Rebecca 0 #51 March 29, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteQuote The lady doth protest... (just not enough to actually convince) Sometimes playing a role, no matter how much of a stretch it is, is fun. So, what exactly are you implying? That it would be a stretch for you to really resist. You said it yourself. Did I miss the plane again? Dammit. Yes, but are you suggesting "I couldn't resist you even if I wanted to because you're just irresistable like that", or "The concept of me resisting any man's advances is a stretch" It does make a difference you see. you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GTAVercetti 0 #52 March 29, 2006 More the first. However, not because I am irresistable, but simply because you said your protest was more of an act than real. In other words, you playing the role of protesting lady is a stretch. I would not imply the latter. I don't even know you. Why yes, my license number is a palindrome. Thank you for noticing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #53 March 29, 2006 Quote Yes, but are you suggesting "I couldn't resist you even if I wanted to because you're just irresistable like that", or "The concept of me resisting any man's advances is a stretch" It does make a difference you see. Quit your bitching and screaming!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #54 March 29, 2006 QuoteI would not imply the latter. I don't even know you. Good, 'cause then I'd have to start Bitching & Screaming at you, even though that's not really my style. (you can carry on almost not feeling me up now...) As for the B&S'ers, that sort of response is like a boomerang that whips around and smacks you in the face. It doesn't communicate, it does anger, and you're more likely to get a screaming match in return or a backhand just to stop the noise. you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #55 March 29, 2006 QuoteI'm sorry...but my personal opinion, thats just makes us women look bad...Freakin' raving lunatic!!! There are other "ways" to get what you want. Men, why do you put up with that??? Women, how do you get what you want? I've gotten to that point more than a few times. I don't think most women start out bitching and screaming (there are exceptions), but I think that in dealing with certain kinds of people, it just evolves. The next step is giving up. We had a 75 year old woman come in with her 80 year old husband, ostensibly for estate planning. As it turned out, she wanted a divorce. Given what I heard that day--with both of them in the room--I'd have divorced him too...if I didn't kill him first. But at that point--although he talked about her rages (in the past tense), all she did was talk, quietly, in a shaking voice, with tears in her eyes. He acknowledged that it was about all she did anymore. Emotional abuse brings out the worst in women and men. Most men just get really passive-aggressive. Most women--when they're still trying to "fix it" will resort (as a last resort) to screaming, shouting, crying hysterically and possibly even throwing things. Usually it's because the man will do everything in his power to provoke such behavior so he can then turn it around and make the effect (the screaming) the cause of his own shitty, abusive behavior. My own stories in that regard, btw, revolve around a diagnosed narcissist and a crackhead, as well as the guy who married me when I was 22 because he saw it as a way to avoid losing his house. So yeah, Bobbi, there are better ways, but with some people, you can't get shit, no matter what you do. And if you're still wed to the idea that you can salvage the relationship, it can get pretty loud and ugly. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GTAVercetti 0 #56 March 29, 2006 QuoteQuoteI would not imply the latter. I don't even know you. (you can carry on almost not feeling me up now...) Done. Why yes, my license number is a palindrome. Thank you for noticing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leapdog 0 #57 March 29, 2006 Quote I'm sorry...but my personal opinion, thats just makes us women look bad...Freakin' raving lunatic!!! There are other "ways" to get what you want. Men, why do you put up with that??? Bobbi You're right, it does make women look bad. There are much much better ways to get what you want. It is behaving like an adult facing the facts, owning your behavior and having a calm rational discussion without pointing fingers or getting defensive. I don't put up with that, and never have. In the past, as a result, I get blamed for not caring, being insensitive, or being a wimp because I refuse to talk to someone who is acting like a child throwing a tantrum. I usually give one or two warnings about the offensive behavior and then walk. Use it a learning lesson or a red flag to look out for in the future. IMO if the SO won't or can't change on thier own after both have talked about it and made the apologies then maybe the pair isn't right for each other. Gunnery Sergeant of Marines "I would like it if I were challenged mentally at my job and not feel like I'm mentally challenged." - Co-worker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #58 March 29, 2006 Whoa! I swear you are describing my mother. My mother is a screamer. A bitcher. The queen of bitchers! I got her a shirt one year for Christmas that said "Born To Bitch". All I remember from the age of 7-18 is her screaming at us. She would scream and walk up and down the hall from my room, back to the living room couch, sit a while, think of more stuff to scream and scream it from the couch, then keep screaming while she would walk back to my room to scream some more. I truly think this is some kind of mental disorder. My whole family has a sort of inside joke about my mother and her screaming. It's weird. It's like something clicks in her head and suddenly this "speech" comes out in a high pitched, annoyed tone. It changes for the different situation a little. You know the kind of stuff that makes you feel awful when you watch it on the after school special about the verbally abused kid... "Are you stupid or something? Do you think I'm stupid? What's wrong with you?" That kind of stuff. She does it now to my grandma (her mom), my brother, my aunt, everyone that lives near her. She does it to people that attempt to be her friends and then she wonders why no one wants to be around her. It's really sad. I don't allow it anymore personally because the moment she tries it I just hang up the phone and don't answer or return her calls for a few months. That's why I moved out the day I turned 18. That's also why screaming doesn't work on me or for me. I usually just get quiet. If someone's screaming at me I go blank and I don't hear a word of it. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #59 March 29, 2006 WoW! I'm sorry..... My Mom isn't so much as a "bitching" type of person..she was more likely to grab your hair when you turned tail to run from her.....she was very quick to hit us, she is also a "nagger". "Did you do this, did you do that? Well when are you going to? Why don't you do it faster? Well...when you are done with that...will you do this too?" Nag, nag, nag.... BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #60 March 29, 2006 Oh yeah, my mom did all that too. I remember getting smacked with the brush side of a hard brush and having 50 pin pricks bleeding out of my arm for not doing something to her liking. SWAP! AHHHHHGGG! It's funny now but it wasn't then. My brother and I used to be terrified of her. She's a meanie! Luckily I have this wonderful grandmother (her mother) to look up to. She's the complete opposite. Loving, kind, strong! She's even pretty funny. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #61 March 29, 2006 I wished my grandparents were around when I was little...I really think that is when my Mom started to crack...when she lost her Mom (I was about 11)..it was very hard on her. Gosh when she got pissed off you could hear her "heavy" walking down the hall...thats when you knew she was pissed....you had either run or hide..because if she got ahold of you...well..it was just plain ugly. My sister and I laugh, NOW, about "Mom's heavy walking" Boom boom boom! Not so much then. I promptly left home when I was 17 right after graduation to get away from her and a few other meanies.... BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #62 March 29, 2006 I know the heavy walk too! Man, the shit that shapes us... -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #63 March 29, 2006 Quote Man, the shit that shapes us... YeahI'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #64 March 29, 2006 Funny what you can remember and what seems so funny now as opposed to back then. BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
