briguy 0 #1 February 15, 2006 You all may remember my speed dating thread, if not too bad. I ended up going out with BusyAmy. BusyAmy is a single mother and runs her own business. She's busy. No exaggeration, we played phone tag for three days before arranging a date. We were going to meet for coffee on a Saturday afternoon because she had some baseball team parent meeting at 5 or 6. We ended up ditching the coffee place and ate chips and salsa at a mexican place instead. Chemistry was outstanding (there was no alcohol involved either!) and I left the date feeling pretty good. It was a Saturday and she was flying out of town on Sunday for business. I didn't expect to hear from her for a day or two. I left her a voicemail and an email, basically saying I had a good time and wanted to see/talk to her again. That was two weeks ago with not a peep in between. I'd given up on BusyAmy last Wednesday. She had been home from her trip for two or three days, plenty of time to return a call or email. So I wrote her off. So yesterday I got an eValentine with some singing bunnies singing me a song about kissing. I was very confused. I told BusyAmy I was confused. She said she was sick. I'm tempted to give BusyAmy another chance, but I have a feeling that it will be more of the same.... dating isn't a high priority on her list. Maybe I'm just too demanding? Holy crap, am I high maintenance? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #2 February 15, 2006 I sent a bunch of e-valentines out. Not all of them were romantic interests. One was. Just take it as a cute little "girl thing" and try not to let it confuse you. Thank her for thinking of you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
briguy 0 #3 February 15, 2006 Quote Just take it as a cute little "girl thing" and try not to let it confuse you. Thank her for thinking of you! i got the impression that this was a romantic card. as for not being confused, it's difficult for my male brain to comprehend the mixed message of not calling and then sending a valentine. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #4 February 15, 2006 The bad news is, you're high maintenance. Chill. The good news is, she's interested. Often times people who are worth being with keep themselves very busy. It's what happens to intelligent, motivated people. It's not a bad thing. Being in a relationship in which your SO is the only interesting thing in your life, however, is a very bad thing. Go with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #5 February 15, 2006 She freakin busy....You have to decide if you can stand her being so busy and also if you are alright with , for now anyway, you not being high on her list of priorities...maybe when the relationship gets going abit more that may change. Sounds like this ralationship might be a bit of work to get it going though. You into that? BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #6 February 15, 2006 One date so far... I don't think you can draw a lot of conclusions about her actions. Try another one and see where it goes."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #7 February 15, 2006 QuoteHoly crap, am I high maintenance? Do you really want to know?If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
briguy 0 #8 February 15, 2006 QuoteThe bad news is, you're high maintenace. Chill. i was just kidding about that part of my post. I know I'm not high maintenance. It's not unreasonable to expect a call / email more frequently than every two weeks. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #9 February 15, 2006 QuoteQuote Just take it as a cute little "girl thing" and try not to let it confuse you. Thank her for thinking of you! i got the impression that this was a romantic card. as for not being confused, it's difficult for my male brain to comprehend the mixed message of not calling and then sending a valentine. Well there you go. Shes sending a very clear message that she is the type of girl who sends mixed messages. Don't try to decipher the mixed message.. it never means what you think it means. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #10 February 15, 2006 Think of how you feel when you are sick. Now think of what it would be like to still take care of a kid and run your business when you feel like that. Give her a break for not calling.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #11 February 15, 2006 I know you were kidding, I'm just saying the situation isn't that bad. Would you rather have that, or would you rather she call you every single day after just one date? I don't know about you, but that would creep me the fuck out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #12 February 15, 2006 QuoteI know you were kidding, I'm just saying the situation isn't that bad. Would you rather have that, or would you rather she call you every single day after just one date? I don't know about you, but that would creep me the fuck out. Really good point to briguy: One date does not mean that "you're dating." At this point, you don't get to set any expectations (or hopes) about her behavior. Once you're actually in a relationship, then you can have the chat about how much you'd like to hear from her, but at this point, you're a guy she's gone out with *once* and that she probably would like to see again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #13 February 15, 2006 Yah.. and remember that if shes speed-dating you, then shes probably speed-dating other guys too.. and there are only so many hours in the day. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
funks 1 #14 February 15, 2006 If she didnt put out after you were kind enough to treat her to chips and salsa then my infinite wisdom tells me its time for you to move on Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #15 February 15, 2006 mmmm.. chips and salsa. Throw in some of Chaoskitty's famous crack margaritas, and you've got yourself a damn good time! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #16 February 15, 2006 QuoteThe bad news is, you're high maintenance. Chill. The good news is, she's interested. Often times people who are worth being with keep themselves very busy. It's what happens to intelligent, motivated people. It's not a bad thing. Being in a relationship in which your SO is the only interesting thing in your life, however, is a very bad thing. Go with it. what he/she said.This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #17 February 15, 2006 Quotei was just kidding about that part of my post. I wasn't. QuoteI know I'm not high maintenance. I see. QuoteIt's not unreasonable to expect a call / email more frequently than every two weeks. Would you be kind enough to go post this to the Base Zone? There are some lads over there who are unaware of this standard. Seriously, Brian, a single mother with a job doesn't have a lot of spare time, and even if she's already head over heels, she has responsibilities. If you can't deal with that, then let her find someone who can, because it isn't going to change. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #18 February 15, 2006 QuoteQuoteThe bad news is, you're high maintenace. Chill. i was just kidding about that part of my post. I know I'm not high maintenance. It's not unreasonable to expect a call / email more frequently than every two weeks. Unfortunately, as a representative of men, I hate to inform you that while you may think of it as a joke, the rest of us have come to the conclusion that by posting this fru fru question to the internet....you are indeed high maintanence, and are bordering on your testicles shrinking inward and developing your very own ovaries to go with these "feelings" that you are having. Before this happens, I must ask for your man card. We cannot possibly allow a newfound woman such as yourself to carry a card. Access to our sports bars, cigar rooms, and poker clubs would be unfathomable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
briguy 0 #19 February 15, 2006 Quote ... a single mother with a job doesn't have a lot of spare time, and even if she's already head over heels, she has responsibilities. she has a 13 year old son, it's not like she has two-year old twins. How long does it take to type up "hey brian, i made it back from san diego. i'm really sick but we'll talk later" and hit the send button. two minutes. i'm not sure what her deal is, thanks to everyone for the PoV ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #20 February 15, 2006 Maybe she's playing hard to get. Lighten up, Dude. Give the chase and if she doesn't respond, find someone who isn't so busy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wildcard451 0 #21 February 15, 2006 Quote...i'm not sure what her deal is... If you can't spot the sucker at the table in the first 10 minutes....it's you. If you can't figure this situation out....I'd bet money that it is you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AlexCrowley 0 #22 February 15, 2006 This thread? TV's got them images, TV's got them all, nothing's shocking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wildcard451 0 #23 February 15, 2006 No. THAT thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AlexCrowley 0 #24 February 15, 2006 See, I was thinking THOSE threads. TV's got them images, TV's got them all, nothing's shocking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites unformed 0 #25 February 15, 2006 Quote How long does it take to type up "hey brian, i made it back from san diego. i'm really sick but we'll talk later" and hit the send button. two minutes. you went on one date, she does not owe you anything. hell, my parents raised me, and i actually care for them, and i live half an hour away, and i talk to them once a month. at times i haven't seen them for six, seven months ... 'cause i'm too busy with my own business ... and i don't have a 13 year old kid that i have to drive around everywhere .... give the woman a break ....This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 1 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
wildcard451 0 #21 February 15, 2006 Quote...i'm not sure what her deal is... If you can't spot the sucker at the table in the first 10 minutes....it's you. If you can't figure this situation out....I'd bet money that it is you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlexCrowley 0 #22 February 15, 2006 This thread? TV's got them images, TV's got them all, nothing's shocking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #23 February 15, 2006 No. THAT thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlexCrowley 0 #24 February 15, 2006 See, I was thinking THOSE threads. TV's got them images, TV's got them all, nothing's shocking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unformed 0 #25 February 15, 2006 Quote How long does it take to type up "hey brian, i made it back from san diego. i'm really sick but we'll talk later" and hit the send button. two minutes. you went on one date, she does not owe you anything. hell, my parents raised me, and i actually care for them, and i live half an hour away, and i talk to them once a month. at times i haven't seen them for six, seven months ... 'cause i'm too busy with my own business ... and i don't have a 13 year old kid that i have to drive around everywhere .... give the woman a break ....This ad space for sale. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
