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So how frustrating is moving. I just don't get it.


I have lived at home pretty much forever because it was cheap and college wasn't. I got the "Quit skydiving or move out" speech lately and so I need to find a place to live by the end of october.

Here is my dilemma. I am kinda picky about people. I am trying to figure out if I should get my own place and rent out the room or try to find someone to move in with. I can't afford to both live on my own and skydive if I don't have some kind of roommate.

I already tried most of my friends to no avail, so I don't know what to do.


Plus to make things interesting looking at some random roommate sites there are guys who room with girls and the other way around who aren't together or know eachother... That seems odd? I guess im just posting cause im in a shitty mood and don't like what options I have at the moment.

*Sigh*

I'm frustrated.

I would love to hear some experiences of others moving in with people they didn't really already know.

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move to the DZ

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move to the DZ

haha I wish, not really possible around here but thanks

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[eeneR 3]

Hate to break it to you...but that is life. Sometimes you cant have everything you want

My .02.....If I were to have a roommate I would be VERY VERY VERY selective. As you have to deal with this person regularly...I made a decision not to have one now. I am much better being on my own as I can be a lil high maintance...in the reverse sense...I like leaving my shit around, dont mind having a lil dog hair hanging around, and do the dishes when I fell the dishwasher can be filled.

Thing is I get along well with most people, but I prefer having my own space. There are quite a few people I have no problem "living with", but it is nice having a place to myself for now anyway.

You have to sit down and think if you can infact have someone living with you, and not only if they are high maintance but are you? What do you expect from a roommate, and what are you willing do do as a roommate. This would be the grounds to start finding one, if you feel you have to have one.

Good luck man....

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[Elisha 1]

You live in Wisconsin of all places...how expensive can it be?

[kelel01 1]

LOL. Sorry . . . sounds just like me a year ago . . . AND a week ago. You can TRY roommates.com, but a) protect yourself from liability, and b) make sure you have a good grasp of the person's personality. Don't take the first person that comes along. As the person LOOKING for a place, you definitely have the upper hand.

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Sometimes you cant have everything you want

Isn't this the truth.

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Sometimes you cant have everything you want

Isn't this the truth.

I know that and I realize that. It just frustrates me. I got told to move out because my mom wants me to stop skydiving and figures I won't be able to afford it.

I want to move out because I hate living at home but I haven't cause it will cut so much into the money I have for jumping.

Kelly:
You really think the person looking for a place has the upper hand?

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Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka

[CanuckInUSA 0]

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I know that and I realize that. It just frustrates me. I got told to move out because my mom wants me to stop skydiving and figures I won't be able to afford it.

For what it's worth I was told by the INS that I'm no longer welcome in the USA (at least as a resident), so next week I'm moving back to my native Canada. So you're not the only person frustrated. I will miss Mile-Hi's new swoop pond that is for sure (not to mention missing Colorado's great 12 month jumping season).

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I know that and I realize that. It just frustrates me. I got told to move out because my mom wants me to stop skydiving and figures I won't be able to afford it.

For what it's worth I was told by the INS that I'm no longer welcome in the USA (at least as a resident), so next week I'm moving back to my native Canada. So you're not the only person frustrated. I will miss Mile-Hi's new swoop pond that is for sure (not to mention missing Colorado's great 12 month jumping season).

Heh that does suck, good luck with the move.

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Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me.
Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka

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Plus to make things interesting looking at some random roommate sites there are guys who room with girls and the other way around who aren't together or know eachother... That seems odd?

nope, mylast roomate was a chick, she is one of the coolest people i know... and there was nothing sexual involved, started out as roomates, turned into friendship... i moved out in march but i still talk to her every once in a while....... my advice too though, if you do get a roomate of the oposite sex you keep is strictly buisness and nothing more other than a friendship if things work out that way...

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My brother's roommate is a girl. They get along great, and she's got a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. her boyfriend likes the situation because Jeanette has my brother around to move heavy objects and open jars, and my brother's girlfriend likes it because he's got someone there who makes sure he has something in the fridge other than beer, and tells him when his clothes don't match and stuff. It does take a lot of trust and rock solid relationships with significant others, though. You don't want your SO wondering if you're getting it on with your roommate.

There are several things to look for in a roommate:

Make sure they like the same neatness level as you do. A slob and a neat freak are not going to get along.

Smoker or non? Make sure they're the same as you. If you're a non-smoker, don't room with a smoker, because even if the smoker doesn't smoke in the apartment, eventually things like sofas smell like smoke. If you're a smoker, don't room with a non-smoker for the same reason. It's something to argue about that isn't necessary.

Drugs and parties: Don't want a die-hard DARE graduate rooming with a pothead. Also don't want someone who doesn't like crowds rooming with someone who loves to throw parties. Talk about what's acceptable to you before you move in. Same goes for loud music,

Drinking: If you don't want to be taking care of a drunk roommate, make sure you don't get a roommate who gets drunk often. If you like to get drunk, make sure that your roommate is okay with that.

Cooking and grocery shopping: Do you shopping together or separately? Split the cost of household items like dish soap and toilet paper, or buy your own and label it? If you like to cook, are you willing to cook enough for your roommate too, and if so, how are you going to work that out financially with the cost of food? Is your roommate willing to clean up if you cook?

Chores: Agree on this before moving in. If you both hate to vacuum, chances are it won't get done. Set up a schedule and agree to stick to it.

Sex: are they gay/straight/bi, and are you ok with that? Also, come to an agreement about overnight guests. How often is ok? You don't want to have a roommate who brings a significant other over every night, so then you end up with two roommates, but you're paying 50% of the rent.

Overall: Put everything in writing. Sign it and give a copy to each party. That way, expectations are clear. You'll probably never pull the document out of whatever drawer you toss it in, but just the act of discussing and signing makes people feel more responsible for what they've agreed to. And, if the other party doesn't hold up their end of the bargain, it's always good to have documentation.

Remember, you don't have to be best friends. Sometimes its better if you're not, because if you're living together and hanging out together, you can get on each other's nerves. Just make sure you can live with the person.

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My experience with roommates has come to this:

I can't live with a best friend and I can't live with extremely messy people. period. the end.

I would be fully aware of what bugs you/drives you insane or what you could see bugging you/driving you insane and avoid it. Simple advice, huh? You'd be surprised how many people don't think about moving in with someone....I find that I don't really see my roommates all that much, but I do see their mess... and it bugs me.

And guys living with girls and the opposite isn't really all THAT odd. I've seen it work a lot. It's better than 4 girls trying to live together, I promise you. Oh and I'm sure this is quite obvious but don't live with someone of the opposite sex that you are at all in any small form or fashion attracted to...

[Amazon 7]

MOVING SUCKS... I have been packing stuff for the last 2 months and moving it to storage( at least anything I plan on keeping.)
I am selling off my house and boats.. and have WAYYYY too much STUFF

So I am going to include some of the yard stuff with the house... and some of the boating goodies will go with each of the boats... when I get done I will have a LOT less crap to move to AZ.

I have done the roomate thing with mixed results.. and will NOT be doing it again.

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Talk to G at the DZ. He might know of a place that's looking for a roomy.

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