dropdeded 0 #1 October 19, 2006 Hell, we've even set a date already But, I havent gotten a ring and bent the knee. Kinda sucks that I wanted to at least do some of this traditional, but with the new job and blah blah blah, NOW what do I do. Can I propose ringless and THEN we pick out rings??? We've talked about marriage and its a definate for us, just think I lost the rule book. WTF, it aint like the old days dropdeded------------------------------------------ The Dude Abides. - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #2 October 19, 2006 Give her a ring from a gumball machine at the proposal and then tell her that you want to shop with her so she can get exactly what she wants. I bet she'd save that gumball ring forever. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeded 0 #3 October 20, 2006 QuoteGive her a ring from a gumball machine at the proposal and then tell her that you want to shop with her so she can get exactly what she wants. I bet she'd save that gumball ring forever. From THE mama herself, MUST be the answer dropdeded------------------------------------------ The Dude Abides. - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #4 October 20, 2006 You don't have to be traditional. It's YOUR proposal. Make it meaningful to you and her... find an engagement ring that fits your budget (even if it's from a lesser quality store), chose a stone that suits her personality (not necessarily diamonds) and bend the knee. If you feel you need the expensive diamond one - make that the wedding one. Not traditional, but who cares? She most likely won't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #5 October 20, 2006 My wife and i designed our rings together with Gold from me and Amythist from her. we sort of agreed to marry but the question had not been asked. AFTER we left the jewellry designer, I rang him and told him I wanted her engagement ring finished a couple of weeks earlier than the wedding rings. I got the engagement ring (Kas was not expecting the rings for a few weeks yet), I cooked us a nice seafood dinner and we ate it by our pool. after dinner I dropped to one knee and aksed her to marry me. She started crying (incidently I hate when women do that, it confuses me ), thankfully she still said yes. Why not organise somthing similarIt was a VERYcool momentYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbrian 0 #6 October 20, 2006 QuoteGive her a ring from a gumball machine Mama, you're so sentimental! Of course, when it comes to the real ring, the industry says to spend the equivalent of 2 months salary. I say spend 4. After all, this is forever, right? In 20 years, 4 months salary in today's dollars will seem like nothing. There are some things you just don't skimp on. In a world full of people, only some want to fly... isn't that crazy! --Seal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #7 October 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteGive her a ring from a gumball machine Mama, you're so sentimental! Of course, when it comes to the real ring, the industry says to spend the equivalent of 2 months salary. I say spend 4. After all, this is forever, right? In 20 years, 4 months salary in today's dollars will seem like nothing. There are some things you just don't skimp on. TOTALLY depends on her and her interests and values. Some women put a ton of importance on the size of the rock, others want a simple wedding band to symbolize the relationship, some want something in between. Assuming, however, that she's bought into the diamond industry's hype could be a huge mistake. She may be one of those who would rather use 2 (or 4 as you propose) months salary on a down payment for a house ... or travel money ... or something else entirely. I'm assuming dropdeded knows where his fiancee stands on the issue and will act accordingly. dropdeded: congrats... I'm sure whatever you come up with will be memorable. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #8 October 20, 2006 Talk to her about it. See what she wants to do, and what you want to do and then come up with a solution together! She might not care that she doesn't have a ring right away, or at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skinnyshrek 0 #9 October 20, 2006 You beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there.http://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites flyangel2 2 #10 October 20, 2006 Ed, First off, congratsSecond, I only had a wedding band. I didn't get a "real" wedding ring till later on. We picked it out together. The ring isn't the important thing. My suggestion is along the lines of Andrea's. Get some thing, and get down on your knee and ask her the big question. I promise you, it will bring tears to her eyes and she will always remember it. Big hugs to you. MarMay your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #11 October 20, 2006 QuoteYou beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there. Nevermind, I can't read. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skinnyshrek 0 #12 October 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteYou beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there. Nevermind, I can't read. back away from the beerhttp://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites karenmeal 0 #13 October 20, 2006 I've told my boyfriend I would like an engagement rig. But really.. I don't care if I get something or not. In fact.. I feel like there are better ways that he can spend his money. Now if he surprised me with some plane tickets for a honeymoon in Chile.. that would be pretty cool. "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NWFlyer 2 #14 October 20, 2006 QuoteI've told my boyfriend I would like an engagement rig. Coming from you, I'm not sure if that's a typo. