Are you the "Black Sheep"

[airtwardo 7]

I choose to wear bondage pants instead of shopping at the gap.

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Soooo...How YOU doing???!!





~I was the black sheep for the longest time, my older sister being the folks 'Pride & Joy'...a real All American!

but somewhere along the line we switched roles after she pulled off a series of real bone head moves.


I may take a different path, but seem to end up at the right destination none the worse for wear.

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[brierebecca 0]

Actually, I'm not the black sheep in my family. I always got good grades, dressed conservatively (I still wear a lot of Gap clothes and abercrombie jeans, but it's really more because I can just pick any pair of jeans and a t-shirt and it all matches - less time getting ready in the morning), and I'm headed for a decent career. Yea, I've done the drugs, been arrested, and done some other fringe-type activities. But it's been more of a growing process than anything.

My dad is a school psychologist, and he says my brother, sister, and I all fit exactly into the steriotypical molds modern psychology sets for us when one considers when we were born. I was born first. I'm the overachiever, I'm competitive, and I'm not afraid to try new things and be outgoing. My brother was next, and he's more of a homebody and less adventurous, and cares more about his family life than his career. My sister almost failed out of high school, and she does all the crazy drugs and loves contra-dancing and her art more than anything. She's pierced her face and generally rebelled against my parents more than any of us. I'm not sure these steriotypes work all the time, but they worked with us.

If anything, my sister is more of the black sheep than my brother or I. I'd be curious to know how many of the "black sheep" on here are the youngest chilren in their families. Just for experiment's sake.

Brie

"Ive seen you hump air, hump the floor of the plane, and hump legs. You now have a new nickname: "Black Humper of Death"--yardhippie

[masterrig 1]

Growing-up, I felt as though I were the 'black sheep'. I avoided family gatherings... I had better things to do. Reading, consumed my life during those years and music. When I tired of reading , there was my guitar. Then, there was the outdoors! When I graduated high school, I hit the road and didn't look back. I had an infatuation with all things western (U.S.). Took jobs along the way when funds were low. I'd gather enough then head-out for someplace else. Had some incredible experiences and met people I'll never forget. I was always looking for what was around the next curve in the road or what was over the next hill or mountain. It all ceased, with my first marriage. A waste of time for both of us. The road called again and along that road, another marriage. This one was even longer and totally dead-end. I could never 'settle'. I could never see me in a 'career' or any of that. There were too many experiences out there. Now, not much has changed but, I've got someone who is of the same cloth and so now, I have the best of both worlds. She not only supports my 'dreams' but joins me in those dreams. So, maybe, I was the 'black sheep'. I've had fun... it's been a blast! I think, I see a curve up ahead...


chuck

[Dumpster 0]

My family is so dysfunctional we're ALL "black sheep". I'll be even more so now, becuase I'll be first in the family to get divorced TWICE!

Easy Does It

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

I'm the youngest......by the time they had me...the rules didn't apply anymore because from day one I was a handful.


Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[boinky 0]

I USED to be the good little girl of the family. Yeah, I went through my fair share of marriages, kids, etc., but I still did the "right" thing..which pretty much ended up being what everyone else but [B]ME wanted me to do.

Then one day, something happened. Call it mid-life crisis..call it finally standing up for myself. I started changing.

*I started skydiving (they got SO tired of hearing my skydiving stories).
*I lost almost 70 lbs. (It was like I was a whole new woman)
*I started doing things I wanted to do for a change.
*I developed my now current happy, bouncy/pouncy attitude towards life.

Still...I was being the good little girl for the most part. Taking an entire day off to take to run errands for my mom (she doesn't drive). You know...take her to see my dad in the nursing home, the grocery store, doctor visits. I URGED her to learn to drive, to get on the senior bus route, to get some friends. Something so that she wouldn't be so dependent on me any more.

Most of my kids were driving or doing their own thing, just the same. "Mom, who?" But I still cleaned house, cooked, and was the chief errand runner.

In late 2004/early 2005, my world totally fell apart. My marriage crumbled. My income had dropped drastically. I lost an opportunity to be on a world record. I gained all that lost weight back. Having totally lost my direction, I was now fat again, my job sucked big time, I couldn't afford to jump any more nor travel to do CRW, and had no homelife security. I cried almost every day from unhappiness.

In June, I came to Texas for three weeks and had the time of my life. The "family" didn't even hardly miss me. And God, I just loved it here!

I got back to Georgia and things were no better. PLUS I now had a garnishment on my practically non-existent paycheck. I made a supreme decision. I quit my job, packed up my shit, made arrangements for my kids (they refused to come with me) and I moved to Texas.

Now, when I call my children and my mom, all they can do is give me grief that I moved to Texas. My sister, who lives in Florida, won't even return an e-mail any more, because she's mad I moved too.

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Why did you have to move? Why Texas? Can't you move back to Georgia now? You don't care about us any more.

I cry sometimes because of these snubs. How can they be so cruel and ugly acting?

So yes, [B]NOW I guess I am the black sheep of the family. But no matter what they think, I'm happier now....and isn't being happy what life is supposed to be about?

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[masterrig 1]

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I USED to be the good little girl of the family. Yeah, I went through my fair share of marriages, kids, etc., but I still did the "right" thing..which pretty much ended up being what everyone else but [B]ME wanted me to do.

Then one day, something happened. Call it mid-life crisis..call it finally standing up for myself. I started changing.

*I started skydiving (they got SO tired of hearing my skydiving stories).
*I lost almost 70 lbs. (It was like I was a whole new woman)
*I started doing things I wanted to do for a change.
*I developed my now current happy, bouncy/pouncy attitude towards life.

Still...I was being the good little girl for the most part. Taking an entire day off to take to run errands for my mom (she doesn't drive). You know...take her to see my dad in the nursing home, the grocery store, doctor visits. I URGED her to learn to drive, to get on the senior bus route, to get some friends. Something so that she wouldn't be so dependent on me any more.

Most of my kids were driving or doing their own thing, just the same. "Mom, who?" But I still cleaned house, cooked, and was the chief errand runner.

In late 2004/early 2005, my world totally fell apart. My marriage crumbled. My income had dropped drastically. I lost an opportunity to be on a world record. I gained all that lost weight back. Having totally lost my direction, I was now fat again, my job sucked big time, I couldn't afford to jump any more nor travel to do CRW, and had no homelife security. I cried almost every day from unhappiness.

In June, I came to Texas for three weeks and had the time of my life. The "family" didn't even hardly miss me. And God, I just loved it here!

I got back to Georgia and things were no better. PLUS I now had a garnishment on my practically non-existent paycheck. I made a supreme decision. I quit my job, packed up my shit, made arrangements for my kids (they refused to come with me) and I moved to Texas.

Now, when I call my children and my mom, all they can do is give me grief that I moved to Texas. My sister, who lives in Florida, won't even return an e-mail any more, because she's mad I moved too.

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Why did you have to move? Why Texas? Can't you move back to Georgia now? You don't care about us any more.

I cry sometimes because of these snubs. How can they be so cruel and ugly acting?

So yes, [B]NOW I guess I am the black sheep of the family. But no matter what they think, I'm happier now....and isn't being happy what life is supposed to be about?

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Just going by what you've said, I think, the 'green-eyed monster' might have rared it's ugly head. I think, they are a bit jealous of you. You gained your 'power' and independence. I'm no shrink but, that's what it sounds like. You can take it back again. You're in Texas and you've got a 'do over'. All that has happened to you has kept you depressed. You're taking it out on food and ignoring what you have to do for yourself to be 'accepted'. That's just my opinion because, I've been there. I shucked a 2nd. wife because I felt 'obligated' 'held down' and a whole bunch of other stuff.
Anyhow, back to you. You'll find folks who really will/do, care about you and aren't selfish. Do whatever you did before to lose the weight and get back to CRW or whatever makes you happy. It's really tough, when it all involves family. Quit letting them put guilt trips on you.
I guess, you've found a job and I hope, things really work-out for you. Just from what I've read that you've written here, you seem like one heckuva gal. Praying, doesn't hurt, either. Anyhow, all the very best to you and be well.


Chuck

[waltappel 1]

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I knew there was a reason why I liked ya!


Bobbi

And I thought it was because of my wit and charm.

Oh well, the black sheep thing will do.

Walt

[masterrig 1]

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I knew there was a reason why I liked ya!


Bobbi

And I thought it was because of my wit and charm.

Oh well, the black sheep thing will do.

Walt

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Hell no! It's that tie-dye and ghetto camo, bud!

(Nope! I ain't about to let you live that one down.)


Chuck

[waltappel 1]

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In late 2004/early 2005, my world totally fell apart. My marriage crumbled. My income had dropped drastically. I lost an opportunity to be on a world record. I gained all that lost weight back. Having totally lost my direction, I was now fat again, my job sucked big time, I couldn't afford to jump any more nor travel to do CRW, and had no homelife security. I cried almost every day from unhappiness.

Where do I sign up!!!

Seriously, we're happy to have you here in Texas!

Walt

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Silly boy.....there are MANY reasons why I like you, come on...I'm not that shallow.


Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

All I can say is.........................

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[waltappel 1]

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I knew there was a reason why I liked ya!


Bobbi

And I thought it was because of my wit and charm.

Oh well, the black sheep thing will do.

Walt

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Hell no! It's that tie-dye and ghetto camo, bud!

(Nope! I ain't about to let you live that one down.)


Chuck

Please, guys, I'm on my knees. I'm begging all of you. Please stop the beatings!

Yes, I have sinned. I have flagrantly violated the fashion sensibilities of some of my dearest friends, and I know I must atone for that.

But my nice soft, warm, long-sleeved tie dyed shirt is soooooooooooooo comfortable. And those BDUs have soooooooooooooooo many pockets. It's this thing inside me. It's stronger than I am. I can't help it.

I just gotta have that comfort and all those pockets!

So pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease stop the beatings.

I'm a nice guy. I'm not hurting anyone. How about if I promise to never post any more pictures? Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease guys?

Walt

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

You know what I'm wearing a pink tye dyed shirt!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO, you can't have it.



Seriously,
Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[waltappel 1]

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You know what I'm wearing a pink tye dyed shirt!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO, you can't have it.



Seriously,
Bobbi

YOU, Bobbi, are my kinda woman!

See there Chuck? See there Lisa Marie? I'm NOT the only one!

Nyah, Nyah!!!

Walt

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

I actually have an "official" USPA shirt that is tye dyed with a four man formation on it. It is one of my favorites.

Tye Dye is cool in moderation.........


Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[boinky 0]

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becuase I'll be first in the family to get divorced TWICE!

HAH! I WIN!!! I've been divorced three times now.

oh wait...is that really winning?

Sigh.....

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[masterrig 1]

Chuck

[boinky 0]

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I think, the 'green-eyed monster' might have rared it's ugly head. I think, they are a bit jealous of you.

Is it green-eyed jealousy, or anger because I'm not there for them to snap their fingers and get me to jump at their beck and call any more?

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Do whatever you did before to lose the weight and get back to CRW or whatever makes you happy

Now that I've moved to a more permanent residence, I plan on going back to the weight loss stuff. I can't do CRW because of my weight. My Lightning is a 126. Overall, I am happy now.

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get back to CRW

Sigh...I [B]REALLY miss CRW. For me, CRW, is the [B]ONLY discipline out there.

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Quit letting them put guilt trips on you

But they're REALLY good at it...and I'm such a soft hearted weenie! They make me cry...not that I tell [B]THEM that!

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Just from what I've read that you've written here, you seem like one heckuva gal.

Pfff...I'm just, well, me!

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Anyhow, all the very best to you and be well.

Thanks, Chuck!!!

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[boinky 0]

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Where do I sign up!!!

You wanna sign up for my ex life? Have you lost your mind?

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Seriously, we're happy to have you here in Texas!

Thank you..thank you very much! I like it here!

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[masterrig 1]

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You know what I'm wearing a pink tye dyed shirt!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO, you can't have it.



Seriously,
Bobbi

YOU, Bobbi, are my kinda woman!

See there Chuck? See there Lisa Marie? I'm NOT the only one!

Nyah, Nyah!!!

Walt

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Don't get me wrong! I've got nothing against tie-dye. It's just the combination of the shirt and the ghetto camo. Hell, I like Jerry Garcia and he wore tie-dye. Some of it's really cool.
The tie-dye shirt with... oh, maybe... bell-bottom washed-out jeans... a bit retro but cool. Just not with the camo, dood!


Chuck

[boinky 0]

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All I can say is.........................

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance

[masterrig 1]

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I think, the 'green-eyed monster' might have rared it's ugly head. I think, they are a bit jealous of you.

Is it green-eyed jealousy, or anger because I'm not there for them to snap their fingers and get me to jump at their beck and call any more?

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Do whatever you did before to lose the weight and get back to CRW or whatever makes you happy

Now that I've moved to a more permanent residence, I plan on going back to the weight loss stuff. I can't do CRW because of my weight. My Lightning is a 126. Overall, I am happy now.

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get back to CRW

Sigh...I [B]REALLY miss CRW. For me, CRW, is the [B]ONLY discipline out there.

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Quit letting them put guilt trips on you

But they're REALLY good at it...and I'm such a soft hearted weenie! They make me cry...not that I tell [B]THEM that!

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Just from what I've read that you've written here, you seem like one heckuva gal.

Pfff...I'm just, well, me!

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Anyhow, all the very best to you and be well.

Thanks, Chuck!!!

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I think, you see the 'big' picture and you're gonna be fine. Sounds as though you're getting it together.
If, I was any help... great. If not, I'll stay out of it.
Glad to hear you like Texas so much. Welcome.


Chuck

[drae 0]

I was definitely the "Black Sheep" in my younger days. I was the only "hippie" in the family and thank God it was the 70s. I am sure I would not have survived in todays world doing the things that I did. Just about partied myself out before the age of 25. Married my psychologist who was 24 years my senior. Continued to be the odd-ball of the bunch! (He was an odd-ball too) Had a baby, he left, and I became an ADULT. Remarried and played the good wife/mother for 16 years. Didn't have fun for the majority of them. I woke up one day and decided I would try and learn how to laugh again and have not looked back!! Found whitewater and the sky somewhere in there and am soooo happy now! I am the "Black Sheep" once again...I think I am most comfortable there. I like having the independence of marching to my own drummer. Don't think I will ever have it any other way!!

[godfrog 2]

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Ooooh godie goodie goodie....I can so relate.



OBTW....Baa baa baa




Bobbi

OH GOD!!!! in Montana we sooooo love sheep, of any color

Experience is a difficult teacher, she gives you the test first and the lesson afterward