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I can't say for my parents as the are still doing well... but I can speak on how my parents (and their siblings) took care of my grandfather.
He was a great man and raised 6 children all of which are very close... 3 of the sisters still live in the same area. He lived on his own for most of the time after my grandmother died. Unfortunaltely he did suffer from alzheimer's and around at around 81 years old my family made the difficult decision, 1st to take away his car keys (it was necessary and I was involved in one of the incidences that cemented the requirement) then shortly after that they moved him in to a home that specialized in memory loss. (I was not around when the did this but I understand that he had always worried about that sort of thing and was primarily conserned that he would be "forgotten" or something like that...
This couldn't have been further from the truth. My parents lived about five minutes away from the place... and someone from the family was over nearly every day. Either my parents or someone else in the family took him to church every Sunday. He was very well taken care of in the place... and everytime we visited he was happy...
alzheimer's is a very difficult desease to deal with... for both the person its happening to and the people around them...
Oh, overall I don't think there is a specific answer for all people but this worked for us...
He was a great man and raised 6 children all of which are very close... 3 of the sisters still live in the same area. He lived on his own for most of the time after my grandmother died. Unfortunaltely he did suffer from alzheimer's and around at around 81 years old my family made the difficult decision, 1st to take away his car keys (it was necessary and I was involved in one of the incidences that cemented the requirement) then shortly after that they moved him in to a home that specialized in memory loss. (I was not around when the did this but I understand that he had always worried about that sort of thing and was primarily conserned that he would be "forgotten" or something like that...
This couldn't have been further from the truth. My parents lived about five minutes away from the place... and someone from the family was over nearly every day. Either my parents or someone else in the family took him to church every Sunday. He was very well taken care of in the place... and everytime we visited he was happy...
alzheimer's is a very difficult desease to deal with... for both the person its happening to and the people around them...
Oh, overall I don't think there is a specific answer for all people but this worked for us...
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I wasn't accusing anyone of anything. Notice I said IF the aging parents don't have some kind of condition ( as others mentioned, dementia).
I was simply asking that why not, when it is within your power to support your aging parents, do you NOT support them? ( Example: going out and buying some kind of expensive toy,while your parents have very little to survive on. )
Why not help a little? Is it too much to ask?
*AND no I am not talking about just financial support either
No doubt taking care of the elderly CAN be emotionally, physically, financially and socially draining. I am sure there are some aging parents out there, who are completely able to take care of themselves, who could benefit from living with their adult children.
edited to add: **And I realize there is a lot I could learn about this topic, and as I intend on doing so. Thank you for pointing out my lack of knowledge!!!
Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...
I was simply asking that why not, when it is within your power to support your aging parents, do you NOT support them? ( Example: going out and buying some kind of expensive toy,while your parents have very little to survive on. )
Why not help a little? Is it too much to ask?
*AND no I am not talking about just financial support either
No doubt taking care of the elderly CAN be emotionally, physically, financially and socially draining. I am sure there are some aging parents out there, who are completely able to take care of themselves, who could benefit from living with their adult children.
edited to add: **And I realize there is a lot I could learn about this topic, and as I intend on doing so. Thank you for pointing out my lack of knowledge!!!
Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...
Since I am an aging parent, I think they should move in with the wealthiest child as soon as possible and all of the children should donate to keep said aging parent skydiving as long as he can roll out of the plane.
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Lord, let me be the person my dog thinks I am.
Lord, let me be the person my dog thinks I am.
Good answer!
Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...
Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...
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ahh here is perhaps one of the most complex topics plauging mankind.
Now that we have medical technology that can improve peoples length of life, should we improve lenght of life. We focus too much on keeping people alive, but not living. we need to improve quality of life instead of improving quantity. Just because someone is alive dosen't mean they are living life.
My personal feelings. Due to the fact that I used to work for a private ambulance company and shuffled old people around I would have to say we can't make one broad sweeping statement as to what we should do. Each person ages differently.
For the active 80 year old I see no harm in just keeping taps on them, but largely letting them do their own thing as long as they are capable.
Whereas if we have a 60 year old patient who is vent dependant with alzhimers and dementia there really isn't any reasion to keep them alive except to drain on the rest of us. Emotionally, physically, mentally, and financhally.
Now that we have medical technology that can improve peoples length of life, should we improve lenght of life. We focus too much on keeping people alive, but not living. we need to improve quality of life instead of improving quantity. Just because someone is alive dosen't mean they are living life.
My personal feelings. Due to the fact that I used to work for a private ambulance company and shuffled old people around I would have to say we can't make one broad sweeping statement as to what we should do. Each person ages differently.
For the active 80 year old I see no harm in just keeping taps on them, but largely letting them do their own thing as long as they are capable.
Whereas if we have a 60 year old patient who is vent dependant with alzhimers and dementia there really isn't any reasion to keep them alive except to drain on the rest of us. Emotionally, physically, mentally, and financhally.
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