freefallfreak 0 #51 May 30, 2006 I don't think so, Rem....I have a call in to my doctor. He'll take care of the med's for me, I believe. Uhh, unless you have the winning lottery numbers I guess I'm out of luck here, lol. Thanks for asking,tho. TripleF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #52 May 30, 2006 Everybody: I just had to do some hatchet hob on this thread... and I didnt like it. Times are pretty rough for most of us here, but dont start using that as a reason to lash out at others in our community. I wont allow it, and I am damm well sure Willem wont either. Our thresholds for tolerating stuff is damm low right now so please if you are going to start posting hatefull stuff, take a step back from your putter.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #53 May 30, 2006 Lisa Marie...I've been reading your posts all day. It pains me to moderate you because you're my friend and I know you're hurting. BUT... It is not always about you. If you flame someone in public, you should apologize in public. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. And finally, sometimes it is good to step away from the computer before you make a reply and think about what you have just written before you hit that post button. Please step away now and go take a walk to clear your head. Please. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ron 10 #54 May 31, 2006 None of this is your fault. You tried to be a nice guy and lent a helping hand. You tried to help her back on her feet, she decided to do something else. None of this is your fault. You were honest with your friend, he reacted badley...Normal. None of this is your fault. You getting my not so subtle message?"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RhondaLea 4 #55 May 31, 2006 QuoteNone of this is your fault. You tried to be a nice guy and lent a helping hand. You tried to hel her back on her feet, she decided to do something else. None of this is your fault. You were honest with your friend, he reacted badley...Normal. None of this is your fault. You getting my not so subtle message? This is definitive, TripleF. Ron and I never agree on anything (well, okay, we did once, but it was an aberration), but we agree on this, so it must be true. rlIf you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #56 June 1, 2006 I spent most of last night and today trying to research addiction on this puter. From what I've found, I enabled her. Now, it's time to show some tough love. Ya' know. I've put myself in some really strange postions before but this seemed to be the most uncomfortable, so far. The emotional side of me says that I'm at fault. The moral side of me says that I was doing the right thing by trying to help someone. The intellectual side of me says I did the right thing but failed to keep the drugs out of sight when I knew she was having drug problems. My heart tells me that it was in the right place but I just didn't do it right. I'm so confused...I have a hundred voices in my head, all speaking at the same time, telling me different things that it get confusing. So, I'm listening to the "other" voices that I've trusted for the years I've been coming to this site. I'm listening to ya'll. I guess all this mess will all pass in time. I saw a sherrif's car at their house this morning. Ya' never see cops out here. I have a feeling that her and him had words and he reported to her probation officer that I had drugs missing and suspected her. That, however, is speculation. I know that it's happened before when she got out of hand with her usage - that he would call the cops and have her escorted away but I didn't see the car when it left, so I don't know if she went with the cop. I've not heard a word from him yet but I heard from his dad, who lives across the street from me. He said that my friend was miserable with what has happened and doesn't know what to do. I hesitate to go up there. I don't want to push anything. So for now, I'll listen to ya'll and leave it alone, secure in the knowledge that I really didn't know I was doing wrong by leaving the drugs out and trying to find some peace of mind by trying to accept the fact that I am not the bad guy here, but the victim. Thanks for all the input, people. It means a lot to me to know that so many people take the time to care and for all the pm's that I've recieved. I haven't had time to respond to all of them. Just remember that I'm trying to answer them all and if I miss one or two, it's not cause I don't appreciate them. TripleF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #57 June 1, 2006 It sounds like you've made a hard dicision... I hope things work out well... for you and your friends.Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #58 June 1, 2006 well, if he called the P.O. on her he must have been going through the same emotions. If she DID go with the police and got some more jail time, I bet he could use a friend. I believe you when you say that he understood but was mad, which means you guys might feel a little strange around each other for a little while. If she is still in his house it may be better to call over and ask how they are doing. QuoteI'll listen to ya'll and leave it alone, I don't remember anyone saying leave it alone. you two are still friends. during your whole relationship I'm sure some bitterness had coem between you two. SOMEONE is ALWAYS the first to reach out. you feel like an ass b/c she put you in this situation. HE feels like an ass b/c he was upset with you (b/c she put you in this situation) I would give him some "space" but don't give up on your friend. QuoteI have a hundred voices in my head, all speaking at the same time Damn, you really DO need your meds huh? My Opinion is this. after all that has happened. all three of you have the right to fell upset, confused and angry. for a minute today is a new day and you have to treat it as such, while remembering yesterday's lesson. so you can: 1) ignore it and hope that it smooths itself out and friends will be friends again without ever having to mention it. B) wait for him to come to you and then you bring this up when the time is right OR... ) reach out and ask your friend if he is ok. You saw the cops and are concerned. when he is ready to talk he will. and THEN, you bring up your emotions with him. I'm sure he knows you aren't a scumbag who set his wife up for failure. So, go talk to your friend call him on the phone if you rather, talk to his dad, talk to his wife, address this situation. there is a thing that most adults have perfected; it's called DENIAL. Denial is you deny that there is a strain in your friendship then it will only add to that strain. but be prepared if he isnt ready to talk. He is going through some shit too. he may be listening to those same 1000 voices. once they settle he'll have some answersMy photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
