airtwardo 7 #76 July 20, 2006 Quote***When my oldest son was young, and he was misbehaving, we would tell him that we're going to put him back into the box he came in, and send him back. Once, a FedEx truck drove by about that time. Words cannot describe the look on his face. __________________________________________________ HMMM...I'll bet that would work on my 4-year old. Ooops, did I say that? *** Puts a whole new slant on "shippin' the kids off for the weekend"! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #77 July 20, 2006 QuoteThey are willing to live a facade until the kids go off to college. That's a sure recipe for eternal happiness."I'll be miserable making you miserable so our kids can witness how miserable we are and use us as role models". "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #78 July 20, 2006 It's Frenchy!!!We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #79 July 20, 2006 tell us what you really think!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydivermom 0 #80 July 20, 2006 ***They are willing to live a facade until the kids go off to college. ------------------------------------------------------------ ...or they could do like my parents did and NOT live a facade, so that when my sister and I left we just looked at eachother, shook our heads and asked..."Why in the Sam Hill (or another word would do) didn't she leave his sorry butt a long time ago?!!Mrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #81 July 20, 2006 Quotetell us what you really think!! I just licked your avatar! "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #82 July 20, 2006 I feel so violated!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #83 July 20, 2006 QuoteI feel so violated!!! I tend to do that to people... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydivermom 0 #84 July 20, 2006 ***I just licked your avatar! __________________________________________________ Oh great....here comes another rash of sex threads!! Duck and cover people.Mrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #85 July 20, 2006 Quote***I just licked your avatar! __________________________________________________ Oh great....here comes another rash of sex threads!! Duck and cover people. *** Oh RATS!.... Don't EVER say RASH and SEX in the same sentence with Frenchy in the room! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #86 July 20, 2006 I think it's my bedtime...ya'll can get sexy by yourselves!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StreetScooby 5 #87 July 20, 2006 Quote Don't EVER say RASH and SEX in the same sentence with Frenchy Isn't that redundant? He is French after all. We are all engines of karma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydivermom 0 #88 July 20, 2006 Oh man....this is really getting good and I'm getting oh so sleepy...Mrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #89 July 20, 2006 QuoteOh man....this is really getting good and I'm getting oh so sleepy... You sound like MY WIFE! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #90 July 20, 2006 QuoteBut the question is, what would you do? What would you want if put in the situation? I'd want out. I work with people who don't love me, but I get paid for that. I'm divorced. My kids are OK. We lead by example, and to teach them to live a lie for a lifetime is criminal. Being in love is the best thing that can happen to us in this lifetime. To say no to that happening again, or with someone else when "the one" doesn't love you anymore doesn't make any sense to me. tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #91 July 20, 2006 QuoteOh like a normal marriage. Yeah like a normal oneYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #92 July 20, 2006 Look red, Grab red, Look silver, grab silver, Peel/Pull Red, Peel Pull Silver... But that's just me and I'm not in that sort of situation... and hopefully never will be... ScottLivin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #93 July 20, 2006 QuoteLook red, Grab red, Look silver, grab silver, Peel/Pull Red, Peel Pull Silver... But that's just me and I'm not in that sort of situation... and hopefully never will be... Scott Figures... Usually, when involved in a serious relationship which one wishes to terminate, it is considered wiser to try the reserve PRIOR to dumping the main. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #94 July 20, 2006 that's a really tough situation. One I can barely comprehend since I've never been married, especially if kids were involved. I think it would be better to be honest from the start. It'd be extremely difficult for the kids, but I think it'd be better off in the long run if you were honest from the beginning. I would think that if both people could get along then perhaps they could live nearby, and custody wouldn't be as bad of an issue for them. Also if one person is still in love with the other, then it'd definitely be better to not be faking a marriage anymore, since one person might still think that 'things will improve', or maybe i can make him/her get back together with me. I would have to say that they should end the marriage. CReW Skies,"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #95 July 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteLook red, Grab red, Look silver, grab silver, Peel/Pull Red, Peel Pull Silver... But that's just me and I'm not in that sort of situation... and hopefully never will be... Scott Figures... Usually, when involved in a serious relationship which one wishes to terminate, it is considered wiser to try the reserve PRIOR to dumping the main.Fine be that way... Should I suggest what my cousin did instead... She stayed with her abusive husband until the children graduated from HS... then left... Like I said... my suggestion is only hypothetical... I've never been in a serious relationship and therefore have no real useful input... I have more or less been around good relationships... that's not to say that a good relationship won't have its occasional disagreements but there are times that its better for both parties and the kids (if there are any) to leave... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #96 July 20, 2006 We tried the "stay for the kid" scenario and it didn't work...it just got nasty and then nastier and finally to the point of it being best for the kid to live with one parent rather than two that were not getting along. A loveless relationship is not a good role model for kids and an antagonistic atmosphere is even worse. Cut your losses now.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #97 July 20, 2006 Bye bye.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #98 July 20, 2006 QuoteWhat do you think you would do? The same thing I did in a very similar situation--I didn't stand in her way as she was leaving. The choice was to either move on with my life or sit on the sidelines, desperately wanting something I could no longer have. Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Douva 0 #99 July 20, 2006 QuoteA couple of recent threads got me to wondering.... Say you're married to the person you consider to be your "soulmate". "The One". You're happy with the current state of your relationship. You've got the nice house, the cars, the kids, the pets. One day your spouse tells you he/she is no longer in love with you. But they are willing to stay since you guys get along for the most part, and it would tear so many things apart to split up. They are willing to live a facade until the kids go off to college. What do you think you would do? That's why I don't believe in the concept of "in love." I believe in love but not "in love." I think the idea that there is a finite line between in love and out of love is bogus. You either love somebody or you don't. I think telling your spouse, "I love you, but I'm no longer in love with you" is the biggest copout in the world. Don't try to play it off as something outside your control, when what you really mean is, "I love you, but I no longer want to be in a relationship with you." If the two of you still get along, meaning you're still friends, what is the problem? Is your spouse just bitching because it's not new and exciting anymore? Is he/she upset that the honeymoon ended fifteen years ago? What did he/she expect? As stated in another thread, some people need to grow up and quit expecting life to be a romance novel. There is no happily ever after in the real world. Maybe that's just the idealistic point of view of someone who's never been married, but I don't think it's nearly as idealistic as the belief that we're each going to spend the rest of our lives "in love" with our soul mates. In response to the second part of your question, my parents did not get along very well, but they did stick it out until my younger sister graduated high school. And they managed to do it without turning our home into a war zone. My sister and I had a pretty happy childhood, even if it did end pretty abruptly the summer after her senior year. I don't think this footnote really relates to the first part of your question; I only mention it as evidence that it is possible to "stick it out for the children." That's not always the best solution, but I think in some situations it can be.I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #100 July 20, 2006 QuoteOh like a normal marriage. Yeah one of those.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
