Ways to please a man, let me count the ways...one two three...

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Well I thought of a poll, but I just want the blunt truth from the ladies and I want the guys to truthfully say what they think they need from us. maybe some walls will come down and some myths will be solved.

I think Jeff Foxworthy hit the nail on the head for most... I want a cold beer, something to eat and I want to see something naked.

All that aside I think men like blow jobs, sex and someone who they can share the same interests with. Someone who doesnt give them a bunch a crap for just being themselves, but still gives them a challenge. I.E. without being a bitch about it. Your best friend shouldn't be griping at you all the time. They should be growing with you all the time.

HEre we go lets see what comes from this post.

I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being
right.

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Well I thought of a poll, but I just want the blunt truth from the ladies and I want the guys to truthfully say what they think they need from us. maybe some walls will come down and some myths will be solved.

I think Jeff Foxworthy hit the nail on the head for most... I want a cold beer, something to eat and I want to see something naked.

All that aside I think men like blow jobs, sex and someone who they can share the same interests with. Someone who doesnt give them a bunch a crap for just being themselves, but still gives them a challenge. I.E. without being a bitch about it. Your best friend shouldn't be griping at you all the time. They should be growing with you all the time.

HEre we go lets see what comes from this post.

Ok, how to please a man (or atleast me)... no jokes either.. dam'n
Be like me but not identical to me, love of life and love living it.... be my friend as well as my lover and companion... accept me for who and what I am and don't try to change me because it just isn't going to happen in this lifetime... don't expect me to know what to do all the time, show some initiative and take the lead from time to time...

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

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I think Jeff Foxworthy hit the nail on the head for most... I want a cold beer, something to eat and I want to see something naked.

Well... two out of three ain't bad...

I think it's kind of hard to say what works for all men (or women for that matter...) because basically everyone is different.

but like someone else said... I want to be able to be myself without catching too much crap. It'd be really awesome to be able to do a lot of things together... I sort of dated a girl once that was intellectually awesome but... she couldn't run... wasn't overly active... etc... so... it didn't work out.

I'm not sure I know what I want... maybe that's why I'm still single.

Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife...

[masterrig 1]

I think, you hit the nail on the head! Far as I'm concerned. My wife, is like you described. I got the world by the butt. She spoils me rotten and makes me laugh. I can't complain... if, I tried!


Chuck

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Someone like you who understands a simple man would be nice. Go tell your husband how lucky he is.

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Okay but that is just me where are the rest of the ladies? I was hoping to get both genders talking about it openly. Oh well, maybe we will get more answers from the ladies later on. But thanks guys for being open and honest.

I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being
right.

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Okay but that is just me where are the rest of the ladies? I was hoping to get both genders talking about it openly. Oh well, maybe we will get more answers from the ladies later on. But thanks guys for being open and honest.

Apparently the other ladies are either busy washing their hair or figure all it takes to please a man is sex, sex, or sex...

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

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Apparently the other ladies are either busy washing their hair or figure all it takes to please a man is sex, sex, or sex...

Or... we're being quiet and trying to learn here.

(gees.... try to sit back and pick up some pointers and ya get dogged for not just babbling.....)

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Apparently the other ladies are either busy washing their hair or figure all it takes to please a man is sex, sex, or sex...

Or... we're being quiet and trying to learn here.

(gees.... try to sit back and pick up some pointers and ya get dogged for not just babbling.....)

Note to self... STFU

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

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Women are awesomw but um.... what do you do with them the other 23 hours of the day? Just kidding!

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[Broke 0]

Women need to learn the rule of bacon.
Rule of bacon. Bacon when added to anything can only make it better.

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[Beverly 1]

ooooh, I love this.
I am not sure I can comply with all of these, but I can assume I will get some male fans.

Wake up in the morning - Shag
Run bath for man
Have coffee ready when he is out of bath
goodbye kiss
Delivered lunch to work
Hello kiss at door with beer
Dinner served, preferebly semi naked
Remote control in hand
go to bed
shag

Repeat all week.

Pack for DZ on Friday night
Drive to DZ Sat am
Pack man's parachute all weekend.
Provide food and drinks all weekend.
Be available for drunken shags all weekend.

Expect nothing in return but beer breath and a 2 (two) minute shag at most.
Be content looking after the kids and house and man
Don't have a life of your own.

So guys, am I close??

Tempting : But No!
Sorry.

I think true friendship is under-rated

Twitter: @Dreamskygirlsa

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I think that would be a nice fantasy for some guys, but most would get annoyed with the domestic rituals.

Tell us....

-woman at home, you're in charge, every thing is calm, predictable, and coddled

or

-woman with her own mind, equal stance, lots of play (sex, guns, jumping, driving, ect)

(not that I'm planning on changing who I am, but just curious what the thoughts might be)

[Broke 0]

Copius ammounts of sex would be just fine.

I don't need it every night,
every morning would be just fine.
A little sex that's all we're asking for."
-Canable The Musical

It's a line from a musical it has to be true

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[cocheese 0]

Will you marry me ? I'll do all that and more for you too. I love the way you think.

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-woman at home, you're in charge, every thing is calm, predictable, and coddled

...and when you arrive home, Elvis is riding a unicorn around the front yard...

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(not that I'm planning on changing who I am, but just curious what the thoughts might be)

So am I.

