ChasingBlueSky 0 #1 July 12, 2005 http://channels.netscape.com/new/html/live/scoop/ni/13.html?floc=isp-113 Guys: Women Really Turned Off by THIS A piece of advice, men: If you want to seem attractive to the ladies, cut out the dare-devil stunts, such as bungee jumping and fast driving. You may think you're impressing women, but you're really turning them off. That's the word from a team of researchers at the University of Maine in Orono that determined women prefer more cautious men for partners. New Scientist, the BBC News, and Reuters report that the study of 48 men and 52 women found that while men really believed daring stunts would catch the eye of a woman, the women said such behavior was not attractive. However, men who take risks just for the thrill of it are more likely to be respected by other men. "Men thought women would be impressed by pointless gambles, but women in fact preferred cautious men," lead study author Dr. William Farthing told New Scientist. So what can men do to attract women? The ladies are turned on by men who have a high status, so if the risk-taking behavior leads men to be respected by their friends and elevated in status because of it, then the dare-devil men could seem attractive to women. Women are also attracted to men who are more altruistic. For example, in a scenario pitched by the research team, the majority of women were more attracted to a man who saved someone's life than they were to fast driving. Empathy and sensitivity are the traits most women seem to seek._________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #2 July 12, 2005 It so cracks me up when ever I see some kind of research poll that has been done. What cracks me up is of all the people I know, not one person has ever been asked to be in the research poll. I have to ask, who the hell is getting asked to participate in the research?May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spizzzarko 0 #3 July 12, 2005 The nerds will always get the chick in the end! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #4 July 12, 2005 Don't know the answer to that one, but I can say that I agree with the content of the article on a personal level. I like skydivers (mainly because I'm always around them), but I'm not into the stupid/crazy/overly experimental jumpers. I'm in no way attracted to the jackass who buys too small of a canopy too soon, etc. I also (although I'm sure they're both wonderful people) wouldn't want to date the person whose plans included landing a wingsuit or a 39 sq. ft. canopy. I had a comment relating to this type of behavior and penis size, but I'll leave it to y'all to figure out. Edit: the point of all this being, I see certain types of skydiving to be extreme and don't find engaging in that behavior attractive. It makes sense to me that a whuffo would associate that with ALL types of skydiving and "extreme" sports. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kingbunky 3 #5 July 12, 2005 probably a random sampling of people the researcher met in line at the unemployment office. "Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart." MB4252 TDS699 killing threads since 2001 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beowulf 1 #6 July 12, 2005 I have already confirmed this research. In an impromptu poll of local women around Dallas, none of them were impressed by my jumping out of airplanes. In fact I do much better by never bringing up the topic of skydiving. When asked what I do on the weekends, a lie is much more effective then the truth. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #7 July 12, 2005 QuoteThe nerds will always get the chick in the end! Ahhh, but who get's them in the beginning? That's where I'd rather be. Then hold on to one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #8 July 12, 2005 I'm calling BS... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #9 July 12, 2005 Wow, you get opinionated when you're chillyI am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #10 July 12, 2005 Ask anyone who knows me . . . I'm always opinionated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skychick312 0 #11 July 12, 2005 definitely not asking the right women, bc personally if you skydive your brownie points automatically increase!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites christoofar 0 #12 July 12, 2005 Quoteto attract women? The ladies are turned on by men who have a high status Okay people, the Gilded Age is over. It went out in the 1910s. And the altruism? Please. Volunteering at the soup kitchen isn't going to make ya any more desirable--this article is talking about altrism in the form of "I'm rich enough to have a foundation named after me/my family" or "yes, we raise money for needy kids at our cocktail party in the Hamptons every summer..." I would rather have a someone in my life who admires my pastimes and who I am than a fucking golddigger. Sorry for the language, I've just had way too many golddiggers ruin my family and don't care for them--not one bit. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Douva 0 #13 July 12, 2005 QuoteNew Scientist, the BBC News, and Reuters report that the study of 48 men and 52 women found that while men really believed daring stunts would catch the eye of a woman, the women said such behavior was not attractive. However, men who take risks just for the thrill of it are more likely to be respected by other men. They could have saved a lot of money and just asked me. If a man lands a parachute in front of a crowd of men and women, the women will ignore him, and the men will be all over him like a bunch of drooling school boys. Once, while doing introductions in an AFF class, I had a student tell me he was taking up skydiving "for the chicks." I just laughed and said, "Boy, are you in the wrong sport!" If only meeting women was as simple as hurtling one's self out of an airplane and not dying. C'est la vie.