Am I An Asshole? Opinions Needed

[iamsam 0]

MagicGuy, why don't you move in with crazy tarot chick!?!

Can we have an update please..?

but what do I know

[tigra 0]

You may or may not be an asshole, but it sure sounds like your roommates are trying to bully you.
They've made it clear the new furniture is theirs, so how on earth can they expect you to pay for it?

Are the three of you renting the house or did they buy it? If they bought it, you're helping THEM make their mortgage payment and build equity- paying one third really isn't fair if that's the case, since, like the furniture, if you move out, you get nothing.

As long as you've got a decent income, why not get your own place? You can probably find a decent place for less than what your paying for a tiny room in a house with jerks for roomates.

[mailin 0]

I live in Cranston, on the providence line until the 29th when we move into our own house in Cumberland. My landlord will have this apartment (3 bedrooms) free after that and I know he has a house thats split into 2, 2 bedroom units just down the street. Its fairly cheap.

If you are interested, let me know.


Jen

Arianna Frances

[DustyP 0]

dude this post is a little late but whatever!

the same, not exact thing happened to me. I told them to get fucked. I had two other room mates that made 18.80hr each, that’s almost $5 more than I made at the time. so they tried to persuade me and shit relentlessly, almost like they were trying blackmail me. I started to play along like I would, just told them I wanted some say and it had to be something that we could resell, they were like “yeah man whatever as long as we all agree on it”
so they got all happy, and all that good shit.
about a week later we went looking for a living room suite, I found this real nice one that they hated. “dude that couch if fucking gay, micro fiber! Its gay” a sells person was trying to help us but was getting nowhere, I was like “I’ll take it”
they about shit themselves, funny ass shit. I had already set-myself up an apartment.
I straight moved out and got my own place. they were pretty pissed off at me.
The lease was up and we were all goin to move to this other house, I was 1/3 of all the cash! They both ended up moving back in their moms. (little bitches)

So, no dude, you have every right to be the biggest PRICK when someone else is trying to spend your money, they must have life twisted! crazy asses.

we still get along and hand out all the time, they know not to pull that kinda shit on me again, for they live back at home!

Good Luck Man,
DustyP
Living on my own is so much nicer! That’s for real!

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[popsjumper 2]

If they don't back off, the only viable solution, as has been said several times already, is to move out. How you handle moving out will determine your future relationship with the brothers.

Just go ahead and move out but do it with as little drama as you can. You can use the "doesn't fit my budget" reasoning and not be lying.

Aternatively, if you really wanted to stay with them, you could put forth the idea of each of you buying an equal-dollar-value item and retaining ownership of it.
Say you buy the couch, they each spend an equal amount on chairs, tables, whatever and you take the couch with you whenver you leave. Everybody use everything and not worry about it.

My reality and yours are quite different.
I think we're all Bozos on this bus.
Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239

[Tink1717 2]

You aren't the asshole here. They are clearly trying to get new furniture and get you to pay for it. If you give them this inch, they will take the next mile. If I was in your shoes, I'd tell them 3-2-1 See Ya! ASAP.

Skydivers don't knock on Death's door. They ring the bell and runaway... It really pisses him off.
-The World Famous Tink. (I never heard of you either!!)
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[Icon134 0]

I lived in a house with a couple of other luietenants when I was in GA... there were three rooms/three baths (one was pretty small, one was a little bit bigger and had its own bath, and the other was a very large loft type room with a walk in closet and also had its own bathroom) each of us paid a different ammount towards the rent (baised on the relative sizes of the rooms) and the "furniture" in the common areas were shared all but belonged to the individuals in the house.

everyone covered the cable bill, power, etc equally but I paid a bit more then the two downstairs because they had smaller personal space.

the reason I'm telling you this is because like others have said... I think your getting the shaft... sure it "could" be ok to charge you rent to use the furniture... but it should be a substanitally smaller percentage then what they're paying to buy the furniture... (and frankly... that's kind of wrong in and of itself... )

I say give notice and find your own place...

Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife...

[turtlespeed 226]

Cutaway!

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[jeiber 0]

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They gave me three options:

1.) I become a 'member of the community' and contribute towards these purchases.

2.) I don't use the new things that they buy, and I basically live in my room.

3.) I give them two months notice that I'm moving out.

So, tell me, am I a prick or do I have the right to stand my ground here? It's really bugging me...

I guess I don't see how they're really in a position to be giving YOU options.

I'll say this, assuming that you're friends with them, and want to 'work things out', and stay living there:

You pay your rent on time, you're cool to hang out with, and you help out with chores around the house.

If you move out, how sure are they that they'll get someone who pays on time? Who doesn't steal their crap? Who doesn't have boyfriend/girlfriend over all the time, essntially living their as well?

On top of that, do they really think a 'new' roommate is going to give them money for furniture?

I hate to say it, but if you stick around, you're probably gonna get screwed somehow. I'd find a new place to live as soon as possible.

Jeff

ps- if you put down a deposit, you might want to use it as your last months rent; even when all the legal agreements are made on paper, it's tough to get your deposit back, at least in a timely manner...

Shhh... you hear that sound? That's the sound of nobody caring!

[MagicGuy 0]

OK, I have some updates.

Shit hit the fan last night pretty hard. I left early in the morning yesterday because I was completely stressed out about the whole situation and needed to get out of there before I blew up on someone. I come back at like 8:30pm and the doors are all locked and noone's home. I call up one of my roommates - no answer. I call the other one and he picks up.

I said "What up man, noones home and I don't have a key and the doors are all locked. Where are you?"

"We're in Providence, cleaning up the apartment and doing all of the work while you're gone all day. And I'm supposed to feel bad that you can't get in the house?"

That was it. The screaming battle started and went back and forth. I told him to fuck himself and that I'll come and move my shit out tomorrow and he can give me my $700 back.

He told me that I can't. That they NEED 2 months notice. I said "Am I supposed to feel bad? You are treating me like a piece of shit."

He told me that my last name may be King, but that I am certainly not a King. What a douchebag. I thought it was funny, and replied "That's great! How long did it take you to think of that?'

He paused for a second, thrown off by my response LOL.

Anyways, we went back and forth for a good ten minutes. I got called a self-centered asshole, he got called a resentful, jealous prick. He told me that if I bounce I am not getting a dime back, and even threatened to hold on to my possessions until I gave HIM money. Ha, funny.

I got a call about two hours later from his brother, basically kissing my ass to get me to re-think my decision. We talked for a good 45 minutes and I expressed my concerns and my feelings for his asshole brother.

So, I don't know what's going to happen now. I'm back at my mom's for a couple nights, and if anything I'm going to let them sweat it out for a few more days before I even call them.

Thanks again for the input!! I'll keep you all updated.

Oh by the way, crazy tarot card chick is absolutely no longer in the picture!! She was getting may too attached after only going out 3 times. All set with that..

[turtlespeed 226]

Your name isn't Kevin and maybe live in Philly . . .?

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[rhaig 0]

make up with them, live in your room, and ask that they respect your space and stay out of your room. take a month to move your stuff slowly into storage/your car/your moms and then near the end of the month that they already have your money for, wait for them both to be out of the house, and vanish with all your shit. If they ask, just let them know that they'll need an extra $350/month each (note that you're giving them about the same notice you had to come up with 700/month) and you're out.

Fuck 'em.

--
Rob

[MagicGuy 0]

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Your name isn't Kevin and maybe live in Philly . . .?

I'm not Kevin, and definitely don't live in Philly.

Mailin, thanks for the info. Will I see you at Jumptown at ALL this season? Even just as a spectator?

[turtlespeed 226]

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Your name isn't Kevin and maybe live in Philly . . .?

I'm not Kevin, and definitely don't live in Philly.

Mailin, thanks for the info. Will I see you at Jumptown at ALL this season? Even just as a spectator?

never mind.




Come on . . . Phillykev - all he was missing was the strippers.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun