skymedic 0 #1 June 4, 2006 Just found out yesterday that the mother of my daughter.(she was not a GF,wife, or anything to me) stole my identity using my SS number. she opened up a phone account. problem being that it's the weekend. my police dept. basicly told me to go pound stones since the actually "theft" happened in Ohio and I live in St.Louis county. my world is spinning right now. totally sucks. other problems are what do I tell my daughter about all of this. I never talk badly about her mom regardless of the fact I could...it just really sux right now. thanks for letting me vent. And thank god for Anne(fallinwoman), because with out her i'd totally be hosed. Marc otherwise known as Mr.Fallinwoman.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_Copland 0 #2 June 4, 2006 Sorry to hear that mate, sounds lie a major pain in the arse. 1338 People aint made of nothin' but water and shit. Until morale improves, the beatings will continue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nate_1979 9 #3 June 4, 2006 ID theft costs me thousands of dollars.. That shit blows, consider yourself lucky its just a phone account. My incident happened while I was out at sea, and for 3 months I had no idea that my bank accounts had been completely wiped out (over $8k) and closed! All my bills were setup to pay automatic, and not a single bill of mine except my car was payed for 3 months, my car was on an allotment direct from my paycheck, so it couldnt be affected.. The bank gave me back all but about $1500, which I was just fed up and took it, didnt wanna deal with it anymore, and then ofcourse there was my destroyed credit which has cost me since.. Got most of the credit back, but it's still a little lower than it should be. The sad thing about all of it is that I knew who did it, was able to get proof that she did it, and she got away with it.. The Agencies and Banks don't think it is worth persuing such a "small $ amount" crime.. Sickning. FGF #??? I miss the sky... There are 10 types of people in the world... those who understand binary and those who don't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #4 June 4, 2006 The question is do you have to tell your daughter about it. If you do just sit down and tell her the truth. When you tell her make sure you do without making her mom sound like a bad person. I have had a lot of experience with stuff like this this last year. I have learned to just give the facts and say sometimes grown ups do thing that they know are wrong but they still do them any ways.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #5 June 4, 2006 Yep recently had someone try to open up two differen't credit cards in my name. My dealings with the credit bureau were pretty good. They cancelled them immediately and insisted that I file a police report. Don't know if they have prosecuted yet but I'm sure they will. I also have Equifax credit watch now. For $99 a year they send me a notice anytime a new account is opened. I can also go check my Equifax credit report anytime I like. It's worth the Benjamin a year. PS- I would file a police report locally as soon as possible. Fuck that thieving bitch! As far as your daughter goes.........tell her the truth. It may be ugly but if it's the truth she needs to know. For several years I just tried to avoid the subject of all the crap my sons mother has done and tried to do and lied to him about. One day I had enough and I just broke it down for him. It wasn't fun but something that had to be done. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #6 June 4, 2006 Morning, Marc. Sorry to hear that. A few things you can do right now which will help the issue. 1. Contact all credit reporting agencies. Have them place an alert on your credit report, and also have them contact you if someone tries to open a credit card account in your name. They will call and verify, if asked, that you have opened that card. Also, request a copy of all three reports, and make sure there is no extraneous things floating around on them...you can get one free per year per reporting agency; this is a good time to use that freebie. 2. Police don't really do much for identity theft. It's a sad fact, but it is the way it is. Maybe tomorrow you can go into the station, and insist on filling out a police report...and ask that they send it forward to the State of the crime. Alternatively, you can call the police department in the town where she lives, and file over the phone. It's a jurisdictional thing, from what I can tell, so take it to the jurisdiction the crime happened in. 3. Call her phone company, and turn off the phone. Since it's your social, you can do that without problem. Inform them of the theft, as well, so they are on alert for future issues. You also might want to see if you have utility accounts under your social, and get them turned off, as well. 4. Telling your daughter won't solve anything. It's so very easy to say something which will damage her relationship, and she will find out soon enough - if she hasn't already - that her Mom is not a "good" person. This will be something to talk about when your daughter brings up concerns about Mom's behavior...and she will, once she's made the discovery. And that discovery will be made, no doubt. May not be this week, month, year, or even in the next 5 years...but your daughter will figure it out. So don't tell her unless/until she asks, or Mom is arrested (unlikely). So very sorry to hear all this. You guys have been through so much with this woman... Best to you and Anne. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
