When a guest brings expensive wine to a dinner party . . .

[Girlfalldown 0]

Dave, are you seriously trying to give etiquette advice? This is just too funny.

So does flinging one's ox-like body over comfortably cuddling women tend to be acceptable or is the possibility of rib crackage make it tacky?

(I think my rib is still bruised)

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So does flinging one's ox-like body over comfortably cuddling women tend to be acceptable or is the possibility of rib crackage make it tacky?

That's a tricky question. The correct answer, of course, is that it depends on the women.

Blues,
Dave

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[Zenister 0]

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yeah, it's a gift, so what.

if it is really a gift, WHY do you attempt to determine its use?

seems that its really not a gift is it?

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[Girlfalldown 0]

I just have one more thing to say and only a few will understand:

"The whole point was, I didn't even spill my beer!"

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yeah, it's a gift, so what.

if it is really a gift, WHY do you attempt to determine its use?

seems that its really not a gift is it?

ok, first off, there is a difference between what's right and what is right. second, no, it's not really a gift, it's more like a considerate contribution that everybody makes and everybody gets to relish.

relax......judge Smails

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Strawberry Hill! Yummy! It was like wine cool aid. I think it was 99 cents a bottle. Everyone got their own.

Holy crap I did some of THE DUMBEST shit in my life drunk off of Boone's strawberry...

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yeah, it's a gift, so what.

if it is really a gift, WHY do you attempt to determine its use?

seems that its really not a gift is it?

Hmm...I understand what you're saying here. The thing is, nowdays, people have parties and invite others over. They ask them to bring a dish and a bottle of wine or beer or something. You bring some cheese and a nice wine to go with it. The wine disappears but the cheese is put out. How does that work?

I travel with a wine opener for that very reason. Walk in, set the cheese down, grab the opener and pop that wine right then and there.

If it's something for dinner though I usually keep the wine in my bag until dinner is served. Then when the course comes where I want to open it I go break it out. That way everyone gets to enjoy it and there's no uncomfortableness. It's like a nice little treat for everyone. Of course if the caliber of the wine being served already blows mine away I just don't even take it out and I might leave it with the hosts at the end of the night as a thank you. I guess it all depends on the type of evening it is. If it's really formal it's different than if it's just a group of friends having a pot luck kind of thing.

If someone brought wine over to my place and we ended up not opening it I would probably insist they either take it back or I would save it for the next time we got together to open it. That's just me though.

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[thegreekone 0]

Holy crap I did some of THE DUMBEST shit in my life drunk off of Boone's strawberry...

[Zenister 0]

but unless YOU are planning the party why attempt to impose your tastes on your host and their guests..

bringing a 'fake gift' with the expectation of its use and inclusion is disrespectful to your host.. if you are that hung up on drinking the wine YOU choose.. have YOUR own party... otherwise enjoy what someone else has planned and accept that your preconceptions wont always fit the moment...

its rather selfish and blatantly rude to insist on your wine at someone else's party..

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[Orange1 0]

I don't know what the 'etiquette' is. At our house - if the wine the guest has brought is around the same quality as what is already there/open, it may or may not be opened depending on how fast we go through the other bottles But if it is better quality or an unusual wine, it will be opened.

I would consider it an insult to say to a guest "we're saving this for a special occasion", implying that having the guest there isn't special Anyway, for really special occasions we will have champagne (usually Veuve), not wine!

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[Ncrowe 0]

If I'm invited to a party at my friends house and I bring a bottle of a good wine it isn't a christmas gift. I brought it to enjoy with my friends ...not to have it put up and enjoyed when i'm not around. You know the saying...good wine good friends......

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but unless YOU are planning the party why attempt to impose your tastes on your host and their guests..

bringing a 'fake gift' with the expectation of its use and inclusion is disrespectful to your host.. if you are that hung up on drinking the wine YOU choose.. have YOUR own party... otherwise enjoy what someone else has planned and accept that your preconceptions wont always fit the moment...

its rather selfish and blatantly rude to insist on your wine at someone else's party..

dude, seriously, you must chill. Yer strokin out, right? admit it! FAKE gift?

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yeah, it's a gift, so what.

if it is really a gift, WHY do you attempt to determine its use?

seems that its really not a gift is it?

Hmm...I understand what you're saying here. The thing is, nowdays, people have parties and invite others over. They ask them to bring a dish and a bottle of wine or beer or something. You bring some cheese and a nice wine to go with it. The wine disappears but the cheese is put out. How does that work?

I agree generally, but there is a HUGE difference between a "potluck" / "wine and cheese" party and a "Dinner Party". At the former all wine is accepted and most consumed (although its funny to see who is jockying for what bottles at times)

At the later the host has often gone to great pain to plan and arrange the meal.. sometimes into several courses with various wines, expecting that the wine (even the absolutely fabulous Amarone) you brought to be included at the last minute is ridiculous...

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but unless YOU are planning the party why attempt to impose your tastes on your host and their guests..

bringing a 'fake gift' with the expectation of its use and inclusion is disrespectful to your host.. if you are that hung up on drinking the wine YOU choose.. have YOUR own party... otherwise enjoy what someone else has planned and accept that your preconceptions wont always fit the moment...

its rather selfish and blatantly rude to insist on your wine at someone else's party..

dude, seriously, you must chill. Yer strokin out, right? admit it! FAKE gift?

nope not one bit.. in fact relaxing with a fabulous Amarone right now...

gifts with strings attached arent gifts...

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[Girlfalldown 0]

I think I get where he's coming from. If it's a really nice dinner someone has planned all the way through from the food to the wine then bringing a bottle could be perceived as a gift and it might not be that innappropriate to say thank you and put it on the shelf. It just depends on the type of dinner you're going to.

Another thing, if it's wrapped or put in a nice bag then it IS a gift and in my opinion it is NOT supposed to be opened that night unless the host wants to open it.

So I think the right thing to do now would be to argue viciously about what the difference is between a dinner party, a party, a pot luck, etc.

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[thegreekone 0]

nope not one bit.. in fact relaxing with a fabulous Amarone right now...

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well that is just "dirty pool"

gifts with strings attached arent gifts...

dude...let it go, seriously.

[Ncrowe 0]

Just for the record if anyone wants to bring some fake gifts over to my place don't worry I'll make it's opened and long gone before anyone thinks about leaving. Heck if it's a dinner party I might even break out the karoke machine after desert :)

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[thegreekone 0]

So I think the right thing to do now would be to argue viciously about what the difference is between a dinner party, a party, a pot luck, etc.

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[Girlfalldown 0]

I just realized that he never said it was a gift. It was a bottle of wine he brought to share at a dinner party.

I love misunderstood arguments about nothing.

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[Ncrowe 0]

Well, she took me to the river
Where she cast a spell
And in that Southern moonlight
She sang this song so well

"Don't Mess Around With the Guy in Shades- Oh No!!! "

[Ncrowe 0]

Actually that makses a lot of sense, it's my fuggin wine I just might let you have a glass if you calm down

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[Zenister 0]

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nope not one bit.. in fact relaxing with a fabulous Amarone right now...

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well that is just "dirty pool"

gifts with strings attached arent gifts...

dude...let it go, seriously.

let go of what? i'm not holding on to anything except my wine glass at the moment.... but i dont believe in giving 'gifts' with strings attached either... if its a gift.. its yours.. do what you will with it.. if i want to share it NOW i'll grab the opener from my car, but i'd never expect a Host to bow to my whims at their party...

I also try not to have ulterior motives ever.... unfortunately its not a common or respected trait anymore..

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[thegreekone 0]

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I just realized that he never said it was a gift. It was a bottle of wine he brought to share at a dinner party.

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no more questions, your honor. The defense rests. *then takes a drink*

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[thegreekone 0]

let go of what? i'm not holding on to anything except my wine glass at the moment.... but i dont believe in giving 'gifts' with strings attached either... if its a gift.. its yours.. do what you will with it.. if i want to share it NOW i'll grab the opener from my car, but i'd never expect a Host to bow to my whims at their party...

I also try not to have ulterior motives ever.... unfortunately its not a common or respected trait anymore..