ACMESkydiver 0 #1 July 21, 2006 Yes, it's time for....'the talk'. Thanks to her stupid aunt, I am now a smidge ahead of what I had anticipated for those questions...about men, women, sex, babies, many men, other babies... I want this to be a nice open discussion with my very gifted 10 year old daughter, but I think some type of illustration could help with the specifics? I just want to avoid trying to illustrate the beauty of a man and woman, deeply in love, sharing a moment of passion together with a pointed index finger inserted into an 'O' made by the opposite hand's index finger and thumb... Please, I am very serious about needing to explain information completely...I don't want her to be left confused. I have found in my life that children that are confused on this particular topic attempt exploring far too early. Please no links to straight-out porn. I really would like some kind of online visual aid, though (I can't get out to a book store, I'm alone with the 3 kids and these questions need answering...) Thanks. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tr027 0 #2 July 21, 2006 Okay, you know I don't have kids, but I dug this up, maybe it'll help: http://birdsandbeesvideo.com/ http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sex-education/HQ00547"The evil of the world is made possible by nothing but the sanction you give it. " -John Galt from Atlas Shrugged, 1957 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #3 July 21, 2006 I would go with just a one on one talk with her. I wouldn't rely on a video of a book. I would see how much she knows before going into full detail. I would answer her questions with "to the best of my knowledge" and "if I don't know the answer lets find the answer together" attitude. I would just answer her question with an open, honest, straight forward answer, with CORRECT terminology. For example..No "who-who" for vagina and no "thinga a ma bob" for penis. You know what I mean? I feel for ya, I have an 11 yr old that is teetering on the edge of "the talk" Scccccaaaarry shiiit! BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #4 July 21, 2006 Thanks, I'll check them out. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pullhigh 0 #5 July 21, 2006 10 years old? I guess my kids just started asking too soon. I've had to have the talk with both of my sons already and they are only 7 and 9. It's amazing what kids can learn in a neighborhood game of truth or dare.... Ganja Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #6 July 21, 2006 when I was about 8 or so my parents just gave me a book about it. Had all the info, plumbing specs, etc. Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #7 July 21, 2006 Have Turtle serve as your "Proxy"."No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #8 July 21, 2006 Quote10 years old? I guess my kids just started asking too soon. I've had to have the talk with both of my sons already and they are only 7 and 9. It's amazing what kids can learn in a neighborhood game of truth or dare.... Ganja I should have started earlier, really. I just...yeesh. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #9 July 21, 2006 I agree with Bobbi... Ive had kinda the talk with all. First find out what they know, find out what they want to know and answer with your personal beliefs in mind as well as honestly and medically. I hate the word vagina but its better then nicknames and slang. Just to let you know, its not as hard once you look back on the talk. I freaked out for about a day before Kyles talk but then when it was over I was relieved and realized its not that big a deal. The only thing I messed up on at first was I didnt state that the talk is between parent and child and therefore right afterwards Kyle went out and told a girl "dont even ask to see my private parts" so maybe throw in that its a family talk and it stays there. Good luck.Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #10 July 21, 2006 Just ask her what her questions are, answer them honestly, and add in more information where you feel you need to. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #11 July 21, 2006 QuoteHave Turtle serve as your "Proxy". Dude that is just wrong - Just have her log onto DZ.COm and give her a screen name .I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #12 July 21, 2006 This book is the one my parents gave me when I was approaching puberty. I could still read it and laugh my ass off today. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0818403128/sr=8-1/qid=1153506298/ref=pd_bbs_1/102-3651498-3524165?ie=UTF8"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #13 July 21, 2006 Quote The only thing I messed up on at first was I didnt state that the talk is between parent and child and therefore right afterwards Kyle went out and told a girl "dont even ask to see my private parts" so maybe throw in that its a family talk and it stays there. Good luck. I used a medical website, and it worked out very well. -Well, as good as it could for now. Poor baby is afraid of starting her period. She is afraid of 'bleeding'. ...and nothing I tell her will convince her that putting something in 'there' won't hurt really bad. I guess it'll be my Sprouty-girl, the nun. I think I handled the social/belief aspect of it ok. She is convinced that she does NOT want a baby without a husband first. That's what started this whole conversation yesterday..."Mom, would you still have had me if you hadn't met daddy?" Man did that catch me off guard. Her cousins have multiple daddies and no husband to her aunt, so she was asking why she had one dad and he was married to me. It's hard to think of something to say when a 10 year old asks if you would have been a single mom if she was 'on the way' with no man. Even harder when there's a sales associate standing there trying to help you read the tag on the pretty girls purple bike you're looking to size for your lil' one. This little girl shouldn't have to be thinking about this kind of thing. She has unfortunately been exposed to it in a very negative way though, and thank God she is so much more emotionally mature than I was as a kid. She can make sense of the things she needs to with some help. And we can help point out some of the 'why' things have come to be the way they are for her cousins, and how it is choice-related. I tell her all the time that she is bright enough to make better choices than what she has seen other adults make; including me.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #14 July 21, 2006 Yes, you can go to www.justtalktothekid.whatthehelldoyouthinkeveryonedidbeforealgoreinventedtheinternet.com. Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #15 July 21, 2006 QuoteYes, you can go to www.justtalktothekid.whatthehelldoyouthinkeveryonedidbeforealgoreinventedtheinternet.com.that there's some good info... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #16 July 21, 2006 www.thehun.net NSFW!! they probably found that themselves already.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #17 July 21, 2006 QuoteYes, you can go to www.justtalktothekid.whatthehelldoyouthinkeveryonedidbeforealgoreinventedtheinternet.com. Chris Smart ass... Talking I have no problem with. It's creating a detailed picture without being too graphic of what 'it', uh 'they'..all of that stuff is that's eluding me. ...and in the end, I ALMOST resorted to the finger sticking in the whole thingy when she still couldn't grasp how his thing gets in her thing. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #18 July 21, 2006 Quotewww.thehun.net NSFW!! they probably found that themselves already.. Iwan, what part of: QuotePlease no links to straight-out porn. didn't sink in to that melon of yours?? ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goodnplentygirl 0 #19 July 21, 2006 I have a book that my mom bought me, and read to me when I was 7. It has pictures and everything, and really explanes everything very well. It is called "Where did I come from?" and I dont remember the author. I still have it to this day, not cuz I need it or anything, just cuz its funny to look at. my body, my choice Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #20 July 21, 2006 QuoteI have a book that my mom bought me, and read to me when I was 7. It has pictures and everything, and really explanes everything very well. It is called "Where did I come from?" and I dont remember the author. I still have it to this day, not cuz I need it or anything, just cuz its funny to look at. It's by the same author of the book I cited above. I had both (maybe still have them if I dig through my stuff). LOVE those books!"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #21 July 21, 2006 Who needs a website? You have the proper equipment, right? _____________ I'm not conceited...I'm just realistic about my awesomeness... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
