Twoply 0 #1 October 4, 2006 I got another scare of a lifetime. I was playing with my 2year old son out in the driveway this afternoon and happen to get to looking at the driver's side door of my truck in the driveway. He was playing on this tricycle and just goofing around when I heard the sounds of the wheels rolling faster than he could possibly be peddling. At the same time that I snap up to see where he's going, my wife screams out his name because he's now rolling down the hill that's our little driveway towards the street. I stop him shy of the street but not before my neighbor, who's same age child we watch sometimes, slows down to see the whole thing. Everybody's ok but I really don't feel like the portrait of good fathering. I thought I was going to get sick for about an hour as my boy just carried on playing. I've had some pretty close calls in life but that one takes it this month. I stil lfeel like barfing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveStMarys 0 #2 October 4, 2006 Nobody said it was gonna be easy. You will make a butt ton of mistake while raising kids. It takes that one split second for it to all go to shit. Been there done that. No matter what you do to keep them safe, something is right there to take all that away. Do the best that you can and hope and pray to God that they make it to 21 or 18, whatever comes first! OBTW..."father of the year"? NO SUCH THING!! BobbiA miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #3 October 4, 2006 why is there no such things as father of the year? Twoply, I am not a father but I have seen some stuff that gets parents pretty shaken up. The thing is you WERE there the save your kid. But, be it two weeks or 15 years, eventually you will need to let them learn on their own and that is really gonna fuck you up. I know you've got some time before that happens though.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbo 0 #4 October 4, 2006 Trust me dude, thats just one mark in the OH FUCK column. You'll quit counting after awhile and the marks wqill paint the wall. Usually it all comes out good in the end, just keep trying...Rainbo TheSpeedTriple - Speed is everything "Blessed are those who can give without remembering, and take without forgetting." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #5 October 4, 2006 QuoteI got another scare of a lifetime It will never end; you'll always worry much more about your kid's well being than your own. I was talking to a skydiver friend of mine. He and his 18 year old son were jumping together, and once under canopy, my friend looked up to see his son above him, having just deployed, with 8 line twists. He couldn't do anything but watch as his son (who doesn't yet have his A license) calmly got everything worked out and his canopy caught air. My immediate response was, "I'm never going to let my daughter skydive!!" This parenting thing is far more scary than hurling oneself out of an airplane!!! None of us is perfect by a long shot. We just do the best we can. Don't beat yourself up; I'm sure you're doing much much better than you think! And a whole lot of love makes up for a whole slew of mistakes, believe me.**edited to add: but your avatar may well damage your son for life.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #6 October 4, 2006 Buddy I know EXACTLY how you feel. You are Ok, your boy is Ok, take some deep breaths. I know because last week our Autistic twin sons broke through double locks on our kitchen to garage door (one lock we JUST put up 2 nights prior) sometime around 5am. Then one twin figured out how to push the button to open the garage door. When I heard my boys' voices it was about 5:15am and the giggles were coming from OUTSIDE on the street. Talk about losing about 15 years of life in an instant. Our boys don't understand traffic or danger. An Autistic boy escaped his house not 25 miles from us and was hit and killed in the exact same scenario not 2 months ago. I want to tell you it gets easier, but the truth of it is parents senses become heightened (just like you hearing those wheels spinning too fast). Sounds put us into motion before we even know what we're doing. My husband slammed his leg jumping out of bed the instant I yelled, but we got to them before they got to the intersection on their razor scooters. Just like you, we felt ill that whole day. If you believe in a higher power, pray for protection for your kids (and sanity for yourself). ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #7 October 4, 2006 Holy shiiiiiit!! Well, you know twins, they think in pairs and can be waaaay more mischievious than the average kid. Whoo boy am I glad I don't have twins... oops I better shut up. We aint finished having kids yet sooo.... "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #8 October 4, 2006 QuoteTrust me dude, thats just one mark in the OH FUCK column. You'll quit counting after awhile and the marks wqill paint the wall. Usually it all comes out good in the end, just keep trying... The scary part is that you are one of the best parents anyone will ever meet, and yet the OH SHIT factor will never cease. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisamariewillbe 1 #9 October 4, 2006 Parenting is similar to skydiving, the more you learn the more you realize you dont know anything. This will happen time and again, its kids being kids, then parents being parents. Do not be to hard on yourself, learn and move on , if you dont move on you wont be prepared for the next heart attack they give youSudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