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites karenmeal 0 #15 October 20, 2006 No it's not a typo. He has worked for a couple rig manufacturers.. He used to have access to the Velocity Sports loft and could have built us both rigs for cheap and added some special flair to them too. But I don't really need/want a new rig right now anyways. I'm happy to have Josh's rig. "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JohnMitchell 16 #16 October 20, 2006 Quote TOTALLY depends on her and her interests and values. Some women put a ton of importance on the size of the rock, others want a simple wedding band to symbolize the relationship, some want something in between. Assuming, however, that she's bought into the diamond industry's hype could be a huge mistake. Industry hype is right on the money. Any woman who insists on a huge rock for the engagement is not a woman I'd want. Sounds not like a partnership, but a mercenarial relationship. I've even seen a woman spurn a really great husband over the size of the ring, much to her later dismay. Karma. Vskydiver and I are 20+ years on some very cheap rings, and quite happy about it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites NWFlyer 2 #17 October 20, 2006 QuoteBut I don't really need/want a new rig right now anyways. I'm happy to have Josh's rig. Yeah, that's a pretty special one. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #18 October 20, 2006 I think Skymama's idea is great! That way, the two of you can talk about it and decide together. Besides....I think it's romantic if you go together to pick out a diamond ring (if she decides she wants one). For me....I like diamonds, but it's not about the size of the gift but the size of the heart behind the gift. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #19 October 20, 2006 QuoteFor me....I like diamonds, but it's not about the size of the gift but the size of the heart behind the gift. Exactly. When I bought my wife her engagement ring, I was a full time skydiver. I was making on average about 13k a year. I spent about $1500 on the ring. Not because she wanted a ring like that, all of you that have met my wife would know better, its just that it was the ring I wanted for her. However, I didn't buy a huge rock. I bought a smaller diamond that was very high quality and was certified that high. It recently appraised for nearly 3x's what I paid for it. The cut, the clarity, the color...all nearly perfect. She has told me more then once that she appreciates the quality of her ring MUCH more then having had a larger diamond.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #20 October 20, 2006 QuoteThe cut, the clarity, the color...all nearly perfect. She has told me more then once that she appreciates the quality of her ring MUCH more then having had a larger diamond. Oh absolutely!!!! I'd rather have a tiny perfect diamond than a huge, cloudy, carbon filled piece of crap. Quality not quantity shows good taste! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #21 October 20, 2006 QuoteQuality not quantity good taste! It also shows a good jewler and not buying a ring from Zales or the mall or similar. A good jeweler will take the time to educate you on how diamonds are graded. He/she will also take the time to show you what you can afford in quality and quanity for your price range, minus $500 and plus $500. Also, a good jeweler won't try to pressure you into buying something that is beyond your reach or what you don't want. They know that once you buy and are taken care of, you'll be back for anniversaries, for Christmas, etc. I am luck to have Mark Futch, the same guy that makes the Single Helix closing pins, as my jeweler. That man has saved me for my engagement, my wedding rings and for a Christmas diamond neckless (which was a perfect gift last year, thank you Mark). He took the time to educate me and show me the difference in a mass produced piece of crap and a real diamond ring put together with skill and experience by a real jeweler.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #22 October 20, 2006 Oh, don't get me wrong. I'd LOVE to have some fancy/schmancy sparkly work of art. But it's still about the thought, not the cost. Hell, look at me. I'm wearing a rubber bracelet on my wrist that hasn't been off for 16 months and counting. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites AggieDave 6 #23 October 20, 2006 Quote Oh, don't get me wrong. I'd LOVE to have some fancy/schmancy sparkly work of art. I guess I'll have to PM Mike to let him know to buy the fancy holster.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites boinky 0 #24 October 20, 2006 QuoteI guess I'll have to PM Mike to let him know to buy the fancy holster. LMAO!!! Don't you think I need to learn to use the gun before we worry about holsters? Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? 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skinnyshrek 0 #9 October 20, 2006 You beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there.http://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #10 October 20, 2006 Ed, First off, congratsSecond, I only had a wedding band. I didn't get a "real" wedding ring till later on. We picked it out together. The ring isn't the important thing. My suggestion is along the lines of Andrea's. Get some thing, and get down on your knee and ask her the big question. I promise you, it will bring tears to her eyes and she will always remember it. Big hugs to you. MarMay your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #11 October 20, 2006 QuoteYou beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there. Nevermind, I can't read. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skinnyshrek 0 #12 October 20, 2006 QuoteQuoteYou beat me to the post. Any women that goes by the stupid diamond advertisements is a fucking gold digger. I asked the wife a rig or a ring . As she is a jumper a rig was the answer. The biatch got both because i am silly that way. But all in all, if she was like well, you need to spend 3 months of your salary blah blah blah, i would of been out of there. Nevermind, I can't read. back away from the beerhttp://www.skydivethefarm.com do you realize that when you critisize people you dont know over the internet, you become part of a growing society of twats? ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karenmeal 0 #13 October 20, 2006 I've told my boyfriend I would like an engagement rig. But really.. I don't care if I get something or not. In fact.. I feel like there are better ways that he can spend his money. Now if he surprised me with some plane tickets for a honeymoon in Chile.. that would be pretty cool. "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #14 October 20, 2006 QuoteI've told my boyfriend I would like an engagement rig. Coming from you, I'm not sure if that's a typo. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karenmeal 0 #15 October 20, 2006 No it's not a typo. He has worked for a couple rig manufacturers.. He used to have access to the Velocity Sports loft and could have built us both rigs for cheap and added some special flair to them too. But I don't really need/want a new rig right now anyways. I'm happy to have Josh's rig. "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #16 October 20, 2006 Quote TOTALLY depends on her and her interests and values. Some women put a ton of importance on the size of the rock, others want a simple wedding band to symbolize the relationship, some want something in between. Assuming, however, that she's bought into the diamond industry's hype could be a huge mistake. Industry hype is right on the money. Any woman who insists on a huge rock for the engagement is not a woman I'd want. Sounds not like a partnership, but a mercenarial relationship. I've even seen a woman spurn a really great husband over the size of the ring, much to her later dismay. Karma. Vskydiver and I are 20+ years on some very cheap rings, and quite happy about it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #17 October 20, 2006 QuoteBut I don't really need/want a new rig right now anyways. I'm happy to have Josh's rig. Yeah, that's a pretty special one. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #18 October 20, 2006 I think Skymama's idea is great! That way, the two of you can talk about it and decide together. Besides....I think it's romantic if you go together to pick out a diamond ring (if she decides she wants one). For me....I like diamonds, but it's not about the size of the gift but the size of the heart behind the gift. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #19 October 20, 2006 QuoteFor me....I like diamonds, but it's not about the size of the gift but the size of the heart behind the gift. Exactly. When I bought my wife her engagement ring, I was a full time skydiver. I was making on average about 13k a year. I spent about $1500 on the ring. Not because she wanted a ring like that, all of you that have met my wife would know better, its just that it was the ring I wanted for her. However, I didn't buy a huge rock. I bought a smaller diamond that was very high quality and was certified that high. It recently appraised for nearly 3x's what I paid for it. The cut, the clarity, the color...all nearly perfect. She has told me more then once that she appreciates the quality of her ring MUCH more then having had a larger diamond.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #20 October 20, 2006 QuoteThe cut, the clarity, the color...all nearly perfect. She has told me more then once that she appreciates the quality of her ring MUCH more then having had a larger diamond. Oh absolutely!!!! I'd rather have a tiny perfect diamond than a huge, cloudy, carbon filled piece of crap. Quality not quantity shows good taste! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #21 October 20, 2006 QuoteQuality not quantity good taste! It also shows a good jewler and not buying a ring from Zales or the mall or similar. A good jeweler will take the time to educate you on how diamonds are graded. He/she will also take the time to show you what you can afford in quality and quanity for your price range, minus $500 and plus $500. Also, a good jeweler won't try to pressure you into buying something that is beyond your reach or what you don't want. They know that once you buy and are taken care of, you'll be back for anniversaries, for Christmas, etc. I am luck to have Mark Futch, the same guy that makes the Single Helix closing pins, as my jeweler. That man has saved me for my engagement, my wedding rings and for a Christmas diamond neckless (which was a perfect gift last year, thank you Mark). He took the time to educate me and show me the difference in a mass produced piece of crap and a real diamond ring put together with skill and experience by a real jeweler.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #22 October 20, 2006 Oh, don't get me wrong. I'd LOVE to have some fancy/schmancy sparkly work of art. But it's still about the thought, not the cost. Hell, look at me. I'm wearing a rubber bracelet on my wrist that hasn't been off for 16 months and counting. Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #23 October 20, 2006 Quote Oh, don't get me wrong. I'd LOVE to have some fancy/schmancy sparkly work of art. I guess I'll have to PM Mike to let him know to buy the fancy holster.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #24 October 20, 2006 QuoteI guess I'll have to PM Mike to let him know to buy the fancy holster. LMAO!!! Don't you think I need to learn to use the gun before we worry about holsters? Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pia 0 #25 October 20, 2006 QuoteGive her a ring from a gumball machine at the proposal and then tell her that you want to shop with her so she can get exactly what she wants. I bet she'd save that gumball ring forever. Brilliant advice! We are also ring hunting. It's so nice to be able to pick out my own ring **Those who refuse to live and learn simply exist** Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites