How Do Your Perceptions Of People Affect Your Relationships?

[RhondaLea 4]

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Every "Rhonda" I've ever known has been very strange.

Same ... except that you dramatically understated it for me.

Bite me.


Humor aside, this thread bothers me.

Yes, people do what windcatcher said. Superficial stuff is easily recognizable, but stupid. But we are also influenced to like and dislike others on a subconscious level also. Getting to the root of that is sometimes difficult, but well worth the effort. Those who can't do it have a problem requiring professional help.


Still, I do highly recommend staying away from women named Rhonda.

They bite.

rl

If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

[leapdog 0]

I'm dying to write somethign here, but I'm afraid I'll say something that will offend someone or someones friends or maybe a certain demographic. soI just typed this to get the bug out.

Gunnery Sergeant of Marines
"I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker

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But we are also influenced to like and dislike others on a subconscious level also. Getting to the root of that is sometimes difficult, but well worth the effort.

Thanks for saying what I was thinking. To me, those preconceptions are really just a lazy way to not have to evaluate each person as an individual, and take them for their own worth.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

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Absolutely...

Even physics takes into account the perception of the universe.

Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife...

[windcatcher 0]

I SAID NO LECTURING!!!

I think if we are aware of our tendency to serve ourself and have misperceptions of others, we won't make the mistakes over and over as much.

Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...

[PLFXpert 0]

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I think if we are aware of our tendency to serve ourself and have misperceptions of others, we won't make the mistakes over and over as much.

Oh my gosh, I'm SO aware of my tendency to serve myself

Maybe that's why I tend not to judge others too quickly. Believe it or not, it's true

Edited to add (to save me from myself): I believe you have to serve yourself before you can best serve others---generally speaking.

Edited again to add: Damn. Now due to my own use of the phrase "Believe it or not" I can't get the All American Hero song out of my head.....Oh good, the Cher commercial just came on This is the song...for the lonely....can you heeaar me toooniiight

This is strange and pointless, but for some reason I always laugh to myself what a mind reader would think as he/she was sitting as people walk past & reading their deepest thoughts. Then here I come singing some ridiculous song to myself. I ALWAYS have a ridiculous song in my head. I wake up with them. The other day I woke up singing my elementary school almamater song.

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

[NWFlyer 2]

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I SAID NO LECTURING!!!

I think if we are aware of our tendency to serve ourself and have misperceptions of others, we won't make the mistakes over and over as much.

Yes, but Sarah, one of the things you will learn is that very few people in the world are truly self-aware.

As Annie Savoy said in Bull Durham: "The world is made for people who aren't cursed with self-awareness."

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Yes I realize that, I think it's extremely difficult--->but that doesn't mean you shouldn't bother trying. If people would be aware of their self centeredness more and other things, I think people would be happier in their relationships. I myself wish I was more aware of my self-centeredness, though it defintely is a struggle.

However, when I am being selfish and take a step back, in that moment I can focus on serving someone else and trying to better their life instead of me trying to get things my way.

Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...

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Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeere we go

Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...

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Yes, but Sarah, one of the things you will learn is that very few people in the world are truly self-aware.

If there were a "How Self-Aware Are You?" test, I think I'd score big.

The sad part is, I accept me flaws and all--even the selfishness. I don't view it as a bad thing, though plenty would disagree. And, then some of my closest friends/family would disagree that I could be labeled "selfish". But, I totally am. And I have no problem with that

It's important to me, to keep ME happy. I don't see how that's a bad thing. I don't view it as a bad thing in others. I don't view a lot of things that have a negative connotation bad. But, I can smell bad from a mile away. Little things like this or that do not make you a bad person---I know people who seemingly are always doing the wrong thing, breaking laws, but I know are very good people. Then, you can have the complete opposite. The latter sickens me.

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.