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites tcnelson 1 #14 July 12, 2005 i think that younger women are attracted to daredevils but, when it comes time for a woman to find a partner that will be a stable influence on their children's lives, women look for just that: a stable, family man."Don't talk to me like that assface...I don't work for you yet." - Fletch NBFT, Deseoso Rodriguez RB#1329 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #15 July 12, 2005 Oh, good God. What does that say about me? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skychick312 0 #16 July 12, 2005 you can be a "stable" influence on a child and still jump from an airplane....I would rather find a partner who shares my passion ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be the change you wish to see in the world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #17 July 12, 2005 Absolutely. But people like you and me have the perception that comes from being "on the inside". Non-skydivers don't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skychick312 0 #18 July 12, 2005 fucking whuffos!!! see i gotta find me a hot single skydiver.....preferablly near me in the south.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be the change you wish to see in the world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites christoofar 0 #19 July 12, 2005 Quotei think that younger women are attracted to daredevils but, when it comes time for a woman to find a partner that will be a stable influence on their children's lives, women look for just that: a stable, family man. You could say it's sad or it's poetic justice... but if you is fugly... chile as long as that wallet is fat and green you are the most handsomest bachelor around. I love watching the bald men in their BMW convertibles driving the Schulkyll freeway to/fro work. That car isn't gonna give him his hair back; but there are plenty of shallow women who'll happily jump in the passenger seat like flies on crap! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ChrisL 2 #20 July 12, 2005 If THE REASON I jump was to attract women, I might care about this __ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skychick312 0 #21 July 12, 2005 unfortunately that may be true for some...not all woman are golddiggers, i could care less if you have a fat wallet or not...but a comb-over will not do for me.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #22 July 12, 2005 I do need to add one thing to this, though: being "on the inside" also makes it a tad harder. You're knowingly getting into a relationship with someone who's exposed to all the normal risks of whuffos (car accidents, illnesses, etc.) and who lays an additional risk on top of that. It's scary. But being around them all the time, attractions and relationships are just part of the deal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Guest #23 July 12, 2005 Bummer. And I got into skydiving because I'd heard about all the money and ass I could get. mh ."The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkydivingNurse 0 #24 July 12, 2005 Women are also attracted to men who are more altruistic. For example, in a scenario pitched by the research team, the majority of women were more attracted to a man who saved someone's life than they were to fast driving. Empathy and sensitivity are the traits most women seem to seek. Ummm, I'm a nurse, and I'm still horribly single. I don't drive fast, I save lives, I'm sensitive, and I'm still horribly alone I call BS on the article. Tell women I'm a nurse: eyes start drifting away from me. Tell women I skydive: usually leads to a nice conversation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites karenmeal 0 #25 July 12, 2005 Now they should do a cross-cultural comparison (Comparing the western DZ's and the southeastern DZ's) and figure out what is more of a turn-on to a female skydiver... a skilled freeflyer or a skilled bellyflyer.. Hmmm.. freeflyer. -Karen "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 1 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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christoofar 0 #12 July 12, 2005 Quoteto attract women? The ladies are turned on by men who have a high status Okay people, the Gilded Age is over. It went out in the 1910s. And the altruism? Please. Volunteering at the soup kitchen isn't going to make ya any more desirable--this article is talking about altrism in the form of "I'm rich enough to have a foundation named after me/my family" or "yes, we raise money for needy kids at our cocktail party in the Hamptons every summer..." I would rather have a someone in my life who admires my pastimes and who I am than a fucking golddigger. Sorry for the language, I've just had way too many golddiggers ruin my family and don't care for them--not one bit. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Douva 0 #13 July 12, 2005 QuoteNew Scientist, the BBC News, and Reuters report that the study of 48 men and 52 women found that while men really believed daring stunts would catch the eye of a woman, the women said such behavior was not attractive. However, men who take risks just for the thrill of it are more likely to be respected by other men. They could have saved a lot of money and just asked me. If a man lands a parachute in front of a crowd of men and women, the women will ignore him, and the men will be all over him like a bunch of drooling school boys. Once, while doing introductions in an AFF class, I had a student tell me he was taking up skydiving "for the chicks." I just laughed and said, "Boy, are you in the wrong sport!" If only meeting women was as simple as hurtling one's self out of an airplane and not dying. C'est la vie.