JumpNFly 0 #1 June 1, 2005 do i just attract guys that are meant to break my heart? I'm sorry about all of the blah sad posts... but I've been sitting in my house trying to figure this out... I've lost 10 lbs, can't eat, can't sleep... and I'm a mess... I've heard it a thousand times, it will get better, you'll find someone new... I DON"T WANT SOMEONE new... i want this to work damnit... it's not over, we're just trying to "figure" things out, or HE is... anyone have anything constructive to say....my mohawk and I have had enough.... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #2 June 1, 2005 sorry, but I need to get this off of my chest... I'm going nuts in my house The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #3 June 1, 2005 Quotesorry, but I need to get this off of my chest... I'm going nuts in my house Go outside. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #4 June 1, 2005 can't stop crying long enough to walk out the door... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gravitymaster 0 #5 June 1, 2005 Quotedo i just attract guys that are meant to break my heart? I'm sorry about all of the blah sad posts... but I've been sitting in my house trying to figure this out... I've lost 10 lbs, can't eat, can't sleep... and I'm a mess... I've heard it a thousand times, it will get better, you'll find someone new... I DON"T WANT SOMEONE new... i want this to work damnit... it's not over, we're just trying to "figure" things out, or HE is... anyone have anything constructive to say....my mohawk and I have had enough.... I don't normally give dating advice, but will just this one time. You aren't attracting guys who will break your heart. You are attracted to them. Once you figure out why, you will start to be attracted to "a different type of man" than you have been. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #6 June 1, 2005 No man is worth that much emotion. Trust me I'm a man, I know. I know I typed "trust me" and me being a man an all.. well you can this time "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #7 June 1, 2005 it just hurts so damn bad The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #8 June 1, 2005 Quoteit just hurts so damn bad Did he physicaly hurt you? If not the emotions you are feeling are just a learning process everyone goes thru. Once you've experienced it enough you begin to not care. Kinda like me "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpchikk 0 #9 June 1, 2005 Okay, I'm gonna go out on a limb here... why don't you get out of the house? Go do something you enjoy to do? Go surround yourself the ones that love you? Go to the bath store and buy you some new bubble bath.. new candles.. go buy a new CD, one that has a lot of good songs that relate to your situation... I love the Maroon 5 CD, it's one I'm listening to in the car now... Great songs... Go to Victoria's Secret, buy some new panties... I don't wear panties, but I love to go in there... Pick up a new book (I have a great one in mind, if interested PM me)... We have all been there girl. It hurts especially when you really care for the person, but don't let it dominate you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #10 June 1, 2005 QuoteNo man is worth that much emotion. Trust me I'm a man, I know. I know I typed "trust me" and me being a man an all.. well you can this time yeah, if you knew slappie, you'd know damn well he's not worth any emotion.... Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #11 June 1, 2005 QuoteQuoteNo man is worth that much emotion. Trust me I'm a man, I know. I know I typed "trust me" and me being a man an all.. well you can this time yeah, if you knew slappie, you'd know damn well he's not worth any emotion.... Hey now!! I flew you to altitude and you jumped! So I know I'm worth something. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #12 June 1, 2005 no he doesn't physically hurt me... here's the bigger problem... I've got no one out here in California... I'm alone... my family is back east, my friends are in NYC and i'm here... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #13 June 1, 2005 Quote Hey now!! I flew you to altitude and you jumped! So I know I'm worth something. Are you a pilot?!?!?!?!?!?! Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #14 June 1, 2005 I'm very sorry for your pain. Others have given you awesome advice. My only other advice would be to get laid. Nothing beats a breakup better then some massive amounts of tequila and some rebound sex. Seriously it gives you back the confidence the other has taken. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #15 June 1, 2005 i wish it were that easy... we're not broken up... and I don't drink... thanks guys The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #16 June 1, 2005 Quotei wish it were that easy... we're not broken up... and I don't drink... thanks guys Well damn you are one confusing young lady. I respect the not drinking, don't agree with it, but respect it. If you're not broken up... Then quit the cryin and stuff. I said it earlier.. No man is worth that much emotion. If he's making you cry you can do much better then him. Specially if he knows he is making you cry and does nothing to stop it. Now you've given him a control mechanism and he WILL use it. Damn I'm Dr. Slappie! I need a fuckin TV Show! "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #17 June 1, 2005 sorry Dr. Slappie... i'm confused and very confusing apparently... do'nt know which was is up... and it SUCKS The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Douva 0 #18 June 1, 2005 Spring must be the season for relationship problems on dz.com. I've never seen more depressing relationship posts in such a short period of time. I just regained my own ten pounds, and sleep is still sporadic, so I don't have much advice other than keep listening to this over and over and remember those words of wisdom.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #19 June 1, 2005 thanks my friends grandfather wrote that song... AND IT HATE IT... makes me cry like a little baby... Oh wait, I am already crying like a little baby... PATHETIC The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skinnyshrek 0 #20 June 1, 2005 It is you. If you whine like this in person as much as you do on the internet. I am not suprised you got dumped....Now load the gun slowly pull the trigger so we can get rid of this whiney thread from the bonfire...Also, you may want to call Jenny craig. Help you out in the long runhttp://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #21 June 1, 2005 a) i didn't get dumped b) thanks for making me laugh c) jenny craig doesn't deal with skinny people The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #22 June 1, 2005 go find another man .... you'll feel much better immediately ...This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dagny 0 #23 June 1, 2005 Quotedo i just attract guys that are meant to break my heart? Speaking as someone who has some experience in having a broken heart (seriously, though, is there anyone among us who doesn't?), let me just take a moment to remind you that you are responsible for the decisions you make in life. My suggestion...trust your gut instinct. Not your "I want him even though he doesn't love me enough or he doesn't give enough and he makes me feel sad all the time" self because that's you making excuses for a relationship that isn't a good fit. Sometimes, you just need to walk away so you have a chance to find the person who is right for you...and so that your partner has a chance to find the right person for him. I'm not saying that you have to break up with your man, but I'm saying that there is something not working in your relationship if you feel down more often than not and are buying stock in kleenex. Just take some time to think about the kind of relationship you deserve and remember that two people who love each other and are a good match for each other will bring out the best in their partner. If you find that you can't stop crying and you are having a lot of trouble taking care of yourself, then you need to make an appointment with a psychiatrist so that you can have an outlet to talk and consider options in your own health and well-being. The biggest suggestion I have is to remember that your opinions and your feelings are valid and important so don't lose yourself, okay? Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,587 #24 June 1, 2005 Sweetie, you do need to get out of the house, and you really really need to get angry at something. Really mad, to where you can throw bottles against the side of a house or a wall just to hear them crash. Take charge of something. If you go outside and you can't stop crying, well, fuck them -- it's your problem, and not theirs. Go do something physical that takes your concentration. Even if your relationship stays together -- you're in charge of your own happiness. Really. You have to figure out WHAT (not who) makes you happy, and go about figuring out how to get it. Like physical activity? Do more sports. If your guy doesn't like you being involved in so many, well, maybe he's not the right guy. Would you want to be involved with a heavy drinker? Didn't think so. Like to dance? Go take dancing lessons. Sign up for them yourself -- there are schools you can go to alone (we have 2 in Houston -- there must be some in Cali). But once you have something to do on most nights, it gets easier. The first couple of nights might be tough, but as you get into it, it's more fun. You're doing it for you. Good luck, and go kick someone's ass. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dagny 0 #25 June 1, 2005 QuotePATHETIC You're not pathetic. You're just sad right now and that's okay, just be proactive in trying to find the path back to happiness.Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
