jeiber 0 #26 June 26, 2006 QuoteWhat is the rule of thumb for dating in this sport. I'm guessing instructors can't date AFF students...but are coaches allowed to date their students? What is looked down upon? Do "D license holders" like to prey on the newbies or is that a select few that do so? Just curious how the system kinda works. You need to date swoopers and freeflyers. Jump right into a relationship and sleep with them as quickly as possible, otherwise another girl might beat you to it. Don't worry, there's nothing to the saying among us guys, 'in dating a skydiver, you never really lose a girlfriend, you just lose your turn'. Does this answer your question? JeffShhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #27 June 26, 2006 QuoteBe picky. Don't be the girl that everyone is just waiting to have their turn with. You will earn more respect if you show the regulars at the dz that you are there to skydive rather than to pick up men. Hell ya!! Good advice. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #28 June 27, 2006 QuoteThis a Sport for Big Kids that should know these things by now. Anyone who hasn't figured out personal rules for dating by 21, should not be allowed to vote. Perhaps driving needs to be discussed also. When someone brings up questions like this, my friend always asks, "I don't think it's a real question, so are you bragging or complaining?". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
matthias 0 #29 June 27, 2006 Quote 1. Pull 2. Pull at correct altitude 3. Pull while stable 4. Land safely haha_________________________________________ trance/house mixes for download: www.djmattm.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #30 June 27, 2006 I realize that some people come off way too strong, myself included. Our drive, Is that we are not time wasters. We never know how much time we have left. Speak your mind...However strange your thoughts may be. What is the effect? Uncertainty? Does anyone really care about others opinions? They mean nothing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adventurechick 0 #31 June 27, 2006 QuoteAnyone who hasn't figured out personal rules for dating by 21, should not be allowed to vote. Perhaps driving needs to be discussed also. Wink I'm usually known for being a bit naive and believe almost anything...... just because I trust everybody. Already it has burned me once this year. So when I had a coach hit on me, I wasn't sure if that was a normal thing or if it was like high school where your teacher is not allowed to date the student. Personally, I don't wany anything bad to happen and me to feel uncomfortable so I am going to ignore the attempt. I'm learning that this sport is filled with many guys who hits on any girl with 2 legs and is breathing.... so I kinda looking for pointers and what to look out for in a male dominated skydiving world. I don't want to be in a situation that for one, looks bad (coach dating his student) or a situation that I could have been warned about (skydiver using their rating/skills to hit on newbies). In reference to driving though.... yeah, I suck at driving. I even thought the sign that said "Fine for Parking" meant that it was ok to park there. But I do think it is a real question, because I wasn't sure if it's written in the uspa rules or something that D licenses could only date B licenses and above or something that they would have in school. I'm kinda new to this scene and appreciate any advice and thoughts by anybody, because I will listen. If I am dating a guy that is bad for me and someone tells me this, I will cutaway as soon as possible. If it is unethical for a coach to hit on his student, then I will not return his phone calls... but if it is a normal occurance and is not a weird thing is this sport, then I might have reconsidered. So no, I am not trying to show off. Yes, I am capable of voting, and I want to know what others have experienced. The advice and warnings I have gotten from girls on here have saved me from a bad relationship and I will eternall be thankful. Which is why I turn here again to very wise women/men who know what they are talking about. I am not that experienced in the dating world, and grew up in a very non-dating society. My longest relationship was for 6 weeks with a guy who had a bad temper who was a skydiver... and without the girls on here I'd still be in something really bad...and wished I would have had some pointers about the men in this sport from the get go. PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #32 June 27, 2006 We're all adults in this sport (and the few that aren't are usually pretty obvious and almost always have parents involved in the sport so the predators are generally smart enough to stay away ) and no one's going to say you can or can't date anyone. That said, it's very easy to become "flavor of the month." You'll serve yourself a lot better in the long run if you just hang out, have fun, get to know everyone as friends, and figure out who's who, what's what, who's cool and who's not, who you can trust and who you can't, who will be cool and who will stab you in the back at the first opportunity. Dropzones are great places. They can be like family in the good way, but they can also be dysfunctional as hell. They can be full of games and immaturity and bad behavior. Learn to navigate them before you get too deep into it. You'll also (as I said in another thread you posted) learn to better build and trust your instincts about people. That's good in skydiving and in all of life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites adventurechick 0 #33 June 27, 2006 Thank you for your input! I know the guys at my Dz very well and they are all like my big brothers. I'm learning slowly but surely! :o) PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites slug 1 #34 June 27, 2006 Quote*** But I do think it is a real question, because I wasn't sure if it's written in the uspa rules or something that D licenses could only date B licenses and above or something that they would have in school. I'm kinda new to this scene and appreciate any advice and thoughts by anybody, because I will listen. If I am dating a guy that is bad for me and someone tells me this, I will cutaway as soon as possible. If it is unethical for a coach to hit on his student, then I will not return his phone calls... but if it is a normal occurance and is not a weird thing is this sport, then I might have reconsidered. Read the waiver you signed at the DZ in questionBe sure the coach that asks you out is jumping the same discipline that your interested in learning before you go out with him.If the coach has a T-shirt that says "Just becase we had sex last night doesn't mean I have to jump with you in the morning" take the hint unless thats what you want. I'm sure you've heard of the "casting couch" in hollywood. Same deal at the DZ unless you meet the right guy Like.......ME R.I.P. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #35 June 27, 2006 Actually, just kidding. I spend a lot of time at the dz and don't care who dates who. None of my business. In fact, if you are young, date everybody. Why not? If person A invites you to the beach and person B invites you to dinner, why not go ? You've got the rest of your life to be bored, don't start now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites adventurechick 0 #36 June 27, 2006 Part of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #37 June 27, 2006 QuoteBe sure the coach that asks you out is jumping the same discipline that your interested in learning before you go out with him. Best answer so far. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites bob.dino 1 #38 June 27, 2006 QuotePart of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. They're just men, like any others. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Shotgun 1 #39 June 27, 2006 QuoteBut I do think it is a real question, because I wasn't sure if it's written in the uspa rules or something that D licenses could only date B licenses and above or something that they would have in school. No, the USPA does not control dating amongst skydivers... well, at least not yet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites luckky 0 #40 June 27, 2006 Well the general Rule of Thumb I have noticed in this sport is that The Boys (They are the ones with the Outies) Like the Girls (They have the Innies). Although sometimes a certain small percentage of the Outies like other outies and even more often the Innies like Innies. In general, nothing else really matters. Boys Like Girls (Especially girls that let the outies get into the Innies). Sometimes the Girl even like the boys (They like outties in thier innies). Licenses, Ratings or anything thing will not change this. And I don’t think any of this is specific to just Skydiving!!TongueLaugh This a Sport for Big Kids that should know these things by now. ********************************************* J don't u have some jello shots 2 make for the inneies that wanna be outies..... _____________________________________________________If there are no trials in life,how will u know what is really imprtortant liv2luv luv2liv,,,SUMMOOO 1 lucky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites luckky 0 #41 June 27, 2006 Part of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. ************************************************ dateing, is dating, in any walk of life. tis all the same. follow ur instincts. have fun and enjoy the family____________________________________________________If there are no trials in life,how will u know what is really imprtortant liv2luv luv2liv,,,SUMMOOO 1 lucky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites windcatcher 0 #42 June 27, 2006 Okay, men are the same wherever you go, no matter what sport or activity you are in. Some men will only be after sex, and some men will want a real relationship. Men who skydive are just the same as men who rock climb, play chess, ice skate, and BASE. There is no separate "breed" of men that only skydiving brings. A man at a dz may be interested in a woman at the dz...and he may have an A/B/C/ or D license, or none yet for that matter...and that's really not going to affect if he is attracted to the woman or not. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wingnut 0 #43 June 27, 2006 QuoteA man at a dz may be interested in a woman at the dz...and he may have an A/B/C/ or D license, or none yet for that matter... but if he has a "PRO" rating can he charge? ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jaden 0 #44 June 27, 2006 Whoa...Re-reading my post I realize it came off very offensive. I apologize, this was not my intention. Just stating a view from a different perspective. And I rephrase that derogatory opinions mean nothing. I have got to stop drunk posting...I always look like an ass. Have a great one! -Mel Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Jaden 0 #45 June 27, 2006 I guess it depends on the DZ. Just remember... There are alot of selfish people out there with little to no consideration for you. You will never know if you don't take chance. Use your best judgement & don't take anyone's crap...You never have to settle. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 2 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. 