Accidents: Preventable or Inevitable, Faith of Fate?

[DustyP 0]

Accidents: Preventable or Inevitable, Faith of Fate?

Just recently I lost 2 cousins in a car accident. I’m not the religious type but I still think things happed for a reason, and theres is a God but I’m still slightly conflicted.

Was It their ultimate fate or could it have been prevented? If the oncoming stopped for its stop sign, they would not of died. Preventable

Or would they die some other way? Inevitable

I trying to bring the to a close, but still never forget them 11 and 5 is a very young
My whole family is very religious and this made them question their own faith beliefs.

My situation is not yours, but what do you think
I know it really doesn’t matter, but nothing matters much ultimately.

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[SkydiveStMarys 0]

My mother always has said that, "when its your time, its your time."

I think that no matter what you do to keep yourself safe, when the "higher power" wants you, there is no amount of running or hiding that you can do to keep you from taking that next step in life. I mean lets face it, you can be the most cautious person this side of heaven and some drunk driver idiot can pull out in front or you or cross the line and you gone. If its gonna happen its gonna happen. I do believe in "wake up calls" too.

Bobbi

A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude.

[cocheese 0]

All I know is that the next level must be awesome if all the good ones go there first. So sorry for your loss.

[ffejdraga 0]

Sucks man, sorry for your loss.

I am not religious at all, not sure if i believe in a "higher power" or anything, but this is what I think.

No one could have predicted that would have happened, but if you take it backwards from that moment, everything in their lives led to that, and more importantly everything in the Driver's life, led them to be in that exact place at that exact time. If any one detail had changed, they wouldn't have arrived at that instant, it would have been another instant, but through the course of their lives, there is no way to tell. You just live, go on about your life.

But looking back even further, every person is who they are because of the instant of conception, and had that instant of conception changed, you would be a different person. So everything in your parents' lives led them to that exact specific moment you were conceived. And the same is true for your grandparents and theirs and so on back forever....

It is basically chaos theory, can't predict it, but you can follow the ripples backward....

It really turns my mind around, but that is what I beleive.

Again, sorry for the loss and pain you feel.

jeff D-16906

[lisamariewillbe 1]

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Was It their ultimate fate or could it have been prevented? If the oncoming stopped for its stop sign, they would not of died. Preventable

Or would they die some other way? Inevitable

First off I am very sorry for your lose. Second, I literally have wondered this often, I have come to the conclusions (well this helps me at least) that regardless of if it was preventable or inevitable its still exactly how it is. You will not find the answers to this question, and even if you did, we cant go back in time and bring those babies back...the longer you search, the harder it is to get to the other areas of grief that one day, although might not make you whole, makes you closer. You have to go through them though. What ifs, they really dont change anything, let yourself grieve and remember those babies for everything they brought you.

I believe in heaven, I believe in hell, and I believe that no matter how much of a cliche it sounds like , that we really do come out stronger if we dont lose sight of what matters. I also believe you never have more then you can handle. We all have the tools to get through a wide range of emotions in life. Find those tools.

What matters right now, is that even though it is so unfair to lose those babies, that you had them in your life, and down the road, you knowing them (even if it was to short a time) will make your life better because those children, touched you enough that their lose brings you pain and that things will never be the same in your heart but one day if we are lucky and God really is real, then we have a chance to spend eternity in their the grace of those we loved.

I wish you luck in finding some peace. God never says that he wont let bad stuff happen, he does however reassure us that no matter what he is going through it with us and that if you just let him, he can help you heal.

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