sartre 0 #101 July 20, 2006 OK every body, hopefully you'll read this far in the thread and 'hear' me say this again: this is a hypothetical question that sprang from the 'how do I dump my gf' thread. I was trying to imagine it from her point of view, and wondering if she'd want to stay with him still knowing that he wasn't 'in love' with her. And I completely agree, I abhor the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" concept. And for the record, if I did find myself on the recieving end of that situation, I would probably not stay. I'd want to, but my self esteem would get such a tough beating by staying that it wouldn't be worth it to me. Not to mention not good role modeling for my kiddo. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #102 July 20, 2006 QuoteA couple of recent threads got me to wondering.... Say you're married to the person you consider to be your "soulmate". "The One". You're happy with the current state of your relationship. You've got the nice house, the cars, the kids, the pets. One day your spouse tells you he/she is no longer in love with you. But they are willing to stay since you guys get along for the most part, and it would tear so many things apart to split up. They are willing to live a facade until the kids go off to college. What do you think you would do? First - My head would start to throb - major stress headache. Next - the little voices would come back out and start telling me what to do. I don't know what else happens after that . . . it's a blur.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #103 July 20, 2006 The little voices inside your head....that explains quite a bit! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
McBeth 0 #104 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteOh like a normal marriage. Yeah one of those.I was unaware there was such a thing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #105 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteQuoteOh like a normal marriage. Yeah one of those.I was unaware there was such a thing Oh - they exist - Read any Fairy Tale.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jaden 0 #106 July 21, 2006 From that perspective, no. I do not have kids but my parents divorced when I was six. For the majority of my life I lived without self-esteem, they were both very negative. That is the effect of a lack of a positive role model. It is entirely situational dependant. If someone is in a relationship & they realize that they no longer love their partner...I hope that they are cool enough to cut their loses, be honest & let that person go... To find someone that can provide this. Everyone deserves happiness & love. In my opinion... Selfish love leads to desperation or betrayal. A little compassion goes a very long way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
