Airman1270 0 #26 November 26, 2005 Married at 33, first child at 35. Two more, one when we were 37 and the third at 41. Many advantages to waiting. For one thing, the irritating day-to-day stuff is real easy to deal with, especially after listening to several years of valuable family & child rearing advice from people like Dr. Dobson ("Focus on the Family") and other similar programs on Christian radio. I already did the things a single man in his 20's would want to do, and don't feel I'm being deprived when I stay at home playing "Sorry" while others are partying at the clubs. Of course, there's the energy thing, but (...huff...puff...) I can adapt... Cheers, Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnRich 4 #27 November 26, 2005 QuoteI think having some time to yourself is even more important. I mean preganant happens, so you should go ahead and have your baby, but if you can hold off a few years you'll never regret the years together that you give each other. After my last message, I thought I should have added what you just said - it's a good point. As newlyweds, I think they should spend some time with themselves for a year or two, before adding kids to the mix. Enjoy your new relationship for a while, before buckling down and doing the kids-thing. But then, I think Dave and Morgan may have already had an exclusive relationship for a while, prior to getting married, so maybe they've already done this, and are ready for the next step. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #28 November 26, 2005 QuoteOut of curiosity when did you and your other start your family? 22 when we had our Jaleesa, 23 when our wonder-twins appeared. QuoteDid you feel like you were ready? We were then. I think we kind of immatured over the next few years for some crazy reason!! QuoteDid you plan to start your family? We were actively 'trying' to have our Jaleesa. Our boys were a New Year's Eve's night of marital bliss, we'll just say... QuoteAre you glad you started your family when you did or do you wish you had started sooner or perhaps waited till later? Hard to say, truly. If we'd have waited, we would have been more financially sound. -But given our family circumstances that you know about, I don't know if we could have handled this much physical and mental challenge had we waited a minute longer, ya know? Looking back, I sure wish we had put an extraordinary needs child into our 'what if' equation. It can happen to anyone. Nobody ever prepares for that kind of challenge, and if it comes to you, it is undeniable -the hard parts and the beautiful parts both.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdctlc 0 #29 November 27, 2005 QuoteOut of curiosity when did you and your other start your family? Did you feel like you were ready? Did you plan to start your family? Are you glad you started your family when you did or do you wish you had started sooner or perhaps waited till later? No, we're not pregnant, after spending the afternoon with the in-laws I was thinking about this subject. I figure that you can never have enough practice at making the baby. That way when your ready to go for it your warmed up and not getting cumming off the bench... Practive practice practice and as a side dont have a kid till your in the 30's , you should have gotten lots out of your system and be in a better position to raise the child. If it happens sooner fine but at least get a good 5 years of marriage in before hand...... just my $0.02 We had our daughter at about 5 years of Marriage... Scott"He who Hesitates Shall Inherit the Earth!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
morningdove831 0 #30 November 27, 2005 I was 25 and my ex-husband was 32 when our son was born. The baby was definitely a surprise ... marriage had been bad for quite some time. I'm very glad that my son was born when he was and I wouldn't have changed anything. Even the whole single parenting thing ... much better than where I was! One who looks for a friend without faults will have none. -- Hasidic Saying Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tsampson 0 #31 November 27, 2005 I was 26 and in my last semester of grad school when my first child was born. My husband and I had been married for two years. My son's birth was planned, but I didn't have much personal time when I was in school, and sometimes now wish I had gotten some time for just me and my husband to relax after I graduated. On the other hand, both of my parents died when my kids were both practically infants, and if we had waited, I would have missed the joy of seeing them together. The difficulties of finding a sitter that I trust that the kids don't prefer OVER me is a small price to pay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skydivermom 0 #32 November 28, 2005 Our first son was a surprise and we were married just 3 years when he was born. As someone else mentioned, there is never a PERFECT time to have children. We had our second son (planned) almost four years later. Sure we've had some difficult financial struggles, but we are better and stronger for it. There are always advantages and disadvantages to having kids at any age. We, personally, are happy we had them when we did because we won't be too old when they fly the coop (hopefully). As for not having time to yourself, I think it's VERY IMPORTANT to make time for yourself and do your own thing sometimes. First of all, it benefits children to see that their parents are individuals and have their own lives. Plus I've always believed you can't give away what you don't have. When I enrich and do for myself I am a better mom to my boys, and a better wife to my husband...And of course like someone else said, it's all about balance. Okay, didn't mean to sound too Dr. Philish. This has just been my personal experience. Good luck to you bothMrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites adrenalinejunki 0 #33 November 28, 2005 KIds? Are you crazy?.... __________________________________________________What's the worst that can happen? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 2 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
skydivermom 0 #32 November 28, 2005 Our first son was a surprise and we were married just 3 years when he was born. As someone else mentioned, there is never a PERFECT time to have children. We had our second son (planned) almost four years later. Sure we've had some difficult financial struggles, but we are better and stronger for it. There are always advantages and disadvantages to having kids at any age. We, personally, are happy we had them when we did because we won't be too old when they fly the coop (hopefully). As for not having time to yourself, I think it's VERY IMPORTANT to make time for yourself and do your own thing sometimes. First of all, it benefits children to see that their parents are individuals and have their own lives. Plus I've always believed you can't give away what you don't have. When I enrich and do for myself I am a better mom to my boys, and a better wife to my husband...And of course like someone else said, it's all about balance. Okay, didn't mean to sound too Dr. Philish. This has just been my personal experience. Good luck to you bothMrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adrenalinejunki 0 #33 November 28, 2005 KIds? Are you crazy?.... __________________________________________________What's the worst that can happen? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
