kenz 0 #1 January 4, 2007 i apologize for this but i need to get it out... about a year ago i posted a thread on here about my very dear friend laura who was having a harsh battle with leukemia, and to make matters worse she was married to this guy that was more concerned about himself than her... well since then laura had moved from the east coast to seattle to have a stem cell transplant at the most prestigious center for transplants... she has been there ever since so they can monitor what they thought was good progress... she went into remission for about 3 months, and at routine check-up they discovered that not only did she have leukemia again, but this time it was a more aggressive kind... they had given her some type of experimental drug that was to last only 12 weeks... well week 12 has passed and the drugs did not take - she is desperate to find a stem cell donor - and her insurance will not cover another search 1)because she had one already and 2)because she took this other drug she had sent an email to all of her girlfriends late last night telling us all of this and it was titled "reinforcements" - she told us that her "days were numbered" and she was doing the best she could to find a way to get better - but essentially she was doing it alone... this is the part that REALLY gets to me... her husband (who is notoriously blunt and rude) is the ONLY person she knows out there besides some people she has met at the treatment center (who are either dying or dead)... he told her that he no longer loves her and that she is not the person he thought she was - and he was sick of being tied up in her medical "affairs" and essentially has convinced her that her cancer has ruined his career.. he won't hug her when she cries and offers her no support.. .she is stuck in seattle until the doctors can figure out what is going on with her - hopefully they can bring her back to the east coast - the email was asking any of us to go out and visit her, even if only for a day.. ugh that fucking KILLS me... i graduate on saturday and still have no job... i'm going to have to find a way to get there because i don't want her to be alone... but if i go and any of you are out that way and can meet up for coffee or something and maybe even be able to offer her an ear face to face every now and again i would be so forever indebted to you - she is the most wonderful, kindhearted loving friend anyone could ever ask for, and even in her illness would do anything for you... i can't stand that she is there alone - when she was here at least i was able to see her almost every day and now i'm lucky if i see her every few months... im just at a loss i guess... but please keep her in your thoughts and prayers and send good vibes towards her and her family because she needs it more now than ever sorry for the rant but thanks for letting me get it out!! i love you guys!"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #2 January 4, 2007 Hugs, girl. I hate that helpless feeling. Keeping your friend in my thoughts. Let me know if I can do anything. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ImGunnaJump 0 #3 January 4, 2007 This situation is astoundingly sad...this is yet another sad reminder in life that someone always has it worse than you do. Sent a prayer up for your friend and will keep her in my thoughts. Here's a hug for you too!"...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snowslider 0 #5 January 4, 2007 Hey Kenz, I really wish I was able to meet up with you in Seatlle and visit your friend, I'm sure just having some good people with you would help out alot. I bet even just getting your friend out for a movie or shopping for some new clothes would make her feel like a new woman. I don't have much but I can send you some money to help get you out to see her. Get ahold of me if you think this will help. Best Wishes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #6 January 4, 2007 to all that have responded here and sent PM's i really appreciate the thoughts... i'll be ok - shes the one that needs the most support right now..and thats what just hurts so bad... shes is seriously the most beautiful human being.. and she deserves so much better than this... i plan on getting out there - not sure how or when but i'll get there - i don't plan on us moping around - i've been able to get her to smile in her darkest times before - i just hope i can do it again- i just want her to feel like she is worth it because she so is... she is my hero and i just want her to be happy and healthy and free thanks so much for all of your support"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #7 January 4, 2007 Send me a Pm with her info. I'll make it out to her.~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shermanator 4 #8 January 5, 2007 this sounds like somehting a labatomy might solve.. or electrotheropy.. stick some electrodes to that guy and have some fun!!CLICK HERE! new blog posted 9/21/08 CSA #720 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karenmeal 0 #9 January 5, 2007 I'll go see her. How old is she? "Life is a temporary victory over the causes which induce death." - Sylvester Graham Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #10 January 5, 2007 Hey Kenz, I don't even want to waste time with my thoughts about her husband. My prayers are truly with her and you! Thanks for being such a good friend to her.Have hope, Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #11 January 5, 2007 I can't make it up there to see her, but if you post her hospital address (or PM), I'll send a card, and I'd bet a lot of other people would too. There's something nice about having your hospital room covered in cards from people who care. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #12 January 5, 2007 the outreach by all of you has just been so overwhelming... thank you so very much for all of your support... for those that asked - i sent you her information and those that offered vibes they were sent to her... i was able to book a flight out for next weekend with another one of our really close friends and am so very excited to see her... thank again to all of you - it means more than i could ever say - i will keep you posted as she continues to fight this battle!! thanks again!! ****much love and many hugs****"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenz 0 #13 January 9, 2007 for those of you that have reached out to laura - thank you - thank you so much - i cannot even begin to tell you how much it means to know there are genuine people out there that really care about others - and it really warms my heart to know you exist!!! just a brief update - i was really excited about the overwhelming outpouring you all have done for her and myself, so i decided to call her a couple of nights ago to give her a heads up on hearing from more strangers ....when she picked up the phone she was crying... i asked her if she was ok and she said she had a really shitty day and didnt feel like talking about it... not 5 seconds later she started crying more and said she had received a phonecall from her doctor and the news was not so good... she said shed be moving back to the east coast right after me and our other friend left...i was totally in shock with this and told her everything would be ok - i'd stay around the area for as long as she needed me to be there - i'd go every day if i had to so long as she knew she was not alone... she then stopped me and said it would be ok and not to worry because i wouldnt have to do anything like that for very long...ugh talk about heartbreak it is rather devistating to hear one of your best friends tell you she just got horrible news like that and not be able to be with her to hug her... though i am really glad that i will be out there this weekend it just sucked not being able to hold her.. please continue to keep her in your thoughts and prayers - and have positive vibes sent her way once again you all amaze me - thank you for your continuing support"life does throw curveballs sometimes but it doesn't mean we shouldn't still swing for the homerun" ~ me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #14 January 9, 2007 I'm sorry to say this, but somebody needs to beat the shit out of Laura's husband. I mean, what a dick... "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AFFI 0 #15 January 9, 2007 You sound like a great friend to have. Your friend is lucky to have you in her life... Will send prayers...Mykel AFF-I10 Skydiving Priorities: 1) Open Canopy. 2) Land Safely. 3) Don’t hurt anyone. 4) Repeat… Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
