Kill Me Now

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Forgive me, I need to vent:

A good friend of mine just moved 20 minutes away from me (previously she lived 6 hours away). She's my age (26). We go way back. She's definitely "my girl" and we have good times, but are very different minds.

Well, last night I met fiance' #2---A 23-year-old know-it-all who tries desperately to impress with his knowledge of wines & all things worldly. Mind you, he's usually wrong and always immature. But I'm a good girl and just smiled and humored the idiot. He's about to start law school (a private school here) and has no job, yet the spoiled brat kept throwing hundreds at us all night wanting us to "hook him up" w/ various things, tickets, etc.

The worst part is my gorgeous friend, even thinner than me, had bruises on her under arm where she claims he "pinches her fat" when her arms jiggle. I about choked on my ahi tuna.

Kill me now, b/c last night was just the first of many I'll have to endure, I'm sure.

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[SkydiveStMarys 0]

Why would you have to endure it? As a friend you need to sit down with your good friend, obviously you need to give her time to adjust to being close to you again, but you need to have a chat with her about said idiot! Hopefully she will see the error of her ways..you did say this is FIANCE #2, there is hope, she isn't married to idiot boy YET!

If that doesn't work, I'll come down and we can tag team the livin shit out of him. I can't stand these types of men!!Grrrrrrrr..

Bobbi

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[PLFXpert 0]

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I'll come down and we can tag team the lvin shit out of him.

I couldn't help myself, I spoke to my best friend (different girl) about him this morning. Sher and I are a lot alike and very much in the same places in our lives. We always have been. She was in tears laughing at my description of this cat. Sher comes here on business often enough that we made plans to definitely get together with these other two and relish in the inside jokes.

It sounds mean, and I do feel a little guilty about talking shmack. It's not something I like to make a habit of. But, COME ON! Could this guy BE any more annoying???

Oh, the best part: He kept clearing tables wanting us to dance together all night. Mind you, like Billy, he's heard the stories of "Lisa" and I dancing in the clubs back in the day. That's just how a couple of virgins released their built-up energy back then. But, times have changed, pal. I'm certainly not your entertainer, and would you please stop slapping my ass with the end of your pool stick.

Again, kill me now!

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[NWFlyer 2]

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ad bruises on her under arm where she claims he "pinches her fat" when her arms jiggle.

This is the only part that I would (potentially) worry about. It may seem "minor" in the scale of physical abuse right now, but that is the type of stuff that can easily escalate. It's also an insidious form of psycological abuse.

Forget about what an annoying jackass you think he is. Keep an eye on how he makes your friend feel and how he makes her feel about herself. That is where you intervene, if you see that changing.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

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No worries, Krisanne. We're on the exact same page.

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[Feeblemind 1]

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***please stop slapping my ass with the end of your pool stick.

I usually avoid these types of topics, Tolerating his lip out of consideration for your friend is one thing, getting smacked in the ass is entirely another in my opinion. Did you politely ask him to stop smacking your ass? If so and he continued the next time he did it I would:

A) Stand next to a large male and loudly say "Stop smacking my ass with the pool cue!" This will most likely embarrass him or generate a threat he would rather not deal with.

B) Politely whisper in his ear "Next time you smack my ass with that pool cue, I am going to wrap mine around your head! (If he does make sure you swing hard and accurately)

I don't care that he is the SO of an old friend, that type of unwanted behavior is not appropriate (well at least not how I was raised)

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[stitch 0]

His name isn't Salsa John by chance???

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[lisamariewillbe 1]

Ummmmmmm I dont know if I should ohhh nevermind Im on my best behaviour

Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this

[PLFXpert 0]

No worries.

I handled the situation expertly.

I'm a smart ass, remember? More seriously, if need be, I have a natural way of understanding how different people communicate and tailoring my delivery of a point to their needs to ensure there is no misunderstanding.

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[Feeblemind 1]

Well I respect that you handled it with humor, I am a more physical creature and tend to handle poor behavior that way.

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[PLFXpert 0]

I've never hit anyone in my life; not that I wouldn't if a situation called for me to defend myself physically.

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[lawrocket 3]

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He's about to start law school

Get her out now. If he's insufferable now, wait six months. It'll be much, much worse..

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[PLFXpert 0]

The funny thing is I actually LOVE law. LOVE knowing my rights. LOVE reading the fine print. LOVE getting what I want through a loop hole.

I suppose, however, there are a lot of people out there who hate lawyers. Maybe that's why he carries a gun on him all the time. It actually fell out on the floor of the restaurant.

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[DancesWClouds 0]

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Maybe that's why he carries a gun on him all the time. It actually fell out on the floor of the restaurant.

SARDONICALLY LAUGHING MY ASS OFF!!!(*chokes*)

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Dances
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[masterrig 1]

The guy sounds like trouble, from the git. I agree, this guy's 'pinching' could escalate into much worse abuse. It starts out 'small' and she could wind-up dead. This is the kind of guy that some women become 'addicted' to. The guy has a definite 'problem'. She needs to get the hell away from him.


Chuck

[JohnMitchell 16]

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Maybe that's why he carries a gun on him all the time. It actually fell out on the floor of the restaurant.

Although I support all peoples 2nd amendment rights, that guy does not sound mature enough to be packing heat. I would trust my 14 yo son's judgement and temperament more that his.

The bruise thing really bothers me, too. I could never do that to the woman I love (or he professes to).

[PLFXpert 0]

I hear ya'll. Loud and clear! Thing is...I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt...at least at first. He might, in a really weird, confused sort of way, been trying to impress us. Which in reality is hilarious b/c my father, though quite well-off, came from a poor farming family. Billy's family, though also pretty well-off, came from back-country roots. Though we are blessed to have grown up differently and with more luxury than our older relatives, we were brought up with the same values. I have no issues with any of it. I happily order the cheapest Pinot Noir on the menu when we go to a nice restaurant...in fact, I don't even know half the names---and when the waiter asked "which kind?" of Pinot Noir I wanted, I just said "The cheapest" and winked & smiled. They think it's "cute" or "funny" and I could care less.

But, this was this cat's first time meeting us---all he knows, probably, is we live at the beach and have/do various things.

Soooooooo......like any smart woman/friend would, I'm keeping my eye out, but giving him the benefit of the doubt, for now.

And it should be noted, my friend also has a concealed weapon's license. I asked her if she had that before or after she met him; the conversation changed and I never got my answer. I"ll ask again.



By the way---I didn't really want to open up a SC discussion on the topic of "packing." I fully support our rights. But, me? I've never touched a gun in my life. I have a picture I took as a 12-year-old from my first trip to the United Nations of a statue outside of a gun with its barrel tied in a knot. It sounds idealist. And believe me, I'm not so naive. But, I still hope...

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[Lindercles 0]

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A 23-year-old know-it-all .... I about choked on my ahi tuna.

Does he know the definition of the word "omnivore?"

[popsjumper 2]

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... He might, in a really weird, confused sort of way, been trying to impress us....

Of course he's trying to impress you! A sure sign of immaturity. And carrying a gun? Stupid enough to drop it in a restaurant? Trouble brewing.

Slap your friend repeatedly until she wakes up.

Comedy relief:
Introduce her to me. I'll charm her pants off...er...away from the guy...you know what I mean...right?

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59, 60...Ready or not, here I come!

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