fireflytx 0 #1 November 28, 2005 I moved to Texas 4 years ago from Pennsylvania. The only thing that suck about moving away was my moving away from my family. And I still think the same way to this day. I miss them terribly all the time and they are wonderful parents. So why when we get to visit with each other that they drive me nuts and I guarantee tomorrow when they leave I will be crying my eyes out. Does anyone else have this problem? Maybe it's the fact that when you live near them you arn't up each other's ass 24/7 for a week straight??? I have no idea........."Well behaved women rarely make history" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rwieder 0 #2 November 28, 2005 It's that Love/Hate thing. You love it when they visit and you hate it when they leave. I've noticed the older i get, the more my kids drive me nuts when they visit me. It's sort of they're invading my space kinda thing. I don't know for sure. I do enjoy when they come, and they do aggravate me when they're here. But when they leave i'm thinking "Don't let the door hit you in the ass" So this could be the "flip side" to what your expressing / feeling? In either event, good luck and take care.-Richard- "You're Holding The Rope And I'm Taking The Fall" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pop 0 #3 November 28, 2005 I feel the same way about my family. I have been living at least a 4 hour flight from them for the past 3 years. They are in Texas. It's hard to go so long seeing your family only 3-4 times per year. But when I do....they can deifnitly drive me nuts! I guess thats what parents do. Nevertheless I love them dearly...and it is hard every time I leave.7 ounce wonders, music and dogs that are not into beer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #4 November 28, 2005 I can take about 3 to 4 days of my family.Then it's time to go. . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rehmwa 2 #5 November 28, 2005 I just took the folks to the airport this morning. I think the flight leaves sometime Thursday morning. ... Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bch7773 0 #6 November 28, 2005 arg my parents do something similar... they can't wait for me to go home to visit. then once I'm there we fight and argue all the time. Its annoying and stressful. when i leave they get all sad and tell me to come back soon. MB 3528, RB 1182 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
twibbles 0 #7 November 28, 2005 I've been living on the opporsite side of the world from my parents since i was 16... Went to boarding school in the UK then stayed on for my degree. (they are in singapore, i'm 22 and still in the UK) I usually see them once a year, go home for a month over summer usually. Don't know about you but what annoy's me most of the time is that i'm treated like a small child with no say whatsoever. Might be a cuitural thing, i don't know. Anyway, what i mean't to say, is it happens to me too, i think it might be sometning to do with having someone around who can and do make decisions for me... It could be just me though. Eugene "In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #8 November 28, 2005 I vary rarely see my parents. My mom lives in Oz. and I usually love getting to see her. We can sit and drink beer and get smashed and its just like old friends or something. buy my Dad, lives in Germany, and i can only take him in small doses. Im told its cuz were so much alike the only difference is our age. the rest of my family annoys me quite quickly. I even cut one of my visits short over the weekend cuz i couldnt take anymore of it. Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelpdiver 2 #9 November 28, 2005 QuoteI can take about 3 to 4 days of my family.Then it's time to go. This is the new variant of Ben Franklin's guests are like dead fish remark. 3 days is about my tolerance. Great for that long, then seems to tail off rapidly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #10 November 29, 2005 I live about 3100 miles from most of my family and that makes it tolerable most of the time.. I love them to death but MAN I can't be near them most of the time. At least my mom has mellowed with age... and as long as she comes out alone.. its fun to have her around for a week or so. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #11 November 29, 2005 I used to consider visiting my parents to be akin to death by slow torture. I was always the black sheep of the family (yeah, imagine that!) and learned that anything I said could, and definitely would be thrown back in my face at a later date. I suppose I should take most of the blame. Over the course of many years I had given them loads of reason to suspect that I, their son, was the Antichrist. On the other hand, as parents they have a very sincere interest in what's going on in my life. What really brought out the maximum hellishness in the vists was the loudly-ticking grandmother clock on the mantle above their livingroom fireplace. This wonderous device made for some visits that would make Chinese water torture seem pleasant. The ticking was the perfect background for those frequent long, awkward uncomfortable silences. Well maybe not perfect. Crickets chirping would probably have been a bit better. Anway, here they were, not much going on in their lives and they had an interest in what was going on in mine. I, who had been tried and convincted (rightfully so, I might add) in the court of family opinion had mastered the art of the short and evasive response. "So, Walt, what have you been up to in the past 20 years?" "Nothing out of the ordinary." The above, might be pretty typical in some households, but the ticking of the clock worked pure magic. "tick, tick, tick tick..." "So, Walt, what have you been up to in the past 20 years?" [My translation: "We have ways of extracting information out of uncooperative prisoners. It is not even a question of can we get you to talk, but only how long it will take. We can break anybody. Breaking you will be child's play."] tick, tick, tick..... [my thoughts: I don't care whether they use electrical shocks and anal probes, they will get nothing out of me!!!] tick, tick, tick... [my thoughts: Ok, this is going to require a web of lies and deceit like the world has never before seen. They are professionals, they will put every answer under a microscope and disect it down to its tiniest nuance. Everything I say must be so completely consistent that it is absolutely air tight.] tick, tick, tick... [my thoughts: Ok, here goes. Take a deep breath. Remember, Walt, you are about to embark on a very long journey through the most densely-booby-trapped field of landmines ever created. Your survival depends on it, so don't rush. Be absolutely deliberate.] "Nothing out of the ordinary." tick, tick, tick... Fortunately, it's gotten a lot better. My father gets pretty worked up when he talks about politics these days, so all I need do is say something like, "So Dad, what do you think about George Bush's latest handiwork?" What follows that question is normally a highly-entertaining rant that makes me wish he weren't so computer-phobic. I would introduce him to Speakers Corner! Anyway, it takes me out of the hotseat and the visits are much more pleasant. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #12 November 29, 2005 Where are you from in PA?? My mom has about a ten day expiration date on her and my father a three. Love them dearly, but that is just the way it is... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #13 November 29, 2005 I moved out in my mid-teens, eventually moved as far away as I could from my mom.... can take about 2 days, maybe 3 of seeing my mom before I feel like I would rather gouge my eyes out then sit in the same room with her... as far as other family members, well havent seen my brothers (got 7 of them) in a decade, and those Ive see recently, there is always a few who start fist fights.... we actually made it through thanksgiving without a fist fight.... although there were a few threats Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hungarianchick 0 #14 November 29, 2005 I miss my mom terribly too, but anything more than a few days under the same roof with her drives me nuts! You grow up, move away from home, you change. It's pretty simple, really. "I love cooking with wine. Sometimes I even put it in the food." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #15 November 29, 2005 For me, the phone is close enough...My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #16 November 29, 2005 My parents haven't been in my house in 8 years And they lived 5 miles away. Now they live 1400 miles away. Miss them, but i can only tolerate a few minutes with them before i think they are rude,crude, and not people i would be friends with otherwise. I don't talk to my brother at all. Maybe 3 sentences/paragraphs a year. It's not me, it's them i swear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #17 November 29, 2005 Quote... It's not me, it's them i swear. Understandable with you being the shy guy and all...My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
