some people should not have children

[moodyskydiver 0]

A few mins ago I was outside my apt having a cigarette.The local school bus dropped off the kids from the complex and went on its way.

As I sat there a little girl,probably 1st or 2nd grade was walking by me crying and looked very upset.I asked her as she was walking by what was wrong and if she was ok.She replied that her cousin,also one of the kids who'd just hopped off the bus, had been mean to her,calling her names and sticking out his tongue and such.I'd seen him walk past a few feet ahead,yelling and messing with all of the cars parked infront of the sidewalk we were on.

Well,I know that seems trivial to most but,having 5neices and 2 nephews ranging from age 2-13 I can understand some of the those troubled times kids go through as 'growing pains'.So for her at her age it could be a big thing to her and understandable for her to be crying.

I tried to tell her it would be ok and to ignore her cousin as she walked away.

Then she came up to her mother,who was standing out by the next apt building.Her mother yelled at her for "being a god damned baby" and for her to "shut the fuck up,you're nothing buy a whiney-ass cry baby and you cant stop people from sticking out their tounges or calling names,so just shut up and get your dumb ass in the house."

I dont have children nor do I want any,and I do understand its not my nor anyone else's place to tell someone how to raise their children,but WTF? There was no call to scream at this poor girl let alone be profane about it.You would think the boy causing said troubles would atleast be told to have some manners or apologize.But instead her own mother cusses at her and calls her even more names.

My heart just sank for that poor girl.

Some people just shouldnt have children.

"...just an earthbound misfit, I."

[freeflir29 0]

I know too many women that can't take care of themselves much less their children.

[littleskycrab 0]

unfortunately, i see that very treatment of children on a regular basis and i am embarrased to say that it is a member of my family. due to the lack of nurturing and tons of cussing and name calling, none of her 3 kids are doing worth a damn in school or home life for that matter. her oldest (17) is spoiled & disrespectful, not to mention lazy & conceited - however has managed to hang on to her virginity (verified by the Dr.). her middle child (15) has already been through a bout with meth, has had sex and smokes pot on a daily basis (and yes, her mother does know and figures "if that's the worst thing she does, then i can live with it") and is currently repeating the 6th grade (should be in 10th) for the 3rd time. her youngest and only boy (10) is a freaking nightmare!!! he swears, vandalizes, has failed kindergarden & 1st grade and is about to fail the 2nd grade (yes, he should be in 4th), he can't read because his mother won't cut her fun short to help him. there is so much more that i can't even begin to list the problems that i witness.

yes, i and other family members have said things to her about it, but the excuses that she spits out could drowned a person.

you're right, some people shouldn't be allowed to breed. but sadly they do. what shocks me more than her treatment of her children is the fact that her own parents witness this behavior and yet they remain silent. (all of these people live in the same house) they do nothing to try to help their grandchildren get a leg up in life, instead they enable, turn the blind eye & the deaf ear to all that they see & hear.

i, however, don't go around there to much anymore. i just can't see all of this and keep my mouth shut.
i have started some knock down, drag out fights with my family over the treatment of these 3 kids.......... it's just wrong, it's mental & emotional abuse. however, across the board, i'm told to mind my business, they're not my kids.

They're right, they aren't my kids. I would never disrespect or mistreat my children and therefore they are well behaved, smart, respectful and on their way to making a good life for themselves.

there are times as a mom that i don't feel like i'm doing a good job, however, when i think about them, i know i'm doing a great job. the difference in our children is as night is to day and black is to white. my kids are my air and without them i can't breathe. when they hurt, i hurt. when they are happy, i am happy. i wish she felt that way about her kids.

Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way. Say nothing and listen as heaven whispers, "Do you like it? I did it just for you."

[kbordson 8]

I spent some time with a friend of mine yesterday. While we were driving around, she was feeling out of sorts, stressed and asked me if I thought she was "normal." Like all of my friends... OF COURSE SHE'S NORMAL!!! Then the next question: "What's not normal?"

My answer to her....

I can't understand how people can have infants... children... amazing souls waiting for love and support ... and treat them poorly. That's not "normal." I can't understand how people can have hopes and desires (even something as simple as playing the guitar in "Stranger than Fiction") and not try to achieve them. That's not "normal." I don't know what turns someone spirit and future to a life of mundane daily movements. That's not "normal."

Unfortunately I had to tell her then... that the world has a lot of "not normal" people. But SHE was normal.

Maybe it's a glass half full sort of thing, but I just want to see the potential that everyone has.... and that means looking sadly on the situation you described.... feeling for the lil girl, not understanding it myself.... but hopeful that someday her mom will become "normal."

[SmilingPhoenix 0]

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I know too many women that can't take care of themselves much less their children.

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I can't understand how people can have hopes and desires (even something as simple as playing the guitar in "Stranger than Fiction") and not try to achieve them. That's not "normal." I don't know what turns someone spirit and future to a life of mundane daily movements. That's not "normal."

Unfortunately, that does sound pretty normal to me.

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Dave

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