happythoughts 0 #1 February 12, 2007 So, there are three options. 1- You broke up with them. 2- They broke up with you. 3- Mutual discontent. What did we learn? If you broke up with them, you arrived at a point where their behavior was unacceptable. Did you figure out some warning flags so that you won't be in that situation again? (That makes the future better) If they broke up with you, do you know why? Are their reasons important to you? If it was mutual, why did it fade? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #2 February 12, 2007 I usually find your posts funny, but I don't get this one. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #3 February 12, 2007 This post implies most people are self-aware."There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #4 February 12, 2007 I am trying to save HH some bandwidth by dissolving the use for the Womens Forum. Once the relationship issues are gone, there will only be one post a month covering therapy and gyno issues. Crazy is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different outcome. Once dz dot com is done, I'm taking over Dr. Phils slot. Trust me, the world will be a better place when I am rich. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #5 February 12, 2007 QuoteThis post implies most people are self-aware. Everyone really is, it just isn't any fun. That is always the question, "Is it better to face a painful reality or to live in blissful denial?" Of course, all the tv shows with hotties in love with/married to dorky losers would be canceled. King of Queens and Friends wouldn't have run two shows. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #6 February 12, 2007 Hey, I was noticing at the gym today how many couples were working out together, and the woman was slim and trim and the guy had a pot belly and a bad haircut. And bad shorts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #7 February 12, 2007 QuoteHey, I was noticing at the gym today how many couples were working out together, and the woman was slim and trim and the guy had a pot belly and a bad haircut. And bad shorts. Apparently, bad shorts = short shorts in the yoga class. When doing those stretches, women learned more about me than they truly desired. All this time, I thought my package was an object of desire. At the gym, I see guys who are there long-term for their own interest. However, they lift weight, not do cardio, hence the bellys. A few who do short-term membership until life conflicts with a workout schedule. There is a few women who just dumped the ex and workout until a new one is captured, then gym time ends. Most of the long term female gym rats like the aerobic equipment (hence the slim look). The couple thing rarely lasts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sartre 0 #8 February 12, 2007 Well the couples I was seeing were not in their twenties by any means. I saw what I thought to be quite a few 40-ish hot women with men that had let themselves go once they put the wedding ring on. Of course, that's just my impression. But consider the source (me ). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #9 February 12, 2007 Yeah, there are two drivers for that. First, the guys hear the "you are 45 now" discussion from the doctor. That means - no ice cream, fight cholesterol, eat right, go to the gym unwillingly. All that stuff that no one does. It never works. Few bypass some wings and beer. Second, most women outlive men. They eat better and are more concerned. My dad is retired. At 70, the women outnumber the men about 6 to 1. Guys just don't put out the effort into the cardio area and stay porky. I've got a good tool, so I've built a shed over it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #10 February 12, 2007 QuoteGuys just don't put out the effort into the cardio area and stay porky.My dad stays very active and is nearly 70 years old... of course my mother isn't exactly inactive either.Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #11 February 12, 2007 QuoteWhat did we learn? That my gaydar is broke. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 9 #12 February 12, 2007 Quote So, there are three options. 1- You broke up with them. 2- They broke up with you. 3- Mutual discontent. answer: Letter #3 QuoteWhat did we learn? Answer: I'm only responsible for my own actions. Quote Did you figure out some warning flags so that you won't be in that situation again? Answer: I learned a lot about myself and what I want. You marry who you date...If you date type A - chances are that you'll spend your life with a type A. Look at a person's background - it offers a unique insight into their future. Look at a person's goals - they tell you what kind of person they want to become. Look at that person's personal habits - it tells you how bad they want those goals. Figure out what kind of person you want to be with, and then QUALIFY YOURSELF to be with that kind of person - that's what I'm working on right now - and so far i've already sacrificed jumping to attend rock & mineral shows (my friend's hobby) and it's a 20-step process. Oh yeah, and always have a reserve. I keep a journal of things I learn (usually the hard way) in dating experiences.=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #13 February 12, 2007 QuoteQuoteGuys just don't put out the effort into the cardio area and stay porky.My dad stays very active and is nearly 70 years old... of course my mother isn't exactly inactive either. My parents realized they were heading down a bad path health-wise, both were overweight and not very active. They started out about 15 or 20 years ago, walking in the neighborhood. Now, they walk together most days and go to the gym three times a week (they've been doing the gym thing for over 10 years now). Both are at healthy weights and looking mighty good for 68 and 70 years old. Oh, uh, and to bring it back on topic, my parents have been married for 42 years so I doubt either thinks much about their exes any more. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pinkfairy 0 #14 February 12, 2007 There's the door. Green light on. Have a quick check of airspace and spot. EXIT EXIT! What I learned? That I shouldn't waste my valuable time on this planet with someone who doesn't really care about me. And that I wasted too much time on that relationship, and that even though I'm not perfect, I deserve the best. "The best" as in what's best for me. Everyone do.Relax, you can die if you mess up, but it will probably not be by bullet. I'm a BIG, TOUGH BIGWAY FORMATION SKYDIVER! What are you? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
