iluvtofly 0 #1 June 18, 2007 after a 5 year relationship that ended in divorce. It was simply a case of getting married too young and we both decided that divorce would be the best thing for both of us. So anyway...back to the topic. I've never been great at the whole dating thing. I think one of my major problems was low self-esteem. Fortunately after losing close to 30 pounds that problem is almost gone. Anyone got any tips for me???? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #2 June 18, 2007 I recently heard on here there's some dood in Cross Keys that's single.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
marks 0 #3 June 18, 2007 Quote I recently heard on here there's some dood in Cross Keys that's single.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #4 June 18, 2007 . . . and give yourself TIME! If it's a recent break-up, you need recovery time before launching into the dating world again. It's not fair to you or the new person you might be dating to dive into a big relationship right on the heels of your divorce. That's a good way to end up feeling very confused (not to mention angry, depressed, resentful, and a whole host of other negative emotions).TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #5 June 18, 2007 Twelve days ago, you wrote: QuoteAnd we've both decided that we aren't going to do anything rash (like divorce) until he's home for good and has been home for a while. Cause quite frankly 2 weeks is not a long enough time together to make a decision like that. Two days ago, you wrote: QuoteWell, him and I have been discussing things alot lately and decided that we're going to get a divorce. . . . Thank you to everyone for their advice. I'm glad that I told him everything now rather than drag it out for a while. He's also glad that I told him. Neither of us wanted to be in a relationship that was a lie. We both agreed that we rushed into things. And today you're asking for dating advice? I'd revisit the part that I bolded above and see if you're again rushing into things. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wrightskyguy 1 #6 June 18, 2007 I think most would agree that the best dating tip is to put out right away and with as many different partners as possible. This will make you popular and a sought after escort. I hope this helps. John Wright World's most beloved skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gawain 0 #7 June 18, 2007 What he said.So I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #8 June 18, 2007 QuoteAnd today you're asking for dating advice? Yeah, that struck me as a bit odd too. Of course my best dating advice is to not broadcast such personal stuff on the internet... ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #9 June 19, 2007 Take some time off to "find" yourself and don't date anyone. I know there will be some immature guy who will find a way to make a joke about that, but I'm really quite serious. It will be the best thing you ever do for yourself.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindercles 0 #10 June 19, 2007 Thanks Captain Cockblock. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
iluvtofly 0 #11 June 19, 2007 Well I thought that we were going to wait on the divorce decision and discuss it much more then we did but he's made up his mind already and refuses to change it. I personally think that we did rush into marriage and are rushing into divorce. But at the same time I am happy with the decision to get the divorce. We are both much happier since he made the decision. It's a very confusing situation and I'm in it so I don't expect anyone not directly involved in it to understand exactly what is going on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skysprite 0 #12 June 19, 2007 Quote Well I thought that we were going to wait on the divorce decision and discuss it much more then we did but he's made up his mind already and refuses to change it. I personally think that we did rush into marriage and are rushing into divorce. But at the same time I am happy with the decision to get the divorce. We are both much happier since he made the decision. It's a very confusing situation and I'm in it so I don't expect anyone not directly involved in it to understand exactly what is going on. I'm certainly not trying to pick on you, but wanted to echo what others have said and say that this hardly sounds like a good time to start dating again. Give yourself some time. ~skysprite Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #13 June 19, 2007 you need to be banned....you simply do not expect us to take you seriously in the BONFIRE do you? surely that sort of behavior cannot be tolerated! I take it as a personal attack as one of the never serious in the bonfire kids...come on...somebody has to have the cojones....like a previous poster...she needs to put out ASAP, preferebly at her local DZ this coming weekend. divorce ... schmivorce...pishah Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #14 June 19, 2007 Quote Quote Well I thought that we were going to wait on the divorce decision and discuss it much more then we did but he's made up his mind already and refuses to change it. I personally think that we did rush into marriage and are rushing into divorce. But at the same time I am happy with the decision to get the divorce. We are both much happier since he made the decision. It's a very confusing situation and I'm in it so I don't expect anyone not directly involved in it to understand exactly what is going on. I'm certainly not trying to pick on you, but wanted to echo what others have said and say that this hardly sounds like a good time to start dating again. Give yourself some time. While I agree with everyone that you should not get involved with anyone right away, since it won't be fair to anyone involved......A little meaningless sex never hurt anyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #15 June 19, 2007 Quote I know there will be some immature guy who will find a way to make a joke about that Just my luck, nothing comes to mind. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildcard451 0 #16 June 19, 2007 Quote Quote I know there will be some immature guy who will find a way to make a joke about that Just my luck, nothing comes to mind. I'm sure one of us can step up and take over for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 1 #17 June 19, 2007 Quote Take some time off to "find" yourself and don't date anyone. I know there will be some immature guy who will find a way to make a joke about that, but I'm really quite serious. It will be the best thing you ever do for yourself. I'm immature enough. I love taking time off to "find myself"Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #18 June 19, 2007 Would it be totally inappropriate for me to tell you to go have some really awesome sex? Cause that's what I'd do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrabGrass 0 #19 June 19, 2007 Quote We are both much happier since he made the decision. Quote He made the decision? You were posting about dumping him last week in the women's forum! Take a little time, maybe get some professional help with ALL your issues. Yes you are rushing things. Oh, you DO know he can read all this too right?! Bet he'd love to see how quick you kick him to the curb. ~ "Pack Fast, Pull Low... and Date Your Riggers WIFE!" ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sharimcm 0 #20 June 19, 2007 Not saying that I have experience with this, but I heard once the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. Probably not the best advice, but then again, this is the Bonfire. "I had a dude tip his black cowboy hat to me after I provided him with a condom outside my hotel room at 3-something in the morning." -myself Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #21 June 19, 2007 Quote Quote Take some time off to "find" yourself and don't date anyone. I know there will be some immature guy who will find a way to make a joke about that, but I'm really quite serious. It will be the best thing you ever do for yourself. I'm immature enough. I love taking time off to "find myself" Skymama can do that time off thing, FOR ya! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #22 June 19, 2007 Quote Well I thought that we were going to wait on the divorce decision and discuss it much more then we did but he's made up his mind already and refuses to change it. I personally think that we did rush into marriage and are rushing into divorce. But at the same time I am happy with the decision to get the divorce. We are both much happier since he made the decision. It's a very confusing situation and I'm in it so I don't expect anyone not directly involved in it to understand exactly what is going on. Deciding to get a divorce and actually being divorced are not the same thing. But I come from that weird moral ground where you should actually finish one relationship before you begin another. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrabGrass 0 #23 June 19, 2007 Quote should actually finish one relationship before you begin another. Quote What a concept, wish you could have given my Ex that advise! ~ "Pack Fast, Pull Low... and Date Your Riggers WIFE!" ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #24 June 19, 2007 She probably wouldnt have listened. But at least she didn't constantly expose her personal life to a website full of people in a community she's trying to fit in to. (was that sublte enough?) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
1969912 0 #25 June 19, 2007 Had to delete two posts after reading more background on your situation. Hope you didn't bring any kids into the world. Does the word "vows" mean anything to you. Re: Dating. There's lots of guys that will gladly pass you around. Enjoy! "Once we got to the point where twenty/something's needed a place on the corner that changed the oil in their cars we were doomed . . ." -NickDG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
