Do long distance relationships work?

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Someone who really has insight on this is Boinky...where is she?

Here I am! (sorry...had to actually work today...can you imagine? )

I went into my current relationship knowing up front that he wouldn't probably come back to the states permanently for another 2-3 years....maybe longer. He only gets to come home twice a year for a total of 5 weeks. When he does come home, we are together 24/7, making the most of our time together. When he has to leave, he never says "goodbye, as it's too final." He says "tschuss," which is basically saying "until later."

During the rest of the time, we talk on the internet practially every day for as much time as we can fit into our schedules. Phone calls are hard to get out of Kosovo, so I get those very randomly.

Every day, I "create" my day for him by e-mail. They often include pictures and stories of what most people would consider trivial....a flower, a bird, a sunset. But my goal is to make him feel like he is really here. Many times, after reading one of my "creations," he says he can "see it in his mind's eye."

Trust? ABSOLUTELY! I believe that neither of us has any doubts as to the faithfulness of the other. Yes, I'm sure there is ample opportunity to cheat (obviously moreso for me than him). But we agreed up front that since both of us had it happen to us before, we would never do it to anyone else. If we feel the need...it's time to break up BEFORE it happens.

Easy? NO! I mope for weeks on end after he leaves. But knowing that I have someone who is my best friend and very compatible, who likes me for who I am now (not who I COULD be) is worth the pain.

Yes, I miss the constant physical part of the relationship. And the fact that I can't pick up the phone and call him out of the clear blue sky. Or being held when I'm sad, crying or hurt.

And yes, I try to think of ways to get us physically together for good. I'm learning that I can't change the world and no matter how hard I might try, things aren't always going to be the way I want them to be. He makes me happy. I believe I make him happy. That's good enough for me.

Which would I prefer? A man physically around full time I can't trust or a long distance man I would trust with my life? I'm pretty sure you know the answer to that! Over 1 year and still going strong!

Nina

Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz)
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I was just thinking back in the day when I tried a long distance relationship and it was so hard.
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see what u started, lol.

my long distance relationship worked out.
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don't mind me, the yegermister has me under his spell

lucky