chaoskitty 0 #1 August 1, 2006 to stand up to someone when they are wrong is: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #2 August 1, 2006 Being a mate. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #3 August 1, 2006 some will tell you it is self-righteous. i think more people should step up and say something. especially if it's a friend. sometimes only friends can get through. the truth may hurt, but it is valuable at times. look at one of our recent incidents. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #4 August 1, 2006 ...very easy to do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #5 August 1, 2006 Quotesome will tell you it is self-righteous. i think more people should step up and say something. especially if it's a friend. sometimes only friends can get through. the truth may hurt, but it is valuable at times. look at one of our recent incidents. I believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. I'm not disagreeing with you about stepping up.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #6 August 1, 2006 There's not much I don't have the balls to do. But, whether or not it's worth it to me is another matter. I don't care much for drama or chaos. Most of the time I'm happiest when I don't bother to get worked up over something that, in the long run, really doesn't matter anyways.Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pincheck 0 #7 August 1, 2006 funnily enough i did that last week, told some home truths and that person took the hump and is no longer a friend his loss Billy-Sonic Haggis Flickr-Fun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #8 August 1, 2006 I guess what I'm saying is... if I am f-ing up and my friends notice and don't say anything, than what kind of friends are they. does not mean i'm judging them. my best friend calls me out on things all the time. sometimes my reaction is bitterness at first, but that is immediately replaced by... oh, yeah, a laugh and a thank you. how can we better ourselves if our friends don't even have the balls to say... hey you are screwing up. judgement is saying that you screwed up and therefore you are a bad person - not the case most of the time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GTAVercetti 0 #9 August 1, 2006 Quote...very easy to do. You are so fucking wrong, you self-righteous bastard.Why yes, my license number is a palindrome. Thank you for noticing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #10 August 1, 2006 QuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #11 August 1, 2006 That's a real shame... but if he's a real mate it'll get sorted (over a beer). If not. bollocks. I some times tend to get a bit humpy (cuz I'm a grumpy old git) but never too much and I can wait and let my mates admit they're wrong . (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #12 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? Yes, I do - Why what did you say?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #13 August 1, 2006 QuoteThere's not much I don't have the balls to do. But, whether or not it's worth it to me is another matter. I don't care much for drama or chaos. Most of the time I'm happiest when I don't bother to get worked up over something that, in the long run, really doesn't matter anyways. Oh yah.. definitley pick your battles. I have no problem letting the little things slide. I tend to notice everything, so I do that a lot. But if theres a situation that I want to resolve, bet your ass I'm going to step up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites lauraliscious 0 #14 August 1, 2006 Depends on the situation. If they're hurting themself or someone else by being wrong then standing up to them is important. Not so important if it's at say, trivia night. But I do wish I'd had the balls to tell Hamilton's friends they were wrong about the Dixie Chicks last week b/c then we would have a gift certificate to buy tonight! Seriously, I wish I had the balls to stand up to people more often. Enemiga Rodriguez, PMS #369, OrFun #25, Team Dirty Sanchez #116, Pelt Head #29, Muff #4091 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites chaoskitty 0 #15 August 1, 2006 Quote Yes, I do - Why what did you say? Dont worry.. if I had anything to say about you, I'd say it *to* you... though risk being called self-righteous. And if you disagreed with me I'd expect you to call me right back out. Its amazing how people with opinions are often quite apt to hearing others opinions as well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wildblue 7 #16 August 1, 2006 QuoteDoing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Amen. Many times I've pointed out to friends that I thought what they were doing/did was shitty, wrong, dangerous, fucked up, whatever. I don't judge them based on that action, I form my opinion on them based on their reaction to me and/or change in ways.it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #17 August 1, 2006 QuoteIts amazing how people with opinions are often quite apt to hearing others opinions as well. I find it that ther are actually very inept at hearing opinions and corrections to themselves.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites chaoskitty 0 #18 August 1, 2006 We'll just have to redeem ourselves... and quit listening to college boys. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wildcard451 0 #19 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuote...very easy to do. You are so fucking wrong, you self-righteous bastard. Quit judging me you self-important shithead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #20 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? Actually I consider that to be one of those things that I would warn a friend that they are doing something that may need to be reevaluated. Judging, to me, seems different. I'm going to ponder this more.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sharimcm 0 #21 August 1, 2006 I think more of us should stand up for what they believe. I probably do it too often, which has gotten me in trouble a couple of times, but I'm pretty blunt and just say what I feel. Why hide anything? "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites normiss 871 #22 August 1, 2006 oddly enough - that's how I became unemployed! but I did the right thing. If more of us don't stand up for what is right, we all become sheep. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites chaoskitty 0 #23 August 1, 2006 Eh.. I dont think I know what you mean. Ponder it some more and get back to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites 2fat2fly 0 #24 August 1, 2006 a situational thing. How important is it? Pick your battles.I am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites guppie01 0 #25 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? There are people out there who constantly put their "two cents" in as if they know everything and the person it's directed to are complete utter idiots. There is a huge difference between being supportive and looking out for the other persons best interest vs. being condescending and belittling all the time. I don't mind my friends and family calling me out - I would not grow. But if someone is in my life tellling me what a fucking idiot I am (when said person really doesn't have a leg to stand on) I would walk away. g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 1 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. 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lauraliscious 0 #14 August 1, 2006 Depends on the situation. If they're hurting themself or someone else by being wrong then standing up to them is important. Not so important if it's at say, trivia night. But I do wish I'd had the balls to tell Hamilton's friends they were wrong about the Dixie Chicks last week b/c then we would have a gift certificate to buy tonight! Seriously, I wish I had the balls to stand up to people more often. Enemiga Rodriguez, PMS #369, OrFun #25, Team Dirty Sanchez #116, Pelt Head #29, Muff #4091 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #15 August 1, 2006 Quote Yes, I do - Why what did you say? Dont worry.. if I had anything to say about you, I'd say it *to* you... though risk being called self-righteous. And if you disagreed with me I'd expect you to call me right back out. Its amazing how people with opinions are often quite apt to hearing others opinions as well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildblue 7 #16 August 1, 2006 QuoteDoing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Amen. Many times I've pointed out to friends that I thought what they were doing/did was shitty, wrong, dangerous, fucked up, whatever. I don't judge them based on that action, I form my opinion on them based on their reaction to me and/or change in ways.it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #17 August 1, 2006 QuoteIts amazing how people with opinions are often quite apt to hearing others opinions as well. I find it that ther are actually very inept at hearing opinions and corrections to themselves.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #18 August 1, 2006 We'll just have to redeem ourselves... and quit listening to college boys. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #19 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuote...very easy to do. You are so fucking wrong, you self-righteous bastard. Quit judging me you self-important shithead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #20 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? Actually I consider that to be one of those things that I would warn a friend that they are doing something that may need to be reevaluated. Judging, to me, seems different. I'm going to ponder this more.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #21 August 1, 2006 I think more of us should stand up for what they believe. I probably do it too often, which has gotten me in trouble a couple of times, but I'm pretty blunt and just say what I feel. Why hide anything? "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 871 #22 August 1, 2006 oddly enough - that's how I became unemployed! but I did the right thing. If more of us don't stand up for what is right, we all become sheep. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #23 August 1, 2006 Eh.. I dont think I know what you mean. Ponder it some more and get back to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #24 August 1, 2006 a situational thing. How important is it? Pick your battles.I am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #25 August 1, 2006 QuoteQuoteI believe that self righteous is a bit different. Doing the right thing doesn't make you self righteous, judging your friends and others, however, does. You can think i'm wrong, and still not judge me. Telling you that I think you are wrong, why, and advising you on how to right your wrong is not judging you. NOT telling you that I think you're wrong, but instead talking about you behind your back and saying what a schmutz you are.. is judging you. Agreed? There are people out there who constantly put their "two cents" in as if they know everything and the person it's directed to are complete utter idiots. There is a huge difference between being supportive and looking out for the other persons best interest vs. being condescending and belittling all the time. I don't mind my friends and family calling me out - I would not grow. But if someone is in my life tellling me what a fucking idiot I am (when said person really doesn't have a leg to stand on) I would walk away. g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
