Why do people burn their "bridges"?

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Well?

Is it easier then stepping up and finishing something? Do people want to screw with other people..is it a lack of integrity?

I just don't get it.

Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[AggieDave 6]

I said it just a couple of weeks ago...


Bridges are made of witches and you burn witches.

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Call me stupid, but I don't get it.


Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[AggieDave 6]

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Sir Bedevere: There are ways of telling whether she is a witch.
Peasant 1: Are there? Oh well, tell us.
Sir Bedevere: Tell me. What do you do with witches?
Peasant 1: Burn them.
Sir Bedevere: And what do you burn, apart from witches?
Peasant 1: More witches.
Peasant 2: Wood.
Sir Bedevere: Good. Now, why do witches burn?
Peasant 3: ...because they're made of... wood?
Sir Bedevere: Good. So how do you tell whether she is made of wood?
Peasant 1: Build a bridge out of her.
Sir Bedevere: But can you not also build bridges out of stone?
Peasant 1: Oh yeah.
Sir Bedevere: Does wood sink in water?
Peasant 1: No, no, it floats!... It floats! Throw her into the pond!
Sir Bedevere: No, no. What else floats in water?
Peasant 1: Bread.
Peasant 2: Apples.
Peasant 3: Very small rocks.
Peasant 1: Cider.
Peasant 2: Gravy.
Peasant 3: Cherries.
Peasant 1: Mud.
Peasant 2: Churches.
Peasant 3: Lead! Lead!
King Arthur: A Duck.
Sir Bedevere: ...Exactly. So, logically...
Peasant 1: If she weighed the same as a duck... she's made of wood.
Sir Bedevere: And therefore...
Peasant 2: ...A witch!

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Hahahaha...doesn't help me though.


Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[skydiverbrian 0]

It's not a lack of integrity. It might be a lack of maturity. It's certainly a lack of respect. Showing one's disrespect is often appropriate, although the method in which it's done is a personal choice rooted in personal values. What's good for you isn't necessarily good for someone else.

Burning bridges (besides thinning the witch population) is a way to show one's disrespect when they otherwise might not have been able to.

In a world full of people, only some want to fly... isn't that crazy! --Seal

[niolosoiale 0]

I guess the great Monty Python offers too strong an answer to your problem.

Honestly though, I think it's the combination of a couple of things:

Lack of foresight
Making impulse reactions based on emotions

It makes them feel good for the moment, and they often don't stop to think about how what they're doing could hurt them in the long run. The way they feel also helps to cloak that little feeling people get that tells them "wait, this might bite me in the ass later."

Just sayin.

[PLFXpert 0]

Yowza, a serious post from Bobbi?

What happened, hunny?

I love bridges as I can't stand being confined to one place and I need one to get home to the beach

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Actually someone is screwing with my SO. An employee, I am sure Billy can relate. No big life threatening action, just kinda putting Bob in an awkward position. Grrrrrr.

Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[PLFXpert 0]

I am FAR more likely to be screwed with than Billy

Everybody loves him---ALWAYS. He's Mr. Likeable and I'm the witch he puts up with (OK, if I give myself a *little* credit, his friends & family adore me, but I'm DEFINITELY not the queen to His Royal Easy-goingness. That's why we work so well, I think. I ALWAYS know what I like/what I want and he can never decide)

But, back to the subject. I'm so sorry, hunny. It sucks when people screw with the ones you love & care about b/c they might as well be screwing with you, too

Hang in there. Karma's a bitch

Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

[RhondaLea 4]

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Actually someone is screwing with my SO. An employee, I am sure Billy can relate. No big life threatening action, just kinda putting Bob in an awkward position. Grrrrrr.

Bobbi

People burn their bridges when they believe there is nothing further to gain from those with whom they're cutting a connection.

Sometimes it's because they're young, stupid and angry.

Others times, it's because they're just wholly self-centered, and they believe that others are useless unless they have an immediate use for them.

And finally, sometimes bridges need to be burned, because sometimes those with whom one is connected are toxic. But most intelligent adults realize that it's better to go out quietly than with a bang.

Good luck, Bobbie. If you need someone beat up, let me know.

rl

[swedishcelt 0]

I do.




The explanation helped though. Thank you.

[squirrel 0]

i dont burn them...i use dynomite!

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[CanuckInUSA 0]

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Why do people burn their "bridges"?

a) Because they didn't think before they acted (the #1 reason)

b) Because they don't want the others crossing it once they left.

I'm not fond of my current job and some (not all) of the people I work with. I know I'm out of there in the fall of this year as I'll be leaving the current city I'm living in and going to another one I know I'll like better. But I'll likely need a job reference for my next job, so I need to keep my trap shut and tolerate the crap at my current place. So no bridges will be burned by this camper. Of course if I didn't need the job reference, my dynamite and charges would be getting good usage.

Try not to worry about the things you have no control over

[TheAnvil 0]

Some bridges need burning. Others are a mistake to burn. I think it's highly dependent upon the bridge.

I recently burned a bridge with an acquaintance I found out was a liar and a coward who physically assaults women. I have no regrets.

I burned another bridge a couple of years ago that I do regret, and am trying to rebuild. That one was a mistake on both of our parts.

So many variables come into play there with the proverbial bridge.

Hope you make the right decision for you.

Vinny the Anvil
Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL
JACKASS POWER!!!!!!

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

WoW! A response from the elusive RL!! I am proud and honored!! Seriously.
In this situation the man is not young and stupid, just stupid. I truly believe he thinks the grass is greener where he wants to go....traveling 90 miles one way...that in itself is a retarded move at this point in time with gas prices.

I can handle what ever may come my way, but if you want to tag team, I'm up for that!!!

Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[freeflir29 0]

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In this situation the man is not young and stupid, just stupid.

I always say "Most people are stupid" and damn do people prove it all the time!

[shropshire 0]

Closure?

(.)Y(.)
Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome

[SkydiveStMarys 0]

My amazement for/of people never ceases.

Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[yamtx73 0]

rl is still among us? Haven't heard from you in a long time...

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

[freefallfreak 0]

Uhh, I have a bridge to sell...ask the employee if he wants to buy it after he comes to his senses....lol.

TripleF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[freeflychris 0]

Sometimes you just have to.

[Brian3576 0]

burning bridges can be a good laugh a change to fuck somebody over when you've had to be nice to them while you needed something from them (like a job or something)

its nice to get one over somebody, nice to fuck somebody off if you dont like them

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[tigra 0]

People burn bridges they think they'll never need to cross again, ever. More often than not, they are wrong, but it takes a while to figure that out.

[cocheese 0]

Shouldn't this be in the BASE Forum ?


I'd rather burn my britches. Throw them in the fire . Woo hoo.