Who has NOT been in a depressing downward spiral these past few months?

[ACMESkydiver 0]

Somebody break this cycle, because it is really creeping me out!!

Last couple of years everyone's had stuff...it's just life. It was about once a quarter there'd be some kind of tragedy. Then it was monthly. Lately it was weekly. Now it has been...daily.

I chalked it up to 'sh*t happens' and it's just our time to have challenges in our lives. But then the same spiral is happening to my best friend...my mother in law...my sister in law...ALL AT ONCE. Everyone I talk to. I don't get it, I just don't get it.

Every time I told my friend 'Well, things can't get any worse!' they did. Told her that last month. Things went downhill. I told her that yesterday. It kept sliding right up until midnight. Bad news after bad news after bad news. A steady stream of phone calls, emails, whatever.

I get a text message 20 minutes ago. Things are not improving. Every time the phone rings, every emailed message...something else falling apart, someone else in pain.

This is getting far too creepy. Armageddon is coming. Or something like that. That sucks.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[NWFlyer 2]

It hasn't been a sprial, but a series of ups and downs. Sometimes, it definitely feels like "piling on" but I know you and I know you're strong enough to muddle through this even if it doesn't feel pretty right now. Hang in there, hon.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[lisamariewillbe 1]

Ive been the other way around. Everytime I turn around I am being blessed and feeling blessed. Once I made better decisions on my personal life and in myself things looked up. Granted I am not allowed to skydive for at min 34 days I am still choosing to look towards the positives of tomorrows. Great friends, and great life. I hope things look up for you.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[lawrocket 3]

I haven't been in a downward spiral. Rather, my mood has gone divergent on all axes - up, down, sideways, etc.

Sometimes things get like this. And everything piles on seemingly at once. Will it get better? Yes, but you just don't know when.

In the long run, times like this make us appreciate the good times we have.

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

Cool, so it isn't everyone. Ok then.

I guess we aren't about to see the sky open up and nasty stuff rain down on us.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[freeflir29 0]

It's all about your prospective. I have had many days in my life where I had to find ONE thing to smile about. Some days I couldn't come up with anything better than "There's a beautiful blue sky." Hope things improve for you.

[NWFlyer 2]

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Cool, so it isn't everyone. Ok then.

I guess we aren't about to see the sky open up and nasty stuff rain down on us.

Let's just hope that if it does, it's not frogs. I *still* don't understand that part of Magnolia.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

Now if ya want to talk things up until I stopped being a hermit after my brothers murder I had the same feelings as you do. I just learned that I had to remain positive, because I am still alive and by that I need to keep the crap out of my life and surrond myself with people who have integrity.

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[weegegirl 2]

It's been going up, thanks to all my loving and supportive friends and family. The few months before and after my father's passing were the worst of my life. But things have just been awsome lately.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

I'm ok, it was just creepy, y'know? Like paranormal kind of creepy. Every time our group of friends/family talked, it was just shocking stuff going on with everyone. All at the same time.

She lost her baby, their account was robbed, OUR account was robbed, the IRS garnished their money, she lost her job, she broke her arm, she went into cardiac arrest, he got fired, our court case was lost, her son was diagnosed with a terrible illness, their auto insurance was cancelled due to a billing fault, their lawyer lied to them about fees and now they're losing a case, it just keeps spinning...

We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[NWFlyer 2]

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We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

I was going to say "call me if you need to talk" but maybe that's not such a good idea.

(Seriously, you know where to find me if you need anything).

[freeflir29 0]

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Cool, so it isn't everyone. Ok then.

Nope........I have no complaints. My life is pretty kick ass lately.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

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Now if ya want to talk things up until I stopped being a hermit after my brothers murder I had the same feelings as you do. I just learned that I had to remain positive, because I am still alive and by that I need to keep the crap out of my life and surrond myself with people who have integrity.

I couldn't imagine your pain. I am sorry for that, but very glad that you kept walking forward even when the path was dimly-lit.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

Strength comes in numbers, support those that need it ... and although this might not be the right place for it


Last night I had a dream. I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from my life. For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonged to me, the other to the Lord.

After the last scene of my life flashed before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand. I noticed that at many times along the path of my life, especially at the very lowest and saddest times, there was only one set of footprints.

This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it. "Lord, you said once I decided to follow you, You'd walk with me all the way. But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life, there was only one set of footprints. I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My son, my precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of suffering, when you could see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[ACMESkydiver 0]

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We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

I was going to say "call me if you need to talk" but maybe that's not such a good idea.

