Am I in the wrong here?

[nubain1 0]

Opiniion please...........
I've been with this girl for almost 3 years. And for almost 2 of those years she has been out of work. She sits around the house all day doing nothing
but reading,puzzles,knitting and eating. She will not help out around the house until we have a fight about it. Then it's nothing but attitude.
She'll then clean a little but then the next day the house looks like it did before. I've complained that I've seen frat houses cleaner.
I'm supporting her and her son. I work on avg.80-90 hrs a wk. and when I get time off I'm having to clean, cook, put out on demand.
No matter how much I clean when I get back from work the next morning the house is trashed again. Now, after the fight we just had
I'm being made out to be the bad guy. She says she will be out b y the end of the week and is trying to make me feel guilty. I had to go and buy a car today because the one we have is in
her name and she said she was taking it when she leaves even though I'm the one that's been making all the payments on it.
So, am I in the wrong for saying enough is enough and I can't take it anymore trying to do everything by myself with no help
or no signs of any kind of appreciation for the work that I do?
Any Ideas? And I think there's the possibility of something else happening on the side, but I can't prove it. Just a feeling.

[kenz 0]

nope - let her leave - you do not need the aggrevation - and when she does leave i would suggest changing the locks in case she decides to come back and do some shopping for things that are not hers...

i know it's not as cut and dry and just let her leave but you deserve not to be taken advantage of like that - relationships involve compromise and contributions from BOTH sides - it's not right that you are supporting both her AND her son and are getting nothing back for it...

good luck!

"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me

[Lindercles 0]

I think you and Scoop might need to have a little talk.

[Keith 0]

You're kidding right??? If not, I'd like to move in with you, let you support me and my cat, and let you clean up after me. I'll even let you pay for all my jumps.

Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[Frenchy68 0]

The minute you ever start thinking of asking advice on a public forum about your relationship is the exact minute you should end this relationship. Me think...

"For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return."

[aprilcat 0]

Why would you care if something is happening 'on the side if for the past 2 years she's been sitting around doing nothing?

Everyone contributes something to a relationship and even though there are things you didn't say, you're not getting what you need. You spoke on things you wanted her to do, she didn't do it, so if she wants to leave, thats just about it, isn't it?

What do YOU want? Thats what you should be focusing on, not what she's doing on the side. I wish you luck....~~~April

Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo!

[nubain1 0]

I wish I was kidding. But it's like they say about nice guys finishing last. Hell I feel guilty here.
And taking anybody else to raise. Well the 1st time it's love the next time it's 20bucks.

[monkycndo 0]

Keith, you are just such a hopeless romantic.

50 donations so far. Give it a try.

You know you want to spank it
Jump an Infinity

[Shell666 0]

I wish my brother would read this and see himself in it. He's going through exactly the same thing but, as luck would have it for him, he's married to her.

You're not the bad guy. Believe me (and everyone else that's replied).

You're lucky to get out with only a car payment. It could be much worse.

Take care of yourself and if you think things aren't right, they probably aren't.

Just my $0.02 ... less since it's Canadian $$$

'Shell

'Shell

[Muenkel 0]

First I will say that what I write is based on what you wrote. There are always 2 sides to a story.

The writing is on the wall. Get her the fuck out and her little son too. But, be careful. This chick sounds like when she moves out, she will do it when you are not there and suddenly things you own will go with her. Unless you want to appear on Judge Judy, I suggest you do not leave your home unsupervised until she and the son are gone and the locks changed.

Best of luck to you,
Chris

BTW, what the hell took you so long?

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Chris

[Keith 0]

Since you're not kidding - Kick her to the curb. She'll only continue to make you miserable. I have to wonder why you've put up with her for this long. I checked out your myspace. You're a good looking guy and seem to have a good head on your shoulders. What gives?

Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[Keith 0]

Being the romantic that I am, I'm even willing to let him buy me a new truck.

Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[nubain1 0]

BTW, what the hell took you so long?

[nubain1 0]

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Being the romantic that I am, I'm even willing to let him buy me a new truck.

ok now you're just going overboard. 1st jump money now a new truck???

[Muenkel 0]

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BTW, what the hell took you so long?

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Answer: I'm a dumbass who is a softy. I take much more than I should. For some odd reason I let people in relationships
walk all over me.

You can never change the past. All you have is the present with the future ahead of you. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

Chris

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Chris

[Keith 0]

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Being the romantic that I am, I'm even willing to let him buy me a new truck.

ok now you're just going overboard. 1st jump money now a new truck???

Sounds like you're learning already. Repeat after me . . . NO NO NO.

Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[airtwardo 7]

No....you're not 'in the wrong'





and you're NOT ALONE!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[nubain1 0]

Thanks for all the replies. I feel better getting that off my chest. For the next long while,
I'll just be looking for a good time, not a long time. Just relations, not a relationship.
And I'll postpone moving to Tibet and joining a monastary to get away from women.

[airtwardo 7]

Hang in there....could be worse....could be ME!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[Lindercles 0]

I had no idea that you and Turtle had a thing going. Congrats!

[Muenkel 0]

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I had no idea that you and Turtle had a thing going. Congrats!

You sure you really want to congratulate him on that or have him committed?

Chris

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[airtwardo 7]

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I had no idea that you and Turtle had a thing going. Congrats!

You sure you really want to congratulate him on that or have him committed?

Chris

Who....ME?!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[bob.dino 1]

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You're lucky to get out with only a car payment.

If the car is in her name, can't he simply stop making the payment?

[Muenkel 0]

Chris

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[Nightingale 0]

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You're lucky to get out with only a car payment.

If the car is in her name, can't he simply stop making the payment?

Yeah... and if I was in his shoes, I'd look at my options for recovering the money I'd put into the car.