Vallerina 2 #26 June 17, 2005 QuoteAnd it also seems to me that the past is far more recent for a 22 year old who made mistakes as a kid than a 35 year old who made mistakes as a kid. If someone did something stupid when they're 16, it didn't matter much when I was 22, nor will it when I'm 35! QuoteHmmm. We must have gone to different colleges. Pasts developed rather quickly at mine. Well, once again, a lot of that is people being 20 years old. People do lots of stupid things at that age. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 20? No. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 30? I don't know, but it's a bit more serious the older you get. Us younguns are stupid and do stupid things. Yes, young people do seriously stupid and criminal things, and some of those things I can't look past. I'm tired! Time for coffee!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #27 June 17, 2005 QuoteWell, once again, a lot of that is people being 20 years old. People do lots of stupid things at that age. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 20? No. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 30? I don't know, but it's a bit more serious the older you get. Us younguns are stupid and do stupid things. Yes, young people do seriously stupid and criminal things, and some of those things I can't look past. Sorry, I'm not going to buy into this. Morals are morals, doesn't matter the age of the person. Being young is not an excuse to accept bad behavior.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #28 June 17, 2005 QuoteTo me it only matters if it gets thrown up in my face. I don't care to hear about other people my SO fucked, I know it happened but I don't care. Why would that be something you'd want to waste time thinking about? I don't ask, I don't want him to ask. It doesn't matter to me nor do I think it should to him. If you are both healthy and safe then it should make no difference. If you are endangering people for whatever reason, then that is not cool. Just be honest in your relationship and it shouldn't matter. I totally agree with Paige. I don't want to know. I won't ask. I don't want the details. I know I'm not his first, but hopefully I'm the last. Anything before me only helped him become who he is today. The same is true in reverse. I don't want him to know. I don't want him to ask. I won't give him the details. He's not my first, hopefully he is the last. I've become who I am today by what I've done in the past. But, it's the past. I'm more concerned about the present and our future. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #29 June 17, 2005 Quote Sorry, I'm not going to buy into this. Morals are morals, doesn't matter the age of the person. Being young is not an excuse to accept bad behavior. Sure it is! Many young people make many mistakes. That's how many people learn. Many of the things that I did when I was 18 I wouldn't do now. Most people change drastically in that time. Most people make tons of mistakes.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Lindsey 0 #30 June 17, 2005 What's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. Peace~ linz-- A conservative is just a liberal who's been mugged. A liberal is just a conservative who's been to jail Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites eeneR 3 #31 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteI'll be one of the brave ones and admit that the past actions of someone I'm looking to have a serious long term commitment with, does matter to me. I'd look very careful at the person and see if they repeat the type of behavior that I wasn't comfortable with. Have to say I'm with you on that Mar. Ladies I also agree here. I have tried to look past the past...and in 98% of the time, the same shit happend again... I would be very very cautious of them, if they truly showed me that they are making changes in their lives, and things of late have changed I would definaly look at that too. But if the shit was recent. Ya know what I really dont want to be the training dummy for someone to fix themselves. Call me selfish, but ya know what....tough. I have had my issues and my problems, the last thing I wanted to do was string someone along while I was having an internal civil war. So I didnt. I will not let someone do that to me either. I am not dirt, and will not allow myself to be treated as such any more....She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #32 June 17, 2005 QuoteWhat's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. You said it better than me! If I'm still wearing the cleavage shirts that I wore when I was 18 when I'm 40, someone shoot me! (Hell, if I even wear them today, shoot me!)There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites swedishcelt 0 #33 June 17, 2005 QuoteYou know, I'm wondering what the relative age is with relationship to these answers. My guess is the younger one is, the more likely one is to try to forget about the past. The older one is, more painful lessons have been learned about how many people simply don't change.... To a yungun, the past won't matter. To those of us with age and guile, the past will matter - plenty!I am 34 years old. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SpeedRacer 1 #34 June 17, 2005 so what do you think of someone who, on the third date or so when it seems there may be potential to the relationship, the other person GRILLS you on every past relationship, & wants to know, in exact & excruciating detail, why you broke up with every person you ever dated, like its a f&*king job application. Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #35 June 17, 2005 QuoteWhat's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. Peace~ linz I think this is where we just draw different lines. It's actually one of the reasons why I never dated anyone younger than me after the age of 24. By the time a person is 27 or 28, if that person is making the mistakes of a 22 year old, then the past is going to matter, and it's far easier to gauge that person's past mistakes as an indicator of present and future behavior. Someone in their 40's making the same mistakes as 20's? I just tend to hold 25 and 30 year-olds to the standards I would expect of a 25 or 30 year old. If she is 28 and acts like she's 17, making the mistakes of an 17 year-old, I can look at her past and say, "Hmm. She acted like she was 17 starting at age 12, and is still acting like she's 17 at age 28" then it would indicate that she'll be acting like she's 17 at age 35. I didn't want a 17 year-old, or even a 25 year-old mentality. As you said, you can look at the evolution of the mistakes. If the evolution seems to have stopped for the last several years but the mistakes haven't, I struck that person from my list. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Icon134 0 #36 June 17, 2005 I think I understand what you are saying... but... I had a conversation with a friend of mine once... she declared that "she found that she was being more critical about the people she was looking to date, etc..." A month later she was telling me that: "I've noticed this trend in my own relationships as well.... the less obvious it is that the guy really cares about me and wants to be with me the more likely it is that I will really want to be with him. It's stupid, and it doesn't make for great relationships, but for whatever reason that is what sparks most girls interest.... I think it's the challenge of getting the guy to ever really care about you and treat you right (which will never happen, but girls always think that maybe this time....)." So, my point is... that although people may say they will change... they probably won't...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #37 June 17, 2005 Quotethe less obvious it is that the guy really cares about me and wants to be with me the more likely it is that I will really want to be with him. It's stupid, and it doesn't make for great relationships, but for whatever reason that is what sparks most girls interest.... I think it's the challenge of getting the guy to ever really care about you and treat you right (which will never happen, but girls always think that maybe this time....)." I don't think so.... Most women I know don't want to be with someone that they have to try to get them to care. I think most people want to be with a person that cares about them.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lawrocket 3 #38 June 17, 2005 A couple of questions: 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? I think this is the reason why I get women making moves on me now with far greater frequency than ever. Considering that I'm married to the greatest woman n the planet, and I consider myself even luckier than everyone considers Remster (but not by much) many women seem to pick up on that. Why? Why do women do that to themselves? Mroe importantly, why are women so dang competitive with each other? My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Icon134 0 #39 June 17, 2005 All I know is what she told me... and her "reaction" to me trying to support, show I cared, etc... there may have been other factors... like I wasn't attractive to her... etc... but this is the reason I was given that she wasn't interested. ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites eeneR 3 #40 June 17, 2005 QuoteA couple of questions: 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? I think this is the reason why I get women making moves on me now with far greater frequency than ever. Considering that I'm married to the greatest woman n the planet, and I consider myself even luckier than everyone considers Remster (but not by much) many women seem to pick up on that. Why? Why do women do that to themselves? Mroe importantly, why are women so dang competitive with each other? Just a thought...but could it be that fact that you are happy and secure...and that is appealling. That is hard to find They are picking up on all the positive stuff you are dishing out. However some people have no issues on playing with others toys, or taking others toys for that matter. There are a lot of people in this world that hold the attitude that they will do as they please no matter who it hurts....and that makes me angry. But anyway, a guy that seems confident, not cocky (though a lil cocky is good), secure in himself and his life...and overall just happy. That is highly attractive...She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Darius11 12 #41 June 17, 2005 I agree with you. I have seen it so many times. Maybe it is the challenge. It is very easy for a woman or a semi attractive woman to get a man at least for one night. But if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. i don't knowI'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Icon134 0 #42 June 17, 2005 Quote 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? 