Darius11 12 #1 June 16, 2005 This is only if you are looking at someone as a potential SO not just a fuck buddy. So does it?I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spizzzarko 0 #2 June 16, 2005 No. You can never change the past. It's only the present that matters, and the future is unknown. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #3 June 16, 2005 To me it only matters if it gets thrown up in my face. I don't care to hear about other people my SO fucked, I know it happened but I don't care. Why would that be something you'd want to waste time thinking about? I don't ask, I don't want him to ask. It doesn't matter to me nor do I think it should to him. If you are both healthy and safe then it should make no difference. If you are endangering people for whatever reason, then that is not cool. Just be honest in your relationship and it shouldn't matter. What the hell do I know though?!?!? Not much that's for sure!Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #4 June 16, 2005 The past is what makes the person who they are today... I have no issues with someones past, as long as they can be honest and open about it.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #5 June 16, 2005 what he said!!!! ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fireflytx 0 #6 June 16, 2005 Things we have done in our past is what makes us the person we are today. Even the really bad stuff, hopefully we learned from it and it made us even better."Well behaved women rarely make history" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #7 June 16, 2005 I afraid that at my age most of the women I might have an interest will probably have been with more people that I have... I think it is more important who a person is and believe it wouldn't matter who they've been with, etc... as long as they are honest about it. ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #8 June 16, 2005 QuoteThe past is what makes the person who they are today... I have no issues with someones past, as long as they can be honest and open about it.. What he said! you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmanpilot 0 #9 June 16, 2005 I don't have a problem with a woman's past unless she was'nt paying attention and failed to pick up some skilz along the way._________________________________________ -There's always free cheese in a mouse trap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GogglesnTeeth 6 #10 June 16, 2005 The past is the past unless they have something that a bit of penicillian won't take care of........LOL Goggles and Teeth "You fall like a greased safe!!!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #11 June 16, 2005 I will tell you what is interesting about this poll. There is obviously more then a few out there who do care about there SO past but no one will post about it. I think for me some times it matters some times it doesn’t. If I love someone I don’t care. But for me to say I can sit as a potential SO is telling me how they gang banged 10 guys and be cool would be a lie. I wouldn't go nuts but that would make an impressionI'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #12 June 16, 2005 Quote.... But for me to say I can sit as a potential SO is telling me how they gang banged 10 guys and be cool would be a lie. I wouldn't go nuts but that would make an impression Hmm.. ok let me clarify what I posted.. I don't really see it as a nice romantic dinner conversation to be hearing about that either, BUT.. if the question was asked.. have you ever..... I'd like it to be answered honestly.. Someone who's bragging about it.. I don't know.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hungarianchick 0 #13 June 16, 2005 I voted "to some extent". If the guy changed girlfriends like other people change underwear or he has a history of cheating repeatedly, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. "I love cooking with wine. Sometimes I even put it in the food." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #14 June 16, 2005 QuoteI will tell you what is interesting about this poll. There is obviously more then a few out there who do care about there SO past but no one will post about it. I think for me some times it matters some times it doesn’t. If I love someone I don’t care. But for me to say I can sit as a potential SO is telling me how they gang banged 10 guys and be cool would be a lie. I wouldn't go nuts but that would make an impression My answer to the poll is sort of a joke... as I picked the one about a SO that has been with more people then I... for that to happen... well... ... I'm not sure what I'd do... but I do know some about the personallities of the few women in my life that I've had some sort of interest in... and certainly not all of them have been perfect s... in fact most of them haven't been... ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #15 June 16, 2005 QuoteQuoteThe past is what makes the person who they are today... I have no issues with someones past, as long as they can be honest and open about it.. What he said! Hmmm. If I was looking for a long-term SO and found out that this woman I was interested in was married and divorced 6 times by age 35, I think I would want to look elsewhere. Likewise, if I found out she had been in prison for child abuse, I'd avoid her like the plague. Or if she was a registered sex offender, I couldn't see past that. I'd like to be able to honestly say that the past doesn't matter. But, I cannot honestly say that. And I think anyone else who doesn't take those factors into consideration is asking for trouble. Whether you like it or not, these things matter. Whether is matters ENOUGH is the issue.. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #16 June 16, 2005 You are just making too much sense here I'm with you.. some things I wouldnt be able to accept probably.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #17 June 16, 2005 I'll be one of the brave ones and admit that the past actions of someone I'm looking to have a serious long term commitment with, does matter to me. I'd look very careful at the person and see if they repeat the type of behavior that I wasn't comfortable with.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #18 June 16, 2005 It matters to me because I expect them to at least have the same experiences as me otherwise they get the boot! -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #19 June 17, 2005 No, definitly not. You can't change the past, but people can have the chance to change. If someone did something in the past that they aren't proud of and changed it, that's what matters. CReW Skies,"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #20 June 17, 2005 Exactly. The past doesn't matter. The present and future do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #21 June 17, 2005 QuoteI'll be one of the brave ones and admit that the past actions of someone I'm looking to have a serious long term commitment with, does matter to me. I'd look very careful at the person and see if they repeat the type of behavior that I wasn't comfortable with. Have to say I'm with you on that Mar. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #22 June 17, 2005 Maybe you're right. I tend to be a bit niave about matters of the heart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #23 June 17, 2005 You know, I'm wondering what the relative age is with relationship to these answers. My guess is the younger one is, the more likely one is to try to forget about the past. The older one is, more painful lessons have been learned about how many people simply don't change.... To a yungun, the past won't matter. To those of us with age and guile, the past will matter - plenty! My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #24 June 17, 2005 QuoteTo a yungun, the past won't matter. Because there's not much of a past to speak of! The past somewhat matters to me. No, I wouldn't date someone who was a rapist, child molester, abuser, etc. Luckily, most people aren't like that. And sure, the past is an indicator of how a person will be in the future. To say that it's not is silliness. I always giggle when I hear that a guy cheats on a girl, and she's so shocked, even though when they first hooked up, he was cheating on his girlfriend.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #25 June 17, 2005 Quotethere's not much of a past to speak of! Hmmm. We must have gone to different colleges. Pasts developed rather quickly at mine. And it also seems to me that the past is far more recent for a 22 year old who made mistakes as a kid than a 35 year old who made mistakes as a kid. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