I have no idea what works. I finally asked my therapist, an old Army psychologist, if it was me. (I was married to a diagnosed narcissist at the time.) He told me that I when I finally picked a "normal" (i.e., non-pathological) guy, I'd have a normal relationship.

I know how I am in a relationship, but I manage to pick men who want to run my life as well as their own...and when confronted with my resistance--in short, definitive sentences--they would express bewilderment at my "psycho behavior."

The guy who had a list (I still have it somewhere) of all the things I was going to be doing for rest of my life--his goals for me, none of which were things I had any desire to do. But to be the wife he wanted me to be...well, you get the idea.

The guy who married for my money (well, I don't have any, but at the time, he figured I would inherit from my grandparents, and he was prepared to wait). In the meantime, his idea was that I should be the house slave.

The guy who...well, it doesn't matter...the point is that there are some guys (and I think I've run into all of them in my 47 years) who are such control freaks that, for them, a woman is like an appliance. And God forbid she should want to do anything when unplugged.

I'll do just about anything to make someone I care for happy, but I'm not a Stepford Wife, and it seems there are a lot of men who want one.

I keep trying though. They can't all be crazy.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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I keep trying though. They can't all be crazy.

There's a few good ones out there.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

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There's a few good ones out there.

Definitely. I was once told to quit looking for "interesting weirdos" and then I'd find a good relationship.

Well, I definitely am in a good relationship. I'm willing to say what I need, and accept it as given (i.e. don't keep working at it -- gifts are exactly that). And reciprocate.

But a woman can't make a man happy, any more than a man can make a woman happy. Happiness is one's own responsibility, and part of that is helping the other person understand what might stand in the way of it.

And then living with it if the cost is too high for the other person...

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

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Happiness is one's own responsibility, and part of that is helping the other person understand what might stand in the way of it.

That's not rocket science, but leave it to the rocket scientist to point that out. It's amazing how many people *do* believe that someone else can make them happy.

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But a woman can't make a man happy, any more than a man can make a woman happy. Happiness is one's own responsibility, and part of that is helping the other person understand what might stand in the way of it.

For someone who is pathological, all the "helping with comprehension" in the world isn't going to do a damn thing to fix anything, because such people simply do not have the mental flexibility to see another point of view.

A miserable son-of-a-bitch is going to continue to be a miserable son-of-a-bitch no matter what you do for him.

But it is possible to add to the happiness of others, the same way it is possible to inflict misery upon them. In the latter case, when you come upon a black-and-white thinker, about all you can do is head for hills, because unless you have the hide of a rhino and nerves of steel, you'll never be happy around such a person.

On the other hand, if being in a relationship didn't add to one's happiness, there would be no point in having relationships. The key (IMO) is having empathy for one's partner's needs and wants, and going as far as possible to accommodate them. That works with two normal people whose desire is to see their partner happy. In a situation where one partner is a control freak, the other partner can never do the right thing or enough of the right thing.

The end result of that is that one partner is miserable as a function of his/her natural mental state and the other partner is miserable because the situation is impossible. There's only one solution to that, but some of us waste a lot of time coming to that conclusion.

It's kind of like being responsible for one's own orgasm--it's a great idea in theory, but if we make the mistake of getting in bed with someone whose idea of sex is wham, bam, etc. (someone who, in spite of all effort, is not going to change how he/she performs), the choices are either to live life satisfaction-free or to masturbate.

So I mostly agree with you, but the topic is "ways to please a man" and my post spoke to that and not to the general idea of making another person happy.

rl

Edited to add: Mostly my post spoke the fact that I have no idea what you do with someone who won't be pleased no matter what you do. I'm just a little mind-wiped today, I think. And very cranky from lack of sleep.

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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Where are you picking up men RL?

I was told that we are attracted to certaint traits in people. This being said there are certain types of people who have similiar traits. You have to find what traits you are attracted to, and then figure out how to find men who don't have those negative traits expressed as much. Basic psychology teaches up that everyone has all the same traits, however the extent to which they are expressed are different. In short we all have some asshole in us whether we are 100% or 1% asshole is what makes us all different.

I will relaite a quick tale of a friend I used to have. Aparently he was attracted to certain women who as it would turn out were lesbians. It is strange because they would actually date him for a while.

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Where are you picking up men RL?

Uh...



I don't use drugs and I rarely drink, so no bar pickups for me.

The only men I've been around for years and years are lawyers and parachutists, and I haven't been around too many lawyers (except the ones I currently work with, all of whom are married) in a long time.

And at least one of these guys was a friend of mine for a very long time. But when we got involved, he showed me a side I'd never seen.

Look, all this is predictable. There are a lot of great guys in the world, and I know quite a few of them. The defect in all this is what I'm attracted to, and the same characteristics that make a guy interesting to me are the same characteristics that make a narcissistic control freak.

It's my issue because of the choices I make, even though I know better. The beginning of a relationship is the time to be very picky, so that one doesn't become involved with someone who has no hope of working out. Giving the benefit of the doubt at that time, when a thousand warning bells are going off, is not a smart move. I'm getting a lot better at cutting my losses sooner, but it's always painful. And worse still, it's my fault because it's the most easily preventable thing in the world.


rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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I keep trying though. They can't all be crazy.

There's a few good ones out there.

My ex may not have had any kind of crazy disease, but I think she may have been a "carrier". If you stuck around long enough, you'd be crazy, whether you started off that way or not.

[Channman 2]

Seems you had an ass for a man.