1) She is/was 23-24 but I wasn't a jerk to women when I was in my early 20s or for that matter ever really... (at least I don't think that's the case...) I do take a while to open up to people... and I can sometimes seem off-putting because of it... 2) I didn't know this at first... and I'm always willing to give someone the benifit of the doubt... maybe I'm hopeless that way... for the record I didn't continue to persue a relationship with her after this statement. I did tell her that I had liked her (I actually went to visit her a week or so prior to this conversation...) but I haven't actually spoken to her... for some time now...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jeiber 0 #43 June 17, 2005 Hmmm. Maybe we need another poll to see what 'the numbers' are by age group! I'm 32 and always wonder what an 'acceptable' number is for a guy my age.Shhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #44 June 17, 2005 I think that'd be a pretty lengthy poll. Set it up. I'll play! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jeiber 0 #45 June 17, 2005 QuoteBut if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. Hmmm. I'm tempted to go pick up a wedding ring at a pawn shop and wear it out some night, just to see the difference in women's reactions. I wonder what that says about society if I have better luck with the ring on! JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jenfly00 0 #46 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteWell, once again, a lot of that is people being 20 years old. People do lots of stupid things at that age. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 20? No. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 30? I don't know, but it's a bit more serious the older you get. Us younguns are stupid and do stupid things. Yes, young people do seriously stupid and criminal things, and some of those things I can't look past. Sorry, I'm not going to buy into this. Morals are morals, doesn't matter the age of the person. Being young is not an excuse to accept bad behavior. My. What that line from Hearts in Atlantis? "When your mother writes her opinion of someone, she writes it in ink." I am reluctant to judge an adult for bad judgment as a child. I would be more concerned for judgment (or lack or) displayed as an adult. jen----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Darius11 12 #47 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteBut if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. Hmmm. I'm tempted to go pick up a wedding ring at a pawn shop and wear it out some night, just to see the difference in women's reactions. I wonder what that says about society if I have better luck with the ring on! Jeff I have two friends back in NY who did do exactly that. When we would go out you could see they would get more attention. There was one occasion where a chick left the sec. she noticed the ring. And no I was not one of the guys wearing a ring I had a GF at the time and I hate playing games.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jeiber 0 #48 June 17, 2005 I'll have to think about how to structure it. Age is obviously a huge factor here. Hmmm. Maybe average number of partners per year. I'm open to ideas... JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites swedishcelt 0 #49 June 17, 2005 WTH are you talking about? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jeiber 0 #50 June 17, 2005 You're an English teacher, eh? I've got a Van Halen song in my head now! I was responding to Kelel's encouragement to start a poll asking how many partners people have had. A 45 year old with 30 partners isn't ridiculous, but an 18 year old with 30 partners... well, I'd raise an eyebrow at that one. 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Vallerina 2 #29 June 17, 2005 Quote Sorry, I'm not going to buy into this. Morals are morals, doesn't matter the age of the person. Being young is not an excuse to accept bad behavior. Sure it is! Many young people make many mistakes. That's how many people learn. Many of the things that I did when I was 18 I wouldn't do now. Most people change drastically in that time. Most people make tons of mistakes.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindsey 0 #30 June 17, 2005 What's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. Peace~ linz-- A conservative is just a liberal who's been mugged. A liberal is just a conservative who's been to jail Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #31 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteI'll be one of the brave ones and admit that the past actions of someone I'm looking to have a serious long term commitment with, does matter to me. I'd look very careful at the person and see if they repeat the type of behavior that I wasn't comfortable with. Have to say I'm with you on that Mar. Ladies I also agree here. I have tried to look past the past...and in 98% of the time, the same shit happend again... I would be very very cautious of them, if they truly showed me that they are making changes in their lives, and things of late have changed I would definaly look at that too. But if the shit was recent. Ya know what I really dont want to be the training dummy for someone to fix themselves. Call me selfish, but ya know what....tough. I have had my issues and my problems, the last thing I wanted to do