming you (or the female population) for it. It's the psychology behind attraction. You don't know what you want. --- Generally speaking, there's two types of guys: Assholes and nice guys. Assholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. That's because girls are attracted to Self-confidence, and while they might not actually like the Asshole, they are subconsciously attracted to him because he is sure of himself. The nice guys, on the other hand, will do anything for the girl. (Open car doors, bring flowers, etc.) He bows down to her and she loses attraction for him. When a girl says she wants to treated like a queen, she speaks the truth. What guys don't realize, is that he is supposed to be the king, not the peasant.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #41 May 3, 2005 First off, I don't believe you are attacking my intelligence, so that's not an issue here. I'm not taking this personally. I'm really not. If anything, I was re-iterating what she was saying. To address your other theory(ies).... Guys can be attributed to being the same way as girls. Guys don't want a girl that all clingy and goes around calling their man by certain pet names out in public. They don't want a love fern. They don't want cutesy matching sweaters. They want what everyone wants and that's someone that truly enhances who they are and someone that adds to them rather than takes away. There is a nice balance to all of this and what it all ultimately boils down to is if you are truly meant to be with someone then it will just happen. These days people try so hard to make things work because they are scared to be alone instead of really seeing what's going on. If things are supposed to be, then it will just fall into place. There will be none of this well, he should call 5.2 times per week and I should only be available between 6-7 p.m. on Thursday evenings to accept his call. Grue, I'm sorry things didn't work out with this girl, but there is a reason and it may be that the person you are supposed to meet will be at the DZ next weekend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #42 May 3, 2005 And if he's got the right amount of confidence and doesn't give off the "nice guy" vibe, he might actually do well with her. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #43 May 3, 2005 I agree with you post almost entirely, but that has nothing to do with what I'm saying. The thing is *most guys* when they get a date with a hot woman, don't want to lose her, and try hard to get her, which means they'll do pretty much whatever she wants. What myself and gmittar are saying, is STOP DOING THAT! If you simply show her a good time, without needing her, she will come -back-. She will call you, she will make the first moves on you, she will want you. The thing is, if you are worried about losing, you need to know what not to do, and that's what we're saying: Stop doing shit for her because she doesn't like that! It's not about following rules, or playing games, just be a man, and stop bowing down to her just because you like her. As someone else on this board said, remember, no matter how hot, smart, funny, and cool she is, there is some guy out there who is sick of her shit. any girl is just another person like the rest of us, treat her as such, not somebody better than you. ---- I got a question; how many of your best boyfriends opened your car door for you all the time?This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpchikk 0 #44 May 3, 2005 The question would probably be better for a PM, but anyway here goes the answer. My high school sweetheart and I dated for two years in high school and a year in college. He was my first, true love. Anyway, he opened the car door for me everytime and he also opened other doors for me. But, also I am a very independent person. I don't expect anything from anyone, but even to this day and with my guy friends, a lot of the time, I find myself waiting for him to open the door for me. I have NO problems with a guy that wants to be nice to me, but the problem is, he may not be so happy with me and my personality. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #45 May 3, 2005 QuoteAssholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. Bullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. I'm a nice guy. It doesn't mean that I'm spineless. Yeah, I'm nervous when I ask a woman out on a date. And yes, on that date, I'll open doors, buy dinner, and pay her compliments. Doesn't mean that later on I'm not going to throw her down and ravish her to within an inch of her life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Frenchy68 0 #46 May 3, 2005 QuoteBullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. Thanks. You're saving me a long ass post. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #47 May 3, 2005 I like your answer! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gmittar 0 #48 May 3, 2005 That was a bit of a generalization Bob. The point is that you can be nice too, if you've got the other part covered. Obviously, we're not saying you should be a dick, just don't let nice be your defining aspect. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #49 May 3, 2005 I think "nice guy" is the wrong description for the behaviour you're describing. I've used spineless, but I don't think that's quite right either. Doormat, perchance? edit: gmittar, unformed: I think we're actually all saying pretty much the same stuff. It's just that the term "nice guy" is causing confusion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Orchid 0 #50 May 3, 2005 ...you didn't do anything wrong........there are people who are inconsiderate.........and those are the people you don't need to even think twice about. It's best to move on........!"Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 2 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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jumpchikk 0 #38 May 3, 2005 Root problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #39 May 3, 2005 QuoteRoot problem MY ASS! All you are doing is making generalizations about the female sex... Don't make me take you out back and beat you... I would rather enjoy that actually And yes, the generalizations are general, but also true. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #40 May 3, 2005 QuoteYou don't get a damn word she is saying... Look, we're not attacking your intelligence. We're not even blaming you (or the female population) for it. It's the psychology behind attraction. You don't know what you want. --- Generally speaking, there's two types of guys: Assholes and nice guys. Assholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. That's because girls are attracted to Self-confidence, and while they might not actually like the Asshole, they are subconsciously attracted to him because he is sure of himself. The nice guys, on the other hand, will do anything for the girl. (Open car doors, bring flowers, etc.) He bows down to her and she loses attraction for him. When a girl says she wants to treated like a queen, she speaks the truth. What guys don't realize, is that he is supposed to be the king, not the peasant.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #41 May 3, 2005 First off, I don't believe you are attacking my intelligence, so that's not an issue here. I'm not taking this personally. I'm really not. If anything, I was re-iterating what she was saying. To address your other theory(ies).... Guys can be attributed to being the same way as girls. Guys don't want a girl that all clingy and goes around calling their man by certain pet names out in public. They don't want a love fern. They don't want cutesy matching sweaters. They want what everyone wants and that's someone that truly enhances who they are and someone that adds to them rather than takes away. There is a nice balance to all of this and what it all ultimately boils down to is if you are truly meant to be with someone then it will just happen. These days people try so hard to make things work because they are scared to be alone instead of really seeing what's going on. If things are supposed to be, then it will just fall into place. There will be none of this well, he should call 5.2 times per week and I should only be available between 6-7 p.m. on Thursday evenings to accept his call. Grue, I'm sorry things didn't work out with this girl, but there is a reason and it may be that the person you are supposed to meet will be at the DZ next weekend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #42 May 3, 2005 And if he's got the right amount of confidence and doesn't give off the "nice guy" vibe, he might actually do well with her. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #43 May 3, 2005 I agree with you post almost entirely, but that has nothing to do with what I'm saying. The thing is *most guys* when they get a date with a hot woman, don't want to lose her, and try hard to get her, which means they'll do pretty much whatever she wants. What myself and gmittar are saying, is STOP DOING THAT! If you simply show her a good time, without needing her, she will come -back-. She will call you, she will make the first moves on you, she will want you. The thing is, if you are worried about losing, you need to know what not to do, and that's what we're saying: Stop doing shit for her because she doesn't like that! It's not about following rules, or playing games, just be a man, and stop bowing down to her just because you like her. As someone else on this board said, remember, no matter how hot, smart, funny, and cool she is, there is some guy out there who is sick of her shit. any girl is just another person like the rest of us, treat her as such, not somebody better than you. ---- I got a question; how many of your best boyfriends opened your car door for you all the time?This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #44 May 3, 2005 The question would probably be better for a PM, but anyway here goes the answer. My high school sweetheart and I dated for two years in high school and a year in college. He was my first, true love. Anyway, he opened the car door for me everytime and he also opened other doors for me. But, also I am a very independent person. I don't expect anything from anyone, but even to this day and with my guy friends, a lot of the time, I find myself waiting for him to open the door for me. I have NO problems with a guy that wants to be nice to me, but the problem is, he may not be so happy with me and my personality. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #45 May 3, 2005 QuoteAssholes get the girls, while the nice guys get to hang out with them. Bullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. I'm a nice guy. It doesn't mean that I'm spineless. Yeah, I'm nervous when I ask a woman out on a date. And yes, on that date, I'll open doors, buy dinner, and pay her compliments. Doesn't mean that later on I'm not going to throw her down and ravish her to within an inch of her life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #46 May 3, 2005 QuoteBullshit. Just 'coz you're a nice guy doesn't mean you can't sweep a woman off her feet. If, by nice guy, you mean spineless, then yeah, fine. That's not usually an attractive character trait. Thanks. You're saving me a long ass post. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #47 May 3, 2005 I like your answer! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #48 May 3, 2005 That was a bit of a generalization Bob. The point is that you can be nice too, if you've got the other part covered. Obviously, we're not saying you should be a dick, just don't let nice be your defining aspect. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #49 May 3, 2005 I think "nice guy" is the wrong description for the behaviour you're describing. I've used spineless, but I don't think that's quite right either. Doormat, perchance? edit: gmittar, unformed: I think we're actually all saying pretty much the same stuff. It's just that the term "nice guy" is causing confusion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Orchid 0 #50 May 3, 2005 ...you didn't do anything wrong........there are people who are inconsiderate.........and those are the people you don't need to even think twice about. It's best to move on........!"Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
