Zipp0 1 #51 June 23, 2006 A recently divorced friend of mine uses match.com, and other than assisting him in getting lots of sex, it seems pretty useless. It seems that when he meets someone he likes, he can't stop looking at match, and keeps trying for an upgrade. I guess it's a guy version of shopping....... Go in the dressing room and try on 20 different outfits, because you can always find something else on the rack that might just be better. My advice is to get very comfortable on your own. I had quite a few years doing exactly what I wanted to do, exactly when I wanted to do it. I really grew as an individual during those years. Zipp0 -------------------------- Chuck Norris doesn't do push-ups, he pushes the Earth down. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
leroydb 0 #52 June 23, 2006 well I am at match... what yo name is monkey? wink. lolLeroy ..I knew I was an unwanted baby when I saw my bath toys were a toaster and a radio... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #53 June 23, 2006 I haven't read the other responses yet. If I were single, I think I'd definitely consider these sites. I could be wrong, as obviously--being in love--I haven't done any research into them, but I think they do background checks, etc. which is really comforting in this day & age. I think, as you mentioned, sometimes you have it, sometimes you don't--so I wouldn't rely solely on these sites, but they definitely can't hurt to add to your list of possible good sources of meeting people.Keep us posted!Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #54 June 23, 2006 Oh my goodness! <---has now read a few posts---I don't have much time today so had to skim. Yes, from what I hear Rosa is beautiful and a sweet girl---but what does that have to do with match.com or anything else for that matter? Geez, if only the uglies used sites like those, I don't see how'd they still be in business. And frankly, I think I'd pay attention even if it were only the uglies b/c sometimes the uglies are just smarter (I'm being sarcastic). Anywho... No matter what the subject, I just hate to hear that certain things are only "for the beautiful" or "only uglies". It's a misconception that good looks make everything easier, people. Everyone has their own crap to deal with--the only difference is it's their crap as opposed to yours. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casie 0 #55 June 23, 2006 i was on match.com for a short while - mainly because i wanted to get out and meet new people (friends and potentially more). i'll forwarn ya - be prepared to get bombarded with a ton of emails - i did. i would skim thru the profiles and anyone i was interested in - i'd write back. basically emailing or im'ing for a bit - then that lead to phone calls - then potentially meeting up in public places. i had a lot of fun meeting new peeps this way. i'd have to say the few things i did not like were the game playing that did happen on occasion and the lack of recent photos to a few. that's to be expected while doin on-line dating. pm me if you want anymore info~Porn Kitty WARNING: Goldschlager causes extreme emotional outbursts! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #56 June 23, 2006 Quote(I suddenly have a lot of PMs.) BAWAAAAHAAAAA!!!!!!! Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #57 June 23, 2006 I used to be on match a while ago. I have meet some real good people on there, two of whom I have become really good friends with. I have, however met some creepy ones too. Chat with them ang get to know them, but be careful. I would just suggest that you meet in a public place, coffee, the local happy hour....that sorta thing. *** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PRSKY71 0 #58 June 23, 2006 Rosa, I have used Match.com on several different occassions. Most of the time, it was not useful -- just met men who were not really who they claimed. Anywhoo, last year (2005), around June, I met my current SO and we are doing really well. Its a gamble, you know!! If nothing else, you might be able to meet friends. I also used eharmony, which was a bit more expensive. However, at the time it was not as popular and I hardly got any matches around where I lived. The matches, although good ones, were states away and I was not in a position to move. I did maintain telephone contact with some matches for a while. Lastly, I used catholicmatch.com, as I thought maybe a nice "catholic" boy would do the trick. Well, the men on there are just really core catholic men who wanted more than I could give. Too much judgment IMHO. Good luck to you and I hope this reply is what you were looking for!! Character cannot be made except by a steady, long continued process. -- Phillips Brooks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #59 June 23, 2006 I used Match.com.... unfortunately it was of lil value to me.... 99% of the men I heard from scared me.... the other 1% just never panned out. The men that I found interesting never responded. I don't think you'd have that problem though. Good luck, g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #60 June 23, 2006 Quote if only the uglies used sites like those, I don't see how'd they still be in business. HEY! Us uglies need lovin' too!!! seriously though, as I told bob - my comment was half joking/half serious. But as I've mulled it over this morning I've realized that it was based on a false assumption on my part - that being that someone who is intelligent, attractive, personable, interesting and outgoing (such as bob) would have not trouble meeting people in real life situations. My thoughts were that sites like Match.com or eharmony were 'last resorts' for people looking for a relationship. I've since realized that assumption is wrong. So strike my previous comment. JumpScars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #61 June 23, 2006 QuoteThis is an awkward thing to reveal, but I am considering joining this site. I am wondering if Match.com might be a bit impersonal,though. I honestly feel that people either have magic/chemistry in person, or they don't. Does anyone here have any experiences with this site that they'd like to share? Pros or Cons? Rosa . . . just tell me what you ned me to be and I will transform my self into your Addonis.You have a good imagination, right?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #62 June 23, 2006 I used match.com a few years ago, back when it was first launched. Maybe 2000? I met a lot of great guys on there, and made some friends I still keep in touch with. I think the site gets a LOT more traffic now than it did then. Which is both good and bad. I do know an EXTREMELY attractive (movie-star looks) and intelligent couple who just got married after meeting on match.com a few years ago. You might try craigslist.org. That's more anonymous, since you don't have to post a photo or e-mail and can exchange those things only if you want to.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #63 June 23, 2006 Who are you?????Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #64 June 23, 2006 QuoteWho are you????? Someone who is fond of Seth.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #65 June 23, 2006 No one. Go look in the women's forum. I'm about to break your French heart.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #66 June 23, 2006 QuoteNo one. Go look in the women's forum. I'm about to break your French heart. It's not SAFE in there!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #67 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteNo one. Go look in the women's forum. I'm about to break your French heart. It's not SAFE in there! They keep talking about Hoohaas and Boobies in non sexual ways.. Its weird.... And my Froggy heart is doing OK Jess, 1 wife is enough ... But I think someone should go check on Seth... he has gotta be devastated with this....Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #68 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteNo one. Go look in the women's forum. I'm about to break your French heart. It's not SAFE in there! They keep talking about Hoohaas and Boobies in non sexual ways.. Its weird.... And my Froggy heart is doing OK Jess, 1 wife is enough ... But I think someone should go check on Seth... he has gotta be devastated with this.... I said, "No" but she just won't take "No." for an answer I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #69 June 23, 2006 QuoteAMy advice is to get very comfortable on your own. I had quite a few years doing exactly what I wanted to do, exactly when I wanted to do it. I really grew as an individual during those years. I am happy on my own, trust me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #70 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuote(I suddenly have a lot of PMs.) BAWAAAAHAAAAA!!!!!!! Geez...more PMs today. To answer some questions, I do not have any problem getting asked out by quality men. I just don't find myself giving people a shot, nor accepting dates from very easily. I guess that I am shy that way. I am considering using this kind of dating service as a filtering process for myself, more than anything. I know that I can be quite guarded around men, so I am thinking that this may be a way for myself to actually consider saying "yes" to more possibilities in an environment in which I can have a little bit more control (at home by myself). I like the idea of writing back and forth, then speaikng on the phone, then maybe meeting face-to-face. I highly doubt that I will be meeting with many people at all in person because I know how particular I can be. We shall see what happens. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nerd137 0 #71 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuote(I suddenly have a lot of PMs.) BAWAAAAHAAAAA!!!!!!! Geez...more PMs today. So, what's the tally up to? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmittar 0 #72 June 23, 2006 Personally, I hated match.com. It's way too superficial and I had very little success at even finding someone that sounded worth meeting. Eharmony sounds a bit more like what you're looking for as far as the process that you're describing. Chemistry.com is Match.com's answer to eharmony, but I see many people just copying and pasting their match.com profile, which is just dumb. At both eharmony and chemistry, you don't have the option to browse profiles randomly, so it would cut way down on the spam that you get. But it would still be alot either way. Personally, online dating has done very little for me. |>.<| Seriously, W.T.F. mate? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #73 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteBefore you spend money, why not try a free site? Because the members have nothing vested and therefore less interest in the outcome. By that reasoning, prostitution would be preferable to dating. Well it is easier, cheaper, and you know you're going to get your money's worth! Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #74 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteQuoteBefore you spend money, why not try a free site? Because the members have nothing vested and therefore less interest in the outcome. By that reasoning, prostitution would be preferable to dating. Well it is easier, cheaper, and you know you're going to get your money's worth! Blues, Dave Great point - and you can skip the whole boring assed dinner and the chick flick too. Same price - less hassle.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisL 2 #75 June 23, 2006 QuoteThis is an awkward thing to reveal, but I am considering joining this site. I am wondering if Match.com might be a bit impersonal,though. I honestly feel that people either have magic/chemistry in person, or they don't. Does anyone here have any experiences with this site that they'd like to share? Pros or Cons? I have a friend that used both match.com and e-harmony.com. She is currently dating someone she met on e-harmony but it took a long time to find someone amist the sleeze bags. I get the impression that the signal to noise ratio isnt all that great.__ My mighty steed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