2fat2fly 0 #15 February 12, 2007 QuoteI saw what I thought to be quite a few 40-ish hot women In most cases, those hot women are our second wives. The trick is to trade upI am not the man. But the man knows my name...and he's worried Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
swedishcelt 0 #16 February 12, 2007 QuoteThis post implies most people are self-aware. It also implies that men communicate. Hmm. Maybe some do... however, they are probably the ones who are currently taken. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #17 February 13, 2007 QuoteQuoteThis post implies most people are self-aware. It also implies that men communicate. Hmm. Maybe some do... however, they are probably the ones who are currently taken. Sure. They already have boyfriends. If you want to talk about something that I care about, I am ready. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #18 February 13, 2007 QuoteQuoteI saw what I thought to be quite a few 40-ish hot women In most cases, those hot women are our second wives. The trick is to trade up Or the trick is to not marry until your mid 40's! Keeps ya from building a 'shed' when the tool is in constant use and open to public display! By 40.... Stupid games hold no allure, ya can by then easily tell a good one from a GREAT one! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waltappel 1 #19 February 13, 2007 QuoteOr the trick is to not marry until your mid 40's! Keeps ya from building a 'shed' when the tool is in constant use and open to public display! By 40.... Stupid games hold no allure, ya can by then easily tell a good one from a GREAT one! You damn sure did well but how did you get a great woman to even consider going out with you? I mean gee, you can shit in your roommate's GF's cat's litter box and women think it's really funny. I posted a couple of turd shots and they think I'm a freak! I just *know* there is some sort of trickery you use! Walt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #20 February 13, 2007 I just *know* there is some sort of trickery you use! Quote It's all about the CONTEXT! The catbox WAS funny, in that context...but as we all know, a picture is worth a thousand words... ...sometimes you just talk TOO MUCH! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites popsjumper 2 #21 February 13, 2007 I learned... Don't do THAT shit again! My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites sunshine 2 #22 February 13, 2007 Last bf left me to go back to his wife... ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites happythoughts 0 #23 February 13, 2007 QuoteLast bf left me to go back to his wife... Dayum! How pissed off do you have to be to do that. My ex once asked a buddy of mine, "Do you think that he wants to come back?" "Are you on crack or something?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kallend 2,150 #24 February 13, 2007 QuoteQuoteLast bf left me to go back to his wife... Dayum! How pissed off do you have to be to do that. My ex once asked a buddy of mine, "Do you think that he wants to come back?" "Are you on crack or something?" I'd been gone about two years before my ex finally realized that I really wanted out and wasn't coming back. She was in absolute denial that anyone could possibly leave her.... The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites airtwardo 7 #25 February 13, 2007 "Do you think that he wants to come back?" Quote A buddy's ex use to call me a lot whining the same thing... I told her that although he may, some time in the future....but he was saying that he wanted to give skinny smart girls a try for a while! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0 Go To Topic Listing
popsjumper 2 #21 February 13, 2007 I learned... Don't do THAT shit again! My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #22 February 13, 2007 Last bf left me to go back to his wife... ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #23 February 13, 2007 QuoteLast bf left me to go back to his wife... Dayum! How pissed off do you have to be to do that. My ex once asked a buddy of mine, "Do you think that he wants to come back?" "Are you on crack or something?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kallend 2,150 #24 February 13, 2007 QuoteQuoteLast bf left me to go back to his wife... Dayum! How pissed off do you have to be to do that. My ex once asked a buddy of mine, "Do you think that he wants to come back?" "Are you on crack or something?" I'd been gone about two years before my ex finally realized that I really wanted out and wasn't coming back. She was in absolute denial that anyone could possibly leave her.... The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #25 February 13, 2007 "Do you think that he wants to come back?" Quote A buddy's ex use to call me a lot whining the same thing... I told her that although he may, some time in the future....but he was saying that he wanted to give skinny smart girls a try for a while! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