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tcnelson 1 #14 July 12, 2005 i think that younger women are attracted to daredevils but, when it comes time for a woman to find a partner that will be a stable influence on their children's lives, women look for just that: a stable, family man."Don't talk to me like that assface...I don't work for you yet." - Fletch NBFT, Deseoso Rodriguez RB#1329 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #15 July 12, 2005 Oh, good God. What does that say about me? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skychick312 0 #16 July 12, 2005 you can be a "stable" influence on a child and still jump from an airplane....I would rather find a partner who shares my passion ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be the change you wish to see in the world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #17 July 12, 2005 Absolutely. But people like you and me have the perception that comes from being "on the inside". Non-skydivers don't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skychick312 0 #18 July 12, 2005 fucking whuffos!!! see i gotta find me a hot single skydiver.....preferablly near me in the south.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be the change you wish to see in the world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #19 July 12, 2005 Quotei think that younger women are attracted to daredevils but, when it comes time for a woman to find a partner that will be a stable influence on their children's lives, women look for just that: a stable, family man. You could say it's sad or it's poetic justice... but if you is fugly... chile as long as that wallet is fat and green you are the most handsomest bachelor around. I love watching the bald men in their BMW convertibles driving the Schulkyll freeway to/fro work. That car isn't gonna give him his hair back; but there are plenty of shallow women who'll happily jump in the passenger seat like flies on crap! ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisL 2 #20 July 12, 2005 If THE REASON I jump was to attract women, I might care about this __ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skychick312 0 #21 July 12, 2005 unfortunately that may be true for some...not all woman are golddiggers, i could care less if you have a fat wallet or not...but a comb-over will not do for me.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kelel01 1 #22 July 12, 2005 I do need to add one thing to this, though: being "on the inside" also makes it a tad harder. You're knowingly getting into a relationship with someone who's exposed to all the normal risks of whuffos (car accidents, illnesses, etc.) and who lays an additional risk on top of that. It's scary. But being around them all the time, attractions and relationships are just part of the deal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Guest #23 July 12, 2005 Bummer. And I got into skydiving because I'd heard about all the money and ass I could get. mh ."The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkydivingNurse 0 #24 July 12, 2005 Women are also attracted to men who are more altruistic. For example, in a scenario pitched by the research team, the majority of women were more attracted to a man who saved someone's life than they were to fast driving. Empathy and sensitivity are the traits most women seem to seek. Ummm, I'm a nurse, and I'm still horribly single. I don't drive fast, I save lives, I'm sensitive, and I'm still horribly alone I call BS on the article. Tell women I'm a nurse: eyes start drifting away from me. Tell women I skydive: usually leads to a nice conversation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites karenmeal 0 #25 July 12, 2005 Now they should do a cross-cultural comparison (Comparing the western DZ's and the southeastern DZ's) and figure out what is more of a turn-on to a female skydiver... a skilled freeflyer or a skilled bellyflyer.. Hmmm.. freeflyer. -Karen "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 1 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
kelel01 1 #22 July 12, 2005 I do need to add one thing to this, though: being "on the inside" also makes it a tad harder. You're knowingly getting into a relationship with someone who's exposed to all the normal risks of whuffos (car accidents, illnesses, etc.) and who lays an additional risk on top of that. It's scary. But being around them all the time, attractions and relationships are just part of the deal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest #23 July 12, 2005 Bummer. And I got into skydiving because I'd heard about all the money and ass I could get. mh ."The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydivingNurse 0 #24 July 12, 2005 Women are also attracted to men who are more altruistic. For example, in a scenario pitched by the research team, the majority of women were more attracted to a man who saved someone's life than they were to fast driving. Empathy and sensitivity are the traits most women seem to seek. Ummm, I'm a nurse, and I'm still horribly single. I don't drive fast, I save lives, I'm sensitive, and I'm still horribly alone I call BS on the article. Tell women I'm a nurse: eyes start drifting away from me. Tell women I skydive: usually leads to a nice conversation. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karenmeal 0 #25 July 12, 2005 Now they should do a cross-cultural comparison (Comparing the western DZ's and the southeastern DZ's) and figure out what is more of a turn-on to a female skydiver... a skilled freeflyer or a skilled bellyflyer.. Hmmm.. freeflyer. -Karen "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
