deal breakers

[happythoughts 0]

I think that everyone has some things that they have done. You wake up and think, "Whoa. That was a bad idea." Some of it is embarrassing. Where you want to have that edit button. Delete that scene.

I've had a lot of people tell me things and it generally works out to, "That's where you were in life and it happened."

Most peoples experiences make them who they are.
You grow and try not to repeat it.

I had a call from someone. Basically, it was "I just found this out. I can't get past it." As forgiving as I would like to be... I had to vote for the cutaway.
I really wish it was any other way.

Past behavior can be a predictor of future behavior.
If the future is ever 10% in this direction, it needs to be avoided.

Usually, deal breakers are just poor judgement items that get forgiven once, but get repeated.
Some stuff, you only get to do once.

[cocheese 0]

You could be a writer for the "Final Words" for Jerry Springer.

[lawrocket 3]

It takes more anatomy to do something like that than to let it slide. I myself always had a rule against second chances in relationships. People always questioned it, but I was always of the opinion that I'm just not stable enough to deal with that kind of instability.

What was actually pretty neat was that the rule allowed me to have some truly awesome friendships. It's amazing from an openness perspective when it's understood that this is not going anywhere else.

I think you end up better in the long run by untieing (not cutting) a relationship that you know you cannot be comfortable in, anymore. And it probably helps her, too.

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[happythoughts 0]

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You could be a writer for the "Final Words" for Jerry Springer.

Ok, elaborate a little. What is the Final Words thing?

(I've got my own little episode of JS going on in the neighborhood, so I don't need to watch it.)

A future segment...

"So, you told your kids that it is 'fun' to see what they can get away with, then lie and be violent when they are caught. Are you surprised that both your kids are in jail?"

[happythoughts 0]

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I'm just not stable enough to deal with that kind of instability.

A lot of people let things slide when they are younger because of the sex. "Yep, they're crazy and irritating, but I'm getting some twice a day."

After 30, the chaos isn't worth it. It adds extra hardships to your life. Plus, it poisons your other relationships. Your friends (and their SOs) don't want that person around either. A dysfunctional person at a business function puts your sanity under a microscope.

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I think you end up better in the long run by untieing (not cutting) a relationship that you know you cannot be comfortable in, anymore. And it probably helps her, too.

It probably helps my friend, but not his former g/f.
Some people never get it. People have their own expectations. The totally self-centered place no importance on the cares of others. They don't learn.

[yamtx73 0]

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Past behavior can be a predictor of future behavior.

This is so true... and it's best to just cutaway rather than deal with it again....

The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers...

[freefallfreak 0]

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and it's best to just cutaway rather than deal with it again....

Ahhh, I'm not too sure about that....My ex-wife from 36 years ago just looked me up a couple of weeks ago - and we are actually communicating better than ever. Maybe I'm wrong in a lot of other's thinking, but bottom line is this - there are a lot of feelings still between us that are growing every day - stronger than ever before (we were too young back then) and we both seem to believe (just a bit) that the time for us wasn't then but maybe it is now. Wish me luck with this cause I'm not gonna' listen to all the voices in my head. They complain too much, lol. I'm just following the little whisper in my heart and maybe something good will come out of this.

TripleF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[Tonto 1]

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Past behavior can be a predictor of future behavior.

This is so true... and it's best to just cutaway rather than deal with it again....

I don't know. I was a bad skydiver when I started. I made bad choices, and I hurt myself. I learned from my mistakes and I'm a bit better now. Sometimes the mistakes we make teach us what not to do, not to do them again.

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It's the year of the Pig.

[freefallfreak 0]

OH MY GOD....I'm in agreement with a GREENIE......

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[wmw999 2,641]

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I'm just following the little whisper in my heart and maybe something good will come out of this.

Something tells me you're a big boy . I wish you all the best in the world, and regardless remember you'll both grow.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[freefallfreak 0]

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Something tells me you're a big boy . I wish you all the best in the world, and regardless remember you'll both grow.

You are right about being a big boy, lol. Now, if I could just grow up instead of out, lol. It's amazing...I've been away from jumping for a while now and the pounds just seem to come from nowhere and land on ME!!
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Thanks for the well wishes, Wendy. Coming from you, that means a lot. As stated before, we were just too young (17 and 19) and didn't know what life was all about. She grew up, I grew out and after my post last night, we talked on the phone about this subject just like we've done every night for two weeks. We'll just have to see where it all leads. Who knows....ya'll may have another fledgeling skydiver on your hands or more likely, a new whuffo....

TripleF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."