No no, I insist! You must join our little group of hard-luck friends!

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(Seriously, you know where to find me if you need anything).

I know!
Thanks, but I think it was just the magnitude of so many lives being sucked down into the basement all at once that was getting us to think 'WTF did we all do?!'

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

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We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

I was going to say "call me if you need to talk" but maybe that's not such a good idea.

No no, I insist! You must join our little group of hard-luck friends!

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(Seriously, you know where to find me if you need anything).

I know!
Thanks, but I think it was just the magnitude of so many lives being sucked down into the basement all at once that was getting us to think 'WTF did we all do?!'

Choices.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[ACMESkydiver 0]

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We don't want to talk to each other anymore. We're afraid.

Strength comes in numbers, support those that need it ... and although this might not be the right place for it


Last night I had a dream. I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from my life. For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonged to me, the other to the Lord.

After the last scene of my life flashed before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand. I noticed that at many times along the path of my life, especially at the very lowest and saddest times, there was only one set of footprints.

This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it. "Lord, you said once I decided to follow you, You'd walk with me all the way. But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life, there was only one set of footprints. I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My son, my precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of suffering, when you could see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

I've been thinking about that poem a lot lately, actually. I really thought that I was the strong one that didn't need the help...now I'm starting to think that maybe my ego is getting in the way of seeing what help is being received. 'Pity is for the weak' has been my credo for as long as I can remember. And whereas my posting sure has been a bunch of sh*t lately, I'm just blowing off steam. I'm more angry than sorrowful.

I'm not the type to hang on the phone with someone and go on and on about anything that's going on with us personally -it doesn't help. But I do end up telling people about the pain of others, and that's doing nothing but spreading the disease of sorrow. It's a curse, not a blessing. Saying 'congrats!' or 'that's great' or 'cute baby!' are positive things that I'm supposed to be doing...but every call, every call is someone else that's suffering and I don't understand it. Just last night, my friend is going in for surgery that may keep her from ever having a baby...we've been through this before with her, it is so devastating, how do I help?!?

I know ya can't help anyone else unless you can help yourself, but geesh we need a break in the flood here to put things in order or we'll all drown.

Strange days.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

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In the long run, times like this make us appreciate the good times we have.

That's true!

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

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Some days I couldn't come up with anything better than "There's a beautiful blue sky."

That was mine yesterday!! It was gorgeous outside.

Things will get better! They have to they can'-WHOA- they just will get better.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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I've been thinking about that poem a lot lately

Ill get back to this, as there is a reason I put it up for you instead of pming it.

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I really thought that I was the strong one that didn't need the help...now I'm starting to think that maybe my ego is getting in the way of seeing what help is being received. 'Pity is for the weak'

I used to be the "strong" one. I hated people knowing the hard times in my life because I mistook it as weakness. However I learned through a ex-boyfriend when we were dealing with my medical that sometimes strength is showing weakness to those you care about. So I leaned on him and learned that exposing others to my personal woes as long as they were trustworthy was in the long run my salvation. By expressing your needs does not mean you are weak, it means you are tired and need help.... you need to be carried. We are only as strong as the friends we depend on and the friends that depend on us. If we try it alone... well you will get through it, but do you really just want to survive? I posted the above poem because often times,when things are tough, we forget that we are not alone. We often forget that someones been there, someones there and someones heading there.

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I'm more angry than sorrowful.

Anger is normal.... I think we all go through points in our life where our anger grips us, as a mom I am sure you save your emotions for when you are the only one who sees or feels them. Its a mom trait, were always fine.... even when we feel defeated we can throw on a smile and respond "Im fine, more importantly how are you" ... this is normal, just make sure you have people who you do not have to put the facade of happiness up for.

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I know ya can't help anyone else unless you can help yourself

I dont believe that to be true, I have been a support for a few people when in my own life I was broken. Once I saw the difference in them through my words and my ability to just listen I slowly came around and realized I to was healing.

Not sure if this makes sense and I will probably edit it when I re-read it and realize this is to much for the bon-fire... however I encourage you to take Krisanne up on her offer to listen... its through our friends we can find our own strength. If ya need anything ..... please dont hesitate to seek it.... wow Im so mushy today...

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[ACMESkydiver 0]

Wow, that's just a REALLY good post!

Thank you.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[ChrisL 2]

My life couldnt be better

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My mighty steed

[downwardspiral 0]

Did you ring?

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Did you ring?

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[downwardspiral 0]

When I first read the title I thought you were calling me slutty and depressing.

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