was string someone along while I was having an internal civil war. So I didnt. I will not let someone do that to me either. I am not dirt, and will not allow myself to be treated as such any more....She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #32 June 17, 2005 QuoteWhat's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. You said it better than me! If I'm still wearing the cleavage shirts that I wore when I was 18 when I'm 40, someone shoot me! (Hell, if I even wear them today, shoot me!)There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #33 June 17, 2005 QuoteYou know, I'm wondering what the relative age is with relationship to these answers. My guess is the younger one is, the more likely one is to try to forget about the past. The older one is, more painful lessons have been learned about how many people simply don't change.... To a yungun, the past won't matter. To those of us with age and guile, the past will matter - plenty!I am 34 years old. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #34 June 17, 2005 so what do you think of someone who, on the third date or so when it seems there may be potential to the relationship, the other person GRILLS you on every past relationship, & wants to know, in exact & excruciating detail, why you broke up with every person you ever dated, like its a f&*king job application. Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #35 June 17, 2005 QuoteWhat's great about aging is that you can look at the evolution of your and your partner's mistakes. If they keep doing the same stuff in their 40's that they did in their 20's....then ya go "hmmmm." If in their 40's they have obviously learned from the mistakes of their 20's, then ya' laugh about the past and enjoy rubbin' their noses in it from time to time....lol...as well as having yours rubbed in it too. Peace~ linz I think this is where we just draw different lines. It's actually one of the reasons why I never dated anyone younger than me after the age of 24. By the time a person is 27 or 28, if that person is making the mistakes of a 22 year old, then the past is going to matter, and it's far easier to gauge that person's past mistakes as an indicator of present and future behavior. Someone in their 40's making the same mistakes as 20's? I just tend to hold 25 and 30 year-olds to the standards I would expect of a 25 or 30 year old. If she is 28 and acts like she's 17, making the mistakes of an 17 year-old, I can look at her past and say, "Hmm. She acted like she was 17 starting at age 12, and is still acting like she's 17 at age 28" then it would indicate that she'll be acting like she's 17 at age 35. I didn't want a 17 year-old, or even a 25 year-old mentality. As you said, you can look at the evolution of the mistakes. If the evolution seems to have stopped for the last several years but the mistakes haven't, I struck that person from my list. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #36 June 17, 2005 I think I understand what you are saying... but... I had a conversation with a friend of mine once... she declared that "she found that she was being more critical about the people she was looking to date, etc..." A month later she was telling me that: "I've noticed this trend in my own relationships as well.... the less obvious it is that the guy really cares about me and wants to be with me the more likely it is that I will really want to be with him. It's stupid, and it doesn't make for great relationships, but for whatever reason that is what sparks most girls interest.... I think it's the challenge of getting the guy to ever really care about you and treat you right (which will never happen, but girls always think that maybe this time....)." So, my point is... that although people may say they will change... they probably won't...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #37 June 17, 2005 Quotethe less obvious it is that the guy really cares about me and wants to be with me the more likely it is that I will really want to be with him. It's stupid, and it doesn't make for great relationships, but for whatever reason that is what sparks most girls interest.... I think it's the challenge of getting the guy to ever really care about you and treat you right (which will never happen, but girls always think that maybe this time....)." I don't think so.... Most women I know don't want to be with someone that they have to try to get them to care. I think most people want to be with a person that cares about them.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #38 June 17, 2005 A couple of questions: 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? I think this is the reason why I get women making moves on me now with far greater frequency than ever. Considering that I'm married to the greatest woman n the planet, and I consider myself even luckier than everyone considers Remster (but not by much) many women seem to pick up on that. Why? Why do women do that to themselves? Mroe importantly, why are women so dang competitive with each other? My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #39 June 17, 2005 All I know is what she told me... and her "reaction" to me trying to support, show I cared, etc... there may have been other factors... like I wasn't attractive to her... etc... but this is the reason I was given that she wasn't interested. ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #40 June 17, 2005 QuoteA couple of questions: 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? I think this is the reason why I get women making moves on me now with far greater frequency than ever. Considering that I'm married to the greatest woman n the planet, and I consider myself even luckier than everyone considers Remster (but not by much) many women seem to pick up on that. Why? Why do women do that to themselves? Mroe importantly, why are women so dang competitive with each other? Just a thought...but could it be that fact that you are happy and secure...and that is appealling. That is hard to find They are picking up on all the positive stuff you are dishing out. However some people have no issues on playing with others toys, or taking others toys for that matter. There are a lot of people in this world that hold the attitude that they will do as they please no matter who it hurts....and that makes me angry. But anyway, a guy that seems confident, not cocky (though a lil cocky is good), secure in himself and his life...and overall just happy. That is highly attractive...She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #41 June 17, 2005 I agree with you. I have seen it so many times. Maybe it is the challenge. It is very easy for a woman or a semi attractive woman to get a man at least for one night. But if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. i don't knowI'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #42 June 17, 2005 Quote 1) How old is she? 2) Knowing this, would you go for a long-term relationship with this person? 1) She is/was 23-24 but I wasn't a jerk to women when I was in my early 20s or for that matter ever really... (at least I don't think that's the case...) I do take a while to open up to people... and I can sometimes seem off-putting because of it... 2) I didn't know this at first... and I'm always willing to give someone the benifit of the doubt... maybe I'm hopeless that way... for the record I didn't continue to persue a relationship with her after this statement. I did tell her that I had liked her (I actually went to visit her a week or so prior to this conversation...) but I haven't actually spoken to her... for some time now...Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jeiber 0 #43 June 17, 2005 Hmmm. Maybe we need another poll to see what 'the numbers' are by age group! I'm 32 and always wonder what an 'acceptable' number is for a guy my age.Shhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #44 June 17, 2005 I think that'd be a pretty lengthy poll. Set it up. I'll play! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jeiber 0 #45 June 17, 2005 QuoteBut if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. Hmmm. I'm tempted to go pick up a wedding ring at a pawn shop and wear it out some night, just to see the difference in women's reactions. I wonder what that says about society if I have better luck with the ring on! JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenfly00 0 #46 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteWell, once again, a lot of that is people being 20 years old. People do lots of stupid things at that age. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 20? No. Would I turn someone down because they cheated on their girlfriend when they were 30? I don't know, but it's a bit more serious the older you get. Us younguns are stupid and do stupid things. Yes, young people do seriously stupid and criminal things, and some of those things I can't look past. Sorry, I'm not going to buy into this. Morals are morals, doesn't matter the age of the person. Being young is not an excuse to accept bad behavior. My. What that line from Hearts in Atlantis? "When your mother writes her opinion of someone, she writes it in ink." I am reluctant to judge an adult for bad judgment as a child. I would be more concerned for judgment (or lack or) displayed as an adult. jen----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #47 June 17, 2005 QuoteQuoteBut if the guy is married or in a relationship it is more of a challenge maybe that’s it. Hmmm. I'm tempted to go pick up a wedding ring at a pawn shop and wear it out some night, just to see the difference in women's reactions. I wonder what that says about society if I have better luck with the ring on! Jeff I have two friends back in NY who did do exactly that. When we would go out you could see they would get more attention. There was one occasion where a chick left the sec. she noticed the ring. And no I was not one of the guys wearing a ring I had a GF at the time and I hate playing games.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jeiber 0 #48 June 17, 2005 I'll have to think about how to structure it. Age is obviously a huge factor here. Hmmm. Maybe average number of partners per year. I'm open to ideas... JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #49 June 17, 2005 WTH are you talking about? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jeiber 0 #50 June 17, 2005 You're an English teacher, eh? I've got a Van Halen song in my head now! I was responding to Kelel's encouragement to start a poll asking how many partners people have had. A 45 year old with 30 partners isn't ridiculous, but an 18 year old with 30 partners... well, I'd raise an eyebrow at that one. Then I'd ask for her phone number! Jeff ps- you mentioned your age earlier.Shhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