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adventurechick 0 #33 June 27, 2006 Thank you for your input! I know the guys at my Dz very well and they are all like my big brothers. I'm learning slowly but surely! :o) PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slug 1 #34 June 27, 2006 Quote*** But I do think it is a real question, because I wasn't sure if it's written in the uspa rules or something that D licenses could only date B licenses and above or something that they would have in school. I'm kinda new to this scene and appreciate any advice and thoughts by anybody, because I will listen. If I am dating a guy that is bad for me and someone tells me this, I will cutaway as soon as possible. If it is unethical for a coach to hit on his student, then I will not return his phone calls... but if it is a normal occurance and is not a weird thing is this sport, then I might have reconsidered. Read the waiver you signed at the DZ in questionBe sure the coach that asks you out is jumping the same discipline that your interested in learning before you go out with him.If the coach has a T-shirt that says "Just becase we had sex last night doesn't mean I have to jump with you in the morning" take the hint unless thats what you want. I'm sure you've heard of the "casting couch" in hollywood. Same deal at the DZ unless you meet the right guy Like.......ME R.I.P. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #35 June 27, 2006 Actually, just kidding. I spend a lot of time at the dz and don't care who dates who. None of my business. In fact, if you are young, date everybody. Why not? If person A invites you to the beach and person B invites you to dinner, why not go ? You've got the rest of your life to be bored, don't start now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adventurechick 0 #36 June 27, 2006 Part of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. PMS #449 TPM #80 Muff Brother #3860 SCR #14705 Dirty Sanchez #233 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #37 June 27, 2006 QuoteBe sure the coach that asks you out is jumping the same discipline that your interested in learning before you go out with him. Best answer so far. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bob.dino 1 #38 June 27, 2006 QuotePart of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. They're just men, like any others. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #39 June 27, 2006 QuoteBut I do think it is a real question, because I wasn't sure if it's written in the uspa rules or something that D licenses could only date B licenses and above or something that they would have in school. No, the USPA does not control dating amongst skydivers... well, at least not yet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
luckky 0 #40 June 27, 2006 Well the general Rule of Thumb I have noticed in this sport is that The Boys (They are the ones with the Outies) Like the Girls (They have the Innies). Although sometimes a certain small percentage of the Outies like other outies and even more often the Innies like Innies. In general, nothing else really matters. Boys Like Girls (Especially girls that let the outies get into the Innies). Sometimes the Girl even like the boys (They like outties in thier innies). Licenses, Ratings or anything thing will not change this. And I don’t think any of this is specific to just Skydiving!!TongueLaugh This a Sport for Big Kids that should know these things by now. ********************************************* J don't u have some jello shots 2 make for the inneies that wanna be outies..... _____________________________________________________If there are no trials in life,how will u know what is really imprtortant liv2luv luv2liv,,,SUMMOOO 1 lucky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
luckky 0 #41 June 27, 2006 Part of me is very scared to get involved with a skydiver because I'm not really sure how skydivers really are.... are most skydiving men into looking for a "booty call" and leaving them or am I being pessimistic about the boys. ************************************************ dateing, is dating, in any walk of life. tis all the same. follow ur instincts. have fun and enjoy the family____________________________________________________If there are no trials in life,how will u know what is really imprtortant liv2luv luv2liv,,,SUMMOOO 1 lucky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #42 June 27, 2006 Okay, men are the same wherever you go, no matter what sport or activity you are in. Some men will only be after sex, and some men will want a real relationship. Men who skydive are just the same as men who rock climb, play chess, ice skate, and BASE. There is no separate "breed" of men that only skydiving brings. A man at a dz may be interested in a woman at the dz...and he may have an A/B/C/ or D license, or none yet for that matter...and that's really not going to affect if he is attracted to the woman or not. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #43 June 27, 2006 QuoteA man at a dz may be interested in a woman at the dz...and he may have an A/B/C/ or D license, or none yet for that matter... but if he has a "PRO" rating can he charge? ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #44 June 27, 2006 Whoa...Re-reading my post I realize it came off very offensive. I apologize, this was not my intention. Just stating a view from a different perspective. And I rephrase that derogatory opinions mean nothing. I have got to stop drunk posting...I always look like an ass. Have a great one! -Mel Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #45 June 27, 2006 I guess it depends on the DZ. Just remember... There are alot of selfish people out there with little to no consideration for you. You will never know if you don't take chance. Use your best judgement & don't take anyone's crap...You never have to settle. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
