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When a guest brings expensive wine to a dinner party . . .

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Keith    0

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isn't it considered polite to open it and share it? I ask because I have, on more than one occasion, brought an expensive bottle of wine to a dinner party only to have the host or hostes say something to the effect of, "this is too good to drink, I'll just save it for a special occasion" and put it away. What the fuck? This isn't a special occasion?
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So I went and did a search... on one of the sites I found this statement.

"Should you serve the wine that people bring as a hostess gift? It’s your call. The wine your guest brings is a gift, so strictly speaking it is up to you whether to serve it or not. Sometimes guests bring bottles that simply don’t go with what you are serving. You can try thanking your guest and saying that you will enjoy their wine the next time you cook (name a suitable dish)."

So I think the answer is it depends on what was being served for dinner and if the bottle of wine went with that meal (regardless of the price...) Personally, I think it should be served if it goes with the dinner even if its percieved as "better for a special occasion"

It all comes down to the meal.
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If you bring a bottle of wine its a hospitality gift for the host of the party and they are not required to open it. One valid reason for not opening is that it may not pair well with the meal or other drinks being served.

The wine is you thanking the hosts for inviting you...as its a gift, they can do what they want.

Personally, if someone brings a bottle to my house and if we didn't get to open it I save it for the next time they come and make sure they know about it.

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It is absolutely NOT required that the host serve it that night.

You're bringing a gift. The host now owns that bottle. If the host decides it's the right wine for the evening, that's great. If the host decides to hoard it for another occasion, that's great too.

If you don't want the host to make that decision, bring something other than wine.

Or open your wine on the doorstep before knocking.


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Well Keith, Did it come in a screw top bottle?



Yeah, Keith. Bring them a Lambrusco next time.:D
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If you brought a bottle of wine to drink with the dinner they were serving just be sure to say "I brought a bottle of wine for us to enjoy with our meal" or something like that. If it's a gift for an occasion it's up to the host. Personally I bring wine to people's houses all the time (because I'm in the wine business). I always make it a point to let them know if I'm bringing it to go with the meal, bringing it to drink before the meal or if its something they should age and drink when they want.

It's kind of a sticky situation for you if you don't say anything.

Another question. If you offer to help someone out with an event, say a birthday or something, maybe donate a case of wine to it, if they don't use that wine is it expected for them to give it back? Or is a thank you card from them sufficient? That's also a weird one.

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isn't it considered polite to open it and share it? I ask because I have, on more than one occasion, brought an expensive bottle of wine to a dinner party only to have the host or hostes say something to the effect of, "this is too good to drink, I'll just save it for a special occasion" and put it away. What the fuck? This isn't a special occasion?



Abso-fucking-lutely! :S

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If a guest brings a bottle of wine, expensive or not, it should be offered that night.

Emily Post would certainly agree.



Actually, Emily Post does not agree.

As wine is often carefully paired with food, it's entirely up to the host as to whether or not they wish to use the wine that night. Wine should never be brought with the expectation that it will be served that night.

What can I say? I was forced to go to finishing school as a teenager. We see that turned out well... :D

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Girlfalldown    0

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Emily Post can kiss my ass. :D That shit might have worked in 1922 but this is 2006. Times change. Wine's even a bigger part of life in the US now and when people bring something to share they most certainly can request opening it (unless they confirm that it's a gift for the host).

Not bashing your finishing school though. That's really cool. I wish I learned some manners when I was a kid. Instead I just learned how to strip bikes, ride dirtbikes, get beat up by my brother and dress like a retarded slut.

I never did learn how to dress...

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I wish I learned some manners when I was a kid. Instead I just learned how to strip bikes, ride dirtbikes, get beat up by my brother and dress like a retarded slut.



I'm not far behind you.

Just 'cause I learned 'em doesn't mean I used 'em. ;)
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livendive    8

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Actually, Emily Post does not agree.

As wine is often carefully paired with food, it's entirely up to the host as to whether or not they wish to use the wine that night. Wine should never be brought with the expectation that it will be served that night.



This assumes good food and good wine. If a proffered wine is substantially better than the fare opened by the host, it would be rude to save it for private consumption while serving plonk to the guests, regardless of a potentially off-kilter pairing. On the other hand, if the wine being served is on equal footing with the wine brought, not getting to it that night is within the realm of reason.

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thegreekone    0

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Emily Post can kiss my ass.

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Yeah! Furthermore, rather than WAITING for a special occasion, why not make an occasion special, HUH!? >:(

yeah, it's a gift, so what. Whenever I bring wine (which is always), I ask what they are serving or what the hosts like. Unless there is too much wine (yeah, right), said wine should be consumed and enjoyed.


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