VanillaSkyGirl 6 #1 June 23, 2006 This is an awkward thing to reveal, but I am considering joining this site. I am wondering if Match.com might be a bit impersonal,though. I honestly feel that people either have magic/chemistry in person, or they don't. Does anyone here have any experiences with this site that they'd like to share? Pros or Cons? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #2 June 23, 2006 Since when did you become single again? I'm gonna have to fire the detective I have shadowing you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HUSHPUPPY 0 #3 June 23, 2006 Try Eharmony....much better site! (less impersonal) "You made my panties wet!" Skymama (Fitz 09) "Never argue with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Keith 0 #4 June 23, 2006 It’s amazing how many people use online dating services and are embarrassed to admit it. Don’t be embarrassed. I don’t have any experience with online dating services although I’ve thought about it and window shop from time to time. Let us know how it goes if you choose to sign up.Keith Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #5 June 23, 2006 Yes, everyone always thinks that I'm taken. I WAS very taken for a long time because I was in a serious relationship. I'm not in that relationship any more. I became single back in October. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydemon2 0 #6 June 23, 2006 how you doin? Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone! I like to start my day off with a little Ray of Soulshine™!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #7 June 23, 2006 Thanks, Keith. I think that I'll keep my lovelife more private, but I'll let you know, if I meet someone special. Btw, I'm logging off for a little while. (I suddenly have a lot of PMs.) I would rather see posts reply to this thread, as opposed to private messages. Thanks, guys. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #8 June 23, 2006 Quotehow you doin? Yeah. Like that's going to work. Real smooth. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #9 June 23, 2006 QuoteQuotehow you doin? Yeah. Like that's going to work. Real smooth. How u doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydemon2 0 #10 June 23, 2006 thanks and by the way... how you doin? Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone! I like to start my day off with a little Ray of Soulshine™!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unlucky1 0 #11 June 23, 2006 I simply don't understand why you would want to spend the money when I've been here for you the WHOLE time!!!!! Johnny Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydemon2 0 #12 June 23, 2006 P.S. I know its not going to work she doesnt want anything to do with me and she knows it..... so it makes it even funnier that I said it! Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone! I like to start my day off with a little Ray of Soulshine™!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #13 June 23, 2006 Maybe everyone assumes you're taken because they couldn't imagine why a girl like you would be single. But anywayz. I've recently used Match and have a friend at work that's used it until a few weeks ago. It is impersonal. It's kind of a PITA to try to figure out anything about anyone from a couple of paragraphs and a few pictures. I honestly never know what to say in the emails... "Um, so you like watching Mc'Gyver, hey me too!!". Bleh. The guy at work stopped using it because he got tired of the game playing he got from people on the site. If you use it, just use it as one tool in your toolbox. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #14 June 23, 2006 I guess success is measured by attaining the goal. The only people that I know who were "successful" on any of the dating sites were people who were "serial dating". They wanted to casual-date 3 different people a week. Go out for dinner, movies, or whatever. They weren't interested in a relationship. They were just bored and wanted people to do stuff with. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yamtx73 0 #15 June 23, 2006 Speaking from my own experiences.... I'm not sure what criteria they use to make the matches but the couple times I was on Match.com there weren't many matches. Of those they did match me with very few would even respond to the first attempt at communication but I guess that says more for the quality of the women there than the matching process.The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brian425 0 #16 June 23, 2006 I have a friend that has used both. She met a few nice guys; but, nothing special. I get the impression that it just exposed her to more people. She dated more and had some fun. She did get a few odd balls that e-mailed her some CRAZY pictures. We had a few laughs looking at them. I would say give it a try. Of course, be careful. You know, first dates somewhere public and use your own transportation. Let a friend know where you are. Etc. Good luck and if you get any freaky and or funny e-mails, share them with us. The only time you should look down on someone is when you are offering them your hand. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #17 June 23, 2006 I just can't get used to the idea of online dating. I'm not saying it doesn't work, I'm just saying that I prefer the old fashioned way. Meeting someone in person either at work, through a friend, etc. etc.. It just seems more real to me. You're fortunate because you live in a more populated area than I do. I'm not discouraging you. I'm just saying that I don't think it is for me. Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #18 June 23, 2006 Many years ago, I was on Match.com. I had a few dates--one led to a 3-month relationship. I met guys that I knew immediately I never wanted to see again, guys that I liked that never called again, and everything in between. There's something to be said for chemistry-you just can't tell how that's going to be in person. That said, if you're game, it's worth a try. I have a very good friend who was doing it at the same time. She met a man and they married within three months. Although I was very worried for her, they're still together and very happy to this day. It certainly worked well for her! Just be very careful Rosa! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IMGR2 0 #19 June 23, 2006 I personally haven't met anyone who made Match work. I was on it for a year or so. My opinion is its a meat market. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #20 June 23, 2006 I was on there for awhile, I know some pretty cool people who were/are on there, and I've know of some real "success" stories (e.g. long-term relationships and/or marriage). You won't get much from the profiles, but it's a decent filter for who you're willing to talk to (anonymously at first). Once you each figure out whether the other can put a few words together coherently (important to some of us, and yes, you can) and neither side displays psychotic tendencies, maybe you take it a little more personal... emails, then phone numbers, then a low-pressure date somewhere public & safe. For me it didn't work. In my local area, I didn't find any surprises compared to the women I meet in real life. Without trying to sound too insulting, in my area most of the women are kinda dumb, seriously overweight, have a full litter of children, or they're psycho... and many fall into more than one category. There are a few who are intelligent, attractive, funny, active, and who have a kidloading of less than 3:1, but almost all of them are taken and the rest aren't interested in me. In my experience with match.com, I did talk to a couple very cool women, and went on a couple of decent dates (and one very bad one), but most of the interesting women lived too far away or they/I got stashed away in the friendzone. Like everyone else, given your beautiful looks and sweet personality, I'm surprised you don't have real-life guys who interest you pounding on your door. That said, since you live in a very populated area, something like match.com might help you narrow in on someone you find really appealing. Given your looks and the fact that guys will probably be all over your profile, I wouldn't be too specific in listing *exactly* what you're looking for up-front. As you can probably tell by the PMs you've gotten after posting this (and yes, I was gonna PM this response rather than post it ), a lot of guys will tell you what you want to hear up-front, in hopes of getting a shot. Basically I think the attractive people on match.com need to play it close to the vest at first, and the less desirable people need to be absolutely forthright to overcome whatever their short-comings are (in both cases I'm referring to more than just physical traits). It sucks, but that's the way I think it is. Then again, I wasn't a match.com success story, so my opinion isn't worth much. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #21 June 23, 2006 I have heard that eharmony is good. Someone I work with met her hubby through it.Divot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #22 June 23, 2006 Thank you, Dave, and everyone else. Sometimes, I just feel so overwhelmed by men, and that leads to me being guarded. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #23 June 23, 2006 QuoteYes, everyone always thinks that I'm taken. I WAS very taken for a long time because I was in a serious relationship. I'm not in that relationship any more. I became single back in October. now that you admitted that on DZ.com, you have had youre pmbox fiiled?My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #24 June 23, 2006 QuoteWithout trying to sound too insulting, in my area most of the women are kinda dumb, seriously overweight, have a full litter of children, or they're psycho... and many fall into more than one category. There are a few who are intelligent, attractive, funny, active, and who have a kidloading of less than 3:1, but almost all of them are taken and the rest aren't interested in me. By chance, do we live in the same neighborhood? Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #25 June 23, 2006 QuoteThanks, Keith. I think that I'll keep my lovelife more private, but I'll let you know, if I meet someone special. Btw, I'm logging off for a little while. (I suddenly have a lot of PMs.) I would rather see posts reply to this thread, as opposed to private messages. Thanks, guys. I guess that means you won't be answering my pm.... And I echo the sentiment here - if you have to go to match.com with your personality and looks, us common folk are screwed. Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
