McBeth 0 #1 June 12, 2006 So recently I've been taling to some ex's... Is it normal for the current gf/bf's to have issues with you talking to them? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #2 June 12, 2006 What's a wx? And yes, it's normal. But it's also stupid. edit: now my post makes no sense! thanks! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #4 June 12, 2006 Damn I don't know how to spell. I wish it wasn't normal... people just need to get over it and understand that you can be just friends with an ex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #5 June 12, 2006 As long as I'm the one doin' her and I trust her, then wtf do I care who she's friends with? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #6 June 12, 2006 It depends on a person's security within the relationship. If you and the new person have just started the relationship, he's going to be a bit more insecure than if you've been together awhile. Of course, if you have been together awhile, then it's just the new guy's lack of security within himself, and you can't fix that! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
monkycndo 0 #7 June 12, 2006 QuoteAs long as I'm the one doin' her and I trust her, then wtf do I care who she's friends with? *Raises his drink* Damn straight!50 donations so far. Give it a try. You know you want to spank it Jump an Infinity Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #8 June 12, 2006 An ex is an ex for a reason...so if your current beau is nervous set him at ease.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #9 June 12, 2006 QuoteAn ex is an ex for a reason...so if your current beau is nervous set him at ease.But sometimes an ex is an ex b/c the relationship didn't work, but the friendship did... why lose that? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #10 June 12, 2006 QuoteQuoteAn ex is an ex for a reason...so if your current beau is nervous set him at ease.But sometimes an ex is an ex b/c the relationship didn't work, but the friendship did... why lose that? Don't lose it. It's a priceless thing. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #11 June 12, 2006 "cause you're too scrumptous to do without."No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #12 June 12, 2006 If she was dumped and still wishes that the relationship had worked out... she may be still trying to do that. The definition of sales is "overcoming objections". That would be a real reason for concern. Most of the time, it's not a worry. They are an ex for a reason. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #13 June 12, 2006 QuoteIf she was dumped and still wishes that the relationship had worked out... she may be still trying to do that. The definition of sales is "overcoming objections". That would be a real reason for concern. Most of the time, it's not a worry. They are an ex for a reason.I can somewhat understand that, but if you trust the one you are with, that shouldn't be a worry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #14 June 12, 2006 QuoteI can somewhat understand that, but if you trust the one you are with, that shouldn't be a worry. There is trust and there is dumb. Trust, but not to the point of naive or blind. Probably, everyone here has been cheated on, at some point (unless they are 15yo). "Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it." For all types of behaviour, there are warning signs. A wise person learns from their past and identifies those warning signs. I think that people should assume the best, but have excellent bs detectors. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladydyver 0 #15 June 12, 2006 Alot of times the friendship does work.....my ex is a friend of mine...like him better now that we are divorced. Went with him when he picked out the engagement ring for his wife. Most people find it rather strange but it works.DPH # 2 "I am not sure what you are suppose to do with that, but I don't think it is suppose to flop around like that." ~Skootz~ I have a strong regard for the rules.......doc! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #16 June 12, 2006 QuoteDon't lose it. It's a priceless thing.How you doin? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #17 June 12, 2006 As long as you don't mind if/when she starts talking to her ex's, I don't see the problem. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #18 June 12, 2006 QuoteQuoteDon't lose it. It's a priceless thing.How you doin? I'm doin' ! "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #19 June 12, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteDon't lose it. It's a priceless thing.How you doin? I'm doin' ! Sounds sexy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #20 June 12, 2006 I'm close friends with three of my exes. My boyfriend is close friends with one of his. This is not a problem, because we trust each other. He says he's having coffee with her, I say "have fun". I say I'm playing pool or emailing one of my exes, he says to tell them hello. If you trust each other, who you hang out with is a non-issue. If you don't trust each other, you've got deeper issues than just being friends with your ex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clownburner 0 #21 June 12, 2006 QuoteBut sometimes an ex is an ex b/c the relationship didn't work, but the friendship did... why lose that? Yes, I'm very good friends with one of my ex's. Sometimes that works. Just make sure it's not 'friends with benefits' and there should be no issues. 7CP#1 | BTR#2 | Payaso en fuego Rodriguez "I want hot chicks in my boobies!"- McBeth Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NlghtJumper 0 #22 June 12, 2006 QuoteI'm close friends with three of my exes. My boyfriend is close friends with one of his. This is not a problem, because we trust each other. He says he's having coffee with her, I say "have fun". I say I'm playing pool or emailing one of my exes, he says to tell them hello. If you trust each other, who you hang out with is a non-issue. If you don't trust each other, you've got deeper issues than just being friends with your ex. Very nicely put. A man will do anything for the right woman, and when that woman destroys him, that man will become a hunk of meat with the common sense of a rodeo clown! ~ Christopher Titus Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #23 June 12, 2006 QuoteI'm close friends with three of my exes. My boyfriend is close friends with one of his. This is not a problem, because we trust each other. He says he's having coffee with her, I say "have fun". I say I'm playing pool or emailing one of my exes, he says to tell them hello. If you trust each other, who you hang out with is a non-issue. If you don't trust each other, you've got deeper issues than just being friends with your ex. A-ha, but I think you may have just touched on the razor's edge here...the thing that I read in your post is communicating with your SO about the contact with the exes. It looks like you and your boyfriend trust each other, and are courteous enough to let the other know about contact with the exes. I think the more open you are in a relationship about everything you do that could potentially be viewed as hurtful or deceitful by your SO, the stronger you build that trust that keeps you happy together. When there is no communication with the current SO about your contact with an ex, THAT'S when things get a little uncomfortable.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #24 June 12, 2006 QuoteI think the more open you are in a relationship about everything you do that could potentially be viewed as hurtful or deceitful by your SO, the stronger you build that trust that keeps you happy together. Damn, girl. That is some serious wisdom right there. Beautifully said."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NlghtJumper 0 #25 June 12, 2006 If you are constantly having to look over your shoulder to find out what your SO is doing, then why would you want to be with them? For me, if there is no trust, then there is no relationship. I don't like having to worry about who my SO is with and what they are doing with them. Give them just enough rope to hang themselves, and just hope they don't. A man will do anything for the right woman, and when that woman destroys him, that man will become a hunk of meat with the common sense of a rodeo clown! ~ Christopher Titus Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites