Am I Being Stalked???

[JENNR8R 0]

I received the following from a "gentleman" who got my e-mail from a Christian internet site. He lives 2,500 miles away. In the last two months he has sent maybe two e-mails of a personal nature. Most e-mails were unoriginal "forwards" that I asked him to stop sending because I'd already seen most of them.

I have no idea how to respond, if at all. What would you say to him if you were me?

***Dear Jennifer

The stars filled the night with scintillate as far as my eyes could see, your smile twinkle through my mind, as I sat alone in the saddle thinking of you, the kisses I miss knowing that you are so far away, from a tender touch that lights up my world, with each star that twinkles, I see a glimmer of your smile through every gentle touch of my fingers, as I caress you ever so close to me, your eyes glitter with happiness, as I whisper of your beauty that sparkle before me, out where the stars are glowing, lies my thought of you, as I sit here in my saddle thinking of your warm kisses, are they radiate as the stars up above, that set's a spark to my heart with a gentle touch, my thoughts are on you, as I cling to my saddle wishing you were here, with you clinging to me while we sit on my horse, the stars up above draw a night of romance, drawing our lips closer together, with sweet embrace I cling tight, with only the thought of wanting more of you, a glance of a falling star, will bring a wish to come true, that the day will come when I'll be with you, just you and I, under a stary night that will bring romance into our lives...

E...

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[floridadiver81 0]

flattering yes..but from someone you barely have contact with....umm....scarey!

"Age has absolutely nothing to do with knowledge, learning, respect, attitude, or personality." -yardhippie
"Fight the air, and the air will kick your ass!!! "-Specialkaye

[NWFlyer 2]

Two words. Cree - py.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[JENNR8R 0]

I know... It kinda made me want to barf when I read it...

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[Gene03 0]

Maybe he is just tired of herding sheep?

“The only fool bigger than the person who knows it all is the person who argues with him.

Stanislaw Jerzy Lec quotes (Polish writer, poet and satirist 1906-1966)

[skydemon2 0]

Does cochese know about this, he may not take it lightly.....

Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone!

I like to start my day off with a little Ray of Soulshine™!!

[NWFlyer 2]

The other thing about it is that it's generic and non-specific enough that he could send it to every woman on that dating site in hopes that someone who reads way too many cheesy romance novels thinks it's charming.

"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke

[JENNR8R 0]

Yeah, I wondered how many other women received the same message.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[jumpjunkie2004 0]

Jennifer...Jennifer...Jennifer....

See what you get for being a good Christian?

Come over to the dark side with me : )

It's safer here!

Jump, Land, Pack, Repeat...

[Mayberry 0]

Gotta be the new haircut!

Don

Here's to friends!

[LisaM 0]

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The other thing about it is that it's generic and non-specific enough that he could send it to every woman on that dating site in hopes that someone who reads way too many cheesy romance novels thinks it's charming.

That's what I was thiniking. Copy and paste is a creep's friend.

~ Lisa
~ Do you Rigminder?

[Gene03 0]

I think it's called the shotgun approach.

“The only fool bigger than the person who knows it all is the person who argues with him.

Stanislaw Jerzy Lec quotes (Polish writer, poet and satirist 1906-1966)

[waltappel 1]

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Two words. Cree - py.

I am not!!! Wait a minute.... Uh, nevermind.

Walt

[skymama 37]

I wouldn't say anything at all. That's just way too creepy to respond to and give him that opening to keep writing to you. Block his address if you can.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Mayberry 0]

January is Stalker Awareness Month.

Don

Here's to friends!

[JENNR8R 0]

I should send him that article. Maybe he'd get a clue.

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

[Mayberry 0]

There's your answer!!

Don

Here's to friends!

[Squeak 17]

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I should send him that article. Maybe he'd get a clue.

donjt you send it. What's his email Addy. I'll send it to him..Fucke we can all (except you) send it to him

Email assault from tha Army of Darkness

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

[Jewels 0]

[DJL 235]

You might want to put a warning on the website to let others know about him.

"I encourage all awesome dangerous behavior." - Jeffro Fincher

[redwings 0]

Yikes. That's some freaky thing. Maybe report him to the site admin?

Oooh can I join the Army of Darkness, too? I'll be Death, since everyone at work already calls me that.

Why don't you just go to the police station in a red clown suit and let everybody know what we're doing here?

I have a phobia for moobs. Thanks, youknowwhoyouare.

[BIGUN 1,483]

Jenn,

Don't respond in any way.
Block his email address.
Move on.

Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard.

[JENNR8R 0]

Block his email address.

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I didn't know I could do that. I looked up how to do it, and I will no longer get any messages from him.

Thanks!

What do you call a beautiful, sunny day that comes after two cloudy, rainy
ones? -- Monday.

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[Squeak 17]

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Block his email address.

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I didn't know I could do that. I looked up how to do it, and I will no longer get any messages from him.

Thanks!

you sahould still post his email addy

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

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[staceyg 0]

Hi Jenn,

My first reaction was: eewwww!

Yes it's creepy, but it reads like a generic email that could have been sent to who knows how many women. There's nothing specific about you, or anything that could be interpreted as a threat (well, maybe that last sentence but that might be a stretch). I get stuff like this all the time on my MySpace page and just delete it.

My suggestion would be to reply to him and politely ask that he not contact you again. It's important that you do this politely (even if you're not feeling that way), because if he is a stalker type, or an abuser, or even borderline, any rudeness that he perceives coming from you might just enrage him enough to escalate things.

If he continues to email after you tell him to stop; then you may have a problem. Check the stalking laws in your state (most states have them) to find out what your options are, and in general just to educate yourself. Some good info:
www.antistalking.com
www.aware.org
www.stalkingbehavior.com
Cyberstalking:http://www.ncsl.org/programs/lis/CIP/stalk99.htm

Those are just a few of many good sites out there. I hope I'm not scaring you (not my intention at all), but as a victim of a (thankfully non-violent) stalker myself, it's a "hot button" issue for me. If you have any questions, just ask!

Peace,
Stacey