I'm done helping out a certain single mother

[cocheese 0]

I'm clueless. The more you know , the more you know you don't know. So actually i feel dumber at 38 than i did at 12.

[RhondaLea 4]

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I would NOT have blamed my bad parenting on a well meaning co-worker.

Agreed wholeheartedly with everything you wrote, but especially this.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

[crotalus01 0]

plenty of parents out there who dont give two shits what their kids watch. i see absolutely nothing wrong recommending Band of Brothers to the kids mom for (heres the catch) parental consideration based on the kids interests.
hell, i cant tell you how many times i have been in a R rated film that was TOTALLY unappropriate (to me) for anyone under 17 and sitting one row up was a mother father and 9 year old (most recently Hostel - those who have seen it please tell me if you think a 9 year old should see that twisted shit).
bottom line is she should have reviewed the material before the kid watched it - with that series she could have made her mind up from a single episode so throw out that bullshit about it being too long to watch it all

As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD...

[AlexCrowley 0]

wasnt' blaming anyone.

Everyone else is using the word blame.

TV's got them images, TV's got them all, nothing's shocking.

[cloudseeker2001 0]

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Well, in the first place why would you even recommend a movie with gore and nudity in it to a 12 yr.old CHILD?

It's an HBO miniseries, people get shot in it. It's not my place to judge what her child should or shouldn't watch, I recommended it for the historical and entertainment value. The whole thing isn't one gigantic slaughter......

HAHA! As a follow-up movie, strictly for historical purposes, you should lone her son Full Metal Jacket!

"Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance,
others mean and rueful of the western dream"

[GTAVercetti 0]

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wasnt' blaming anyone.

Everyone else is using the word blame.

I wouldn't scrumdalant my bad parenting on a well meaning co-worker.

Why yes, my license number is a palindrome. Thank you for noticing.

[Binkus 0]

I wouldnt worry about it to much, you gave her a advanced warning and she didnt care to take your advice on it. In my opnion I think it is a fine movie for a 12 year old (watched with the parents) and can prove to be educational. Yes some scenes are on the gory side but it is also quite hystoricaly acurate and a important part of our hystory. I think that it is important for people to learn and truly understand the sacrafices soilders have made in the past, It seems that now days many people do not see this and take to much for granted. Your typical G rated hystorical film dosent do that, but something that dosent hold back will begin to show some of the sacrafices made. This is just my view and being that I have no children and I am in the millitary my views and beliefs can be quite different than others. Either way you still have to work with her so It is probably best in both of your interests to salvage the relationship.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

If my children were into wars and such as I was as a child (still am) I would allow them to watch such. We watch animal shows, and well those are some of the most violent and mature things I personally have ever seen..... naughty cheetahs

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[JohnMitchell 16]

You're not a parent. She is. It's okay that you recommended the shows. She should have thought about the offer and said "No." Easy enough. Parents need to act as censors or harbingers of what is appropriate for their younger children. I'm tired of parents exposing their kids to all kinds of inappropriate crap at too young of an age. Sure, they hear a lot of stuff on the school bus, but the parents should be the examples of what's okay and what's not.

[JohnMitchell 16]

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i have been in a R rated film that was TOTALLY unappropriate (to me) for anyone under 17 and sitting one row up was a mother father and 9 year old (

i've seen it too, and know a few who do that. They are too cheap or lazy to get a baby sitter. Idiots!

[RhondaLea 4]

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i have been in a R rated film that was TOTALLY unappropriate (to me) for anyone under 17 and sitting one row up was a mother father and 9 year old (

i've seen it too, and know a few who do that. They are too cheap or lazy to get a baby sitter. Idiots!

I don't go to the movies, but I went when my daughter was young to take her.

If there was a movie she wanted to see with an inappropriate rating, I learned the reason for the rating and made a decision. I usually decided she could see what she wanted.

As I said above, she loved horror movies, and she fully understand the difference between the fantasy gore of movies and the real gore of a living creature who has met with an ill-fate. She learned this both from doing wildlife rehab with me and on the dropzone.

As for sex, I started educating my daughter about sex at a very early age. She asked questions, I answered, without any embarrassment or stuttering. When she was four, she found a copy of A Child is Born in the store, and she asked for it, and we read it together.

She has a very healthy attitude about sex, in spite of the crap we get from the media in all its forms.

In another time, children were spared nothing. They saw everything. The only thing that's bad today is we don't talk to them about any of it; we just let them find out on their own and figure it out as best they can. The result is a lot of fucked up and crazy kids.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

[tigra 0]

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If my children were into wars and such as I was as a child (still am) I would allow them to watch such. We watch animal shows, and well those are some of the most violent and mature things I personally have ever seen..... naughty cheetahs

Not just that, but if the kid is "into" war, he's old enough that he should see war for what it really is, beyond the cool planes and stuff. Kids that age are exposed to violence and bad language on a daily basis just by turning on the TV or playing video games. Band of Brothers would be a far better choice than most of last night's prime time line up!

[bazelos 0]

Clearly her kid is a pussy. Ok, well as long as you told her that it has such and such things on it and she should watch it first, I don't think it's your fault, but maybe you shouldn't have bought and lend the series to her, just tell her she should check them out herself.

He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.

[SkyDekker 1,465]

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In another time, children were spared nothing. They saw everything. The only thing that's bad today is we don't talk to them about any of it; we just let them find out on their own and figure it out as best they can. The result is a lot of fucked up and crazy kids.

This is very much worth repeating!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tbrown 26]

Most unfortunate. However, B of B, which is a most excellent production, is a bit much for 12 years old in my opinion. But she should also keep a civil tongue in HER head.

Cooler tempers all around would be better, perhaps even being graceful enough to say something like you may have been mistaken. It's that or go on hating each other, I'd go with the touch of humility and see how that works.

Your humble servant.....Professor Gravity !

[tumbler 0]

Band of Brothers is actually rated TV-MA... should have maybe clued the mom in, had she actually looked or perhaps garnered a stronger warning from you, had you looked.

In the end it is the parents job to monitor this. The 600 minutes are broken down into bite size hour long segments. Not an impossible task if you care what your kids are watching. There is far more sex in an episode of Friends than in BoB... and the gore had to be expected, it is a show about WWII.

It is however the finest miniseries I have ever seen.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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Kids that age are exposed to violence and bad language on a daily basis just by turning on the TV or playing video games

Yes most children are, therefore the avg child that age would see a great series of a portrayal of war. Personally my kids do not watch even a disney movie without me previewing it first. There are several that I have bought that they are not able to watch as of yet. It took great debate just to let them watch the movie "Robots" in the end they won that battle

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[thegreekone 0]

Furthermore, ratings aside, 12-year olds can handle people getting the legs blown off. I never kept my daughter from watching anything, but we did talk about it either during or after.

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Research has shown that ALL negative effects of watching sex and violence (whatever THOSE are) are negated when mediated by parent or adult authority figure.

And yes, that woman obviously has issues. You gave her every out and only with the best intentions. You're in the clear. How disappointing...

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[groundrush134 0]

If the mother was so concerned and was unfamiliar with the material she should have known that she would never actually take the time to review a 600+ minute series and declined the offer. (thanks but no thanks.....really isn't that hard to say) It is not briguys responsibility that this woman chose to let a DVD baby-sit her child! Also, it is sad when someone is trying to be nice and it blows up in ones face, very sad.

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