GogglesnTeeth 6 #1 October 7, 2005 Well, we have all had it by now.... "The Talk." About how someone can date someone else that is so completely passionate about something like......... say...... skydiving. As a lot of us do, all I talk about is skydiving. I would jump all day, every day, 24/7 if I could, but due to $$$, work schedule, distance to the DZ, gas prices, etc, etc, etc... I don't. She is concerned that since she isn't a skydiver or into it like I am, about how it could possibly work between us. Thank God she hasn't given me "the ultimatium.... skydiving or me." Ugggg.............. had to vent. Goggles and Teeth "You fall like a greased safe!!!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
grue 1 #2 October 7, 2005 QuoteWell, we have all had it by now.... "The Talk." About how someone can date someone else that is so completely passionate about something like......... say...... skydiving. As a lot of us do, all I talk about is skydiving. I would jump all day, every day, 24/7 if I could, but due to $$$, work schedule, distance to the DZ, gas prices, etc, etc, etc... I don't. She is concerned that since she isn't a skydiver or into it like I am, about how it could possibly work between us. Thank God she hasn't given me "the ultimatium.... skydiving or me." Ugggg.............. had to vent. Hand her a rig, and say "Start your jumping, or lose the humping" In all seriousness, I'm sure you'll get it worked out. People have different interests, no matter how good of a couple they are.cavete terrae. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GogglesnTeeth 6 #3 October 7, 2005 Here is the weird thing, she says that she has wanted to do it for a while, but wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself. Doesn't really make sence to me.............. skydiving is more fun with friends IMO. I have told her a few times that she won't truly understand until she jumps at least once......Goggles and Teeth "You fall like a greased safe!!!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #4 October 7, 2005 QuoteWell, we have all had it by now.... "The Talk." About how someone can date someone else that is so completely passionate about something like......... say...... skydiving. As a lot of us do, all I talk about is skydiving. I would jump all day, every day, 24/7 if I could, but due to $$$, work schedule, distance to the DZ, gas prices, etc, etc, etc... I don't. She is concerned that since she isn't a skydiver or into it like I am, about how it could possibly work between us. Thank God she hasn't given me "the ultimatium.... skydiving or me." Ugggg.............. had to vent. Hmmmm... There is life outside of skydiving, you know? Sometimes, it's good to hear from someone who's passion has nothing to do with yours. IMHFO. (the "F" is for French). "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #5 October 7, 2005 QuoteHere is the weird thing, she says that she has wanted to do it for a while, but wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself. Doesn't really make sence to me.............. skydiving is more fun with friends IMO. I have told her a few times that she won't truly understand until she jumps at least once...... Sounds like she wants to carve her own path into the sport rather than as "the girlfriend." It may also be less stressful for her if she's not worried about you, what you're up to, or what you think of her experience. Seems like a reasonable approach."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #6 October 7, 2005 Quotethe "F" is for French I was wondering what that smell was........ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #7 October 7, 2005 QuoteQuotethe "F" is for French I was wondering what that smell was........ Stop smelling my letters. Pervert. Stalker. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #8 October 7, 2005 QuotePervert. Stalker. Yes.............but not when it comes to smelly French people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #9 October 7, 2005 jeesh he goes to paris for 1 hour and now hes mean to french people..... Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #10 October 7, 2005 Quotejeesh he goes to paris for 1 hour and now hes mean to french people..... No I went through the massed stupidity of CDG airport 3 times on my last trip! NEVER AGAIN! And I was on Air France where the snooty flight attendents KNEW DAMN WELL I was an American and would STILL come up and speak French to me. SO I would look back at them and tell them I don't speak French. In French of course.........just to be annoying. However on the flight to and from Prague the flight crew was totally differen't. They were just nice normal people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #11 October 7, 2005 QuoteNo I went through the massed stupidity of CDG airport 3 times on my last trip! I can relate to that! I'd rather have my freakin' eyeballs plucked out of the sockets than landing there one more time! Quote And I was on Air France where the snooty flight attendents KNEW DAMN WELL I was an American and would STILL come up and speak French to me. I had the same problem in Perris. People knew damn well I was French, and still grunted to me. QuoteHowever on the flight to and from Prague the flight crew was totally differen't. They were just nice normal people. Fooled you, uh? "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #12 October 7, 2005 QuoteFooled you, uh? Yeah...........when the French aren't going to America they are actually nice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #13 October 7, 2005 If she gets into skydiving, she'll probably "cutaway" and leave ya for a swoop god or goddess. (Murphy's law)I once said "You can't have ANY of my weekends." to a whuffo girlfriend. "Unless it's a total rainy weekend."Well, that was about our last words i think. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #14 October 7, 2005 QuoteHere is the weird thing, she says that she has wanted to do it for a while, but wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself....... So send her over to Sebastian or up to Z-hills (whichever you don't go to) for a day/weekend. Then, she'll come back and you'll get the "Dear John" talk. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #15 October 7, 2005 QuoteHere is the weird thing, she says that she has wanted to do it for a while, but wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself. Doesn't really make sence to me.............. skydiving is more fun with friends IMO. *** Good on her! I had a SO in So. Cal years ago that would come out to the dz a couple times a month and hang out... She seemed interested and I offered to give her a Tandem but she said that was a carnival ride and not 'real' skydiving....behind my back she went to another school and got through AFF on her own...if was a really neat thing the day she rode up to Elsinore with me...and MANIFISTED herself on a load with me! ...and to add, she also got her scuba card the same way...said she got bored sitting in the boat! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riddler 0 #16 October 7, 2005 Quote Here is the weird thing ... wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself Not weird at all. When I teach scuba classes, I often separate couples. Usually they are OK to leave together, but I watch the dynamics - if one person is pushy, and the other one submissive, I separate them quick. It's not fun if you're trying to learn something and you've got a third person in there that knows how to push your buttons and interferes with your learning. And if you want her to stay in skydiving, then she needs to have positive experiences - especially at the beginning. Don't worry - you'll get to jump together once she's comfortable with jumping. Let her get a few dozen jumps, and let her ask to jump with you when she's comfortable with that.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alw 0 #17 October 7, 2005 QuoteShe is concerned that since she isn't a skydiver or into it like I am, about how it could possibly work between us. My S.O. hates the water, anything to do with it - swimming, snorkeling, scuba, boats etc.etc. I love it She thinks Sci-Fi is stupid I Love it Thinks guns are dangerous and can't understand why anyone would want to go hunting. I love it Skydiving - well you know . . . I love it We've been married 35 years. And how can that be - you ask? I love it, and so does she. You said the magic words - you talked! Keep doing that, don't worry too much about the rest. --------------------------------------------- Every day is a bonus - every night is an adventure. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChasingBlueSky 0 #18 October 7, 2005 If it wasn't skydiving, it would be something else. A strong passion for a hobby/sport isn't a rare thing. If you were training for a Marathon you would be out every day doing that - would it matter? What is the real issue? The danger? The lack of time for her? Or something else. I'm sure she has things of her own as well. Find a middle ground. If you care about each other it won't be that hard. Frustrating, yes....but easy to resolve if you are both adults about it._________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #19 October 7, 2005 QuoteHere is the weird thing, she says that she has wanted to do it for a while, but wants to go jump sometime without me so she could understand it for herself. Doesn't really make sence to me.............. skydiving is more fun with friends IMO. I have told her a few times that she won't truly understand until she jumps at least once...... Sometimes things have to be done for yourself and by yourself. I felt the same way for my first jump. I was the only one at the dz jumping that day since it was a Wed. I agree that jumping with friends is way better but it was something I had to accomplish for myself at first. Hell, what do I know though Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
