ThunderCat 0 #1 July 8, 2006 Two brothers both as bad as each other, only misdemeanors but still crime. They both come from a relatively wealthy family, the older (by a year) is thrown out and almost dishoned while the other brother gets a full pardon. However it was the second child who got pardoned that caused all the trouble form there shared drug taking to, how do you say, leading astray, delibratley getting his older brother into trouble. From drug driving on pavements to hit and run. The motive we suspect was to better himself in his family circle enabaling him to take more than a lions share of the buisness. Its a shame cause the older brother goes from a wealthy family home, to a spell in hostels and well fare. While spoilt brat gets his way. If only the parents, a real problem, could see the real facts. Life is just not fair. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #2 July 8, 2006 Parents do differentiate between children. Growing up, I was constantly getting in trouble for things I didn't do, and for things my brother did do because "you should've been watching him." Nevermind that my parents were home, I was doing homework, and there was no reason for me to be watching him. What I figured out later, is that my parents thought I was a problem kid because I questioned them, so they felt like they needed to keep an eye on me constantly. If they wanted me to do something, I wanted to know why. From my perspective, I wasn't being disobedient, as I had every intention of doing what they told me; I just wanted to understand the reasons behind the commands. My brother just smiled and did what he was told. What my parents didn't pick up on then, and understand now, is that I like to think for myself. When someone tells me something, I take it under advisement, and, if I decide it's the best course of action, then I'll go with it. My brother doesn't think. He takes what he's told at face value and doesn't consider the perspective of the speaker. What served him well as a child has not worked out so well as an adult. What got me in a ton of trouble as a kid has given me the ability to direct my life, consider my choices, and be pretty successful in what I've decided to do. My parents were really expecting the opposite, because in their generation, good kids obey, bad kids mouth off. The younger child in a family usually gets more breaks, more coddling, and more fussing over. The older child is usually left to deal with things on their own more often, which leads to the stereotype of responsible older children and spoilt younger ones. Parents like to fuss over their baby. In the situation you gave, chances are that the younger kid, since he hasn't faced any consequences, will repeat his mistakes. The older kid now has to rely on himself, and, hopefully, because he can't rely on mom and dad to bail him out anymore, will get his life together, because he's now learned that there are consequences for his actions. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MF42 0 #3 July 8, 2006 There are at least two side to every story, so I wouldn't presume to judge somebody's parenting decisions without hearing more of the story. Could be all manner of surprising dramas happening behind the scenes. Matt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #4 July 8, 2006 Youngest one here. I never got away with anything or given any advantages over my sister. It really depends on the parents and yes parents do have their favorites. My sister got in trouble and my parents were always bailing here butt out of it. Me on the other hand, I never got in trouble I was always so good. No seriously though the more the older child does the more parents learn and then the younger kids are on a tighter rope. We all see it from a different perspective and will always say the other siblings had it easier and were treated better. That is just the way it works. My sister was favorite one though....TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #5 July 8, 2006 Learn how to spell. Then, work on your grammar. Otherwise, go back to myspace.com where you came from.We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #6 July 8, 2006 QuoteLearn how to spell. Then, work on your grammer. Oh, the irony... QuoteOtherwise, go back to myspace.com where you came from. That part, I agree with either way."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #7 July 8, 2006 Huh? We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ThunderCat 0 #8 July 8, 2006 I think thats bullshit, sorry bro but if you're the older one its you thats got to set examples, be more responsible and if anything goes wrong its usually U who gets the blame. My siblings trick was starting trouble then crying when it went horribly wrong, straight to MOM. Thing is in nearly all the occasions I would get the blame and told off. Even when I 'd been hit. Just the way it goes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #9 July 8, 2006 QuoteLife is just not fair. So? Are you going to spend your life whining about it or are you going to get over it and live your life anyway?"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #10 July 8, 2006 Quote ...get over it... Depending upon how young it started, and how long it lasted, getting over it can be a very difficult thing to do. Even with therapy.We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #11 July 8, 2006 QuoteQuote ...get over it... Depending upon how young it started, and how long it lasted, getting over it can be a very difficult thing to do. Even with therapy. I was responding just to the "life is not fair" part. I know an awful lot of people who waste an awful lot of their life upset about the hand that they were dealt rather than playing that hand to their best advantage. I also happen to know that in many ways, I was fortunate enough to be dealt a very good hand. In other ways, my hand wasn't so good. But I play it nonetheless because that's not going to change. The only thing that's going to change is my attitude towards it."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JoeyRamone 0 #12 July 8, 2006 Boy oh boy do I wish I was a little spoiled brat.....NOT. Tell the rich kids to go get a real job and a life, it is not the parents fault either. Sounds like another poor me I am a junkie so I do not get any of daddies money. So what is the point of this